hello again...its me...update and question at end about small babies

OK sorry to laught but your description of your brother made me LITERALLY LOL!

Me too....I literally spit ou****er! too funny!

Hi Kathy! You know in this day and age I feel like technology is becoming more and more a pain in the ass then ever. When my older brothers were born they did not do these test or u/s, never stressed mothers like this, and I think there were more healthy babies. Now everything turns into a concern and are causing expectant parents to just go bonkers...baby is too small, baby is too chuncky, baby has a hole in their heart (now I find out most will just the majority close), babys measurements are off. And I feel like they want to induce for every freaking thing...just so annoying. My doctor, she is lovely and she is trying to reassure me..shes the one who talked me out of an amnio as the odds are still in my favor and she told me the possibilty is shes just going to be a tiny baby and to ask my mom how small I was (but I was chuncky even for a 7 monther)...but not to worry just try and increase my calories with Ensure and see what happens The asshole is the u/s specialist, he has terrible bedside manner skills and everytime after an u/s I am sad and annoyed and have a new fear...but supposedly he is one of the best technicians where I live and is very good at detecting trace issues others would miss. He stressed me about an amnio when they found a soft marker, stresed me even more when they found the holes in her heart, and has added another layer of stress now because of her weight (oh and hes trying to link this too to the fact that it could be a trisomy issue like ds). I think in the end he is bitter and pissed because even though he highly recommended the amnio I refused it and he feels burned cause he has such a high reputation and even bigger ego apparently.

BTW your brother comment was hailarious and I needed that laugh.

UGH! Sounds like the U/S Specialist wishes he was a doctor. Reminds me of most PA's I have met. And he gave you his opinion and you just decided against it. He might be the best at what he does but he needs to learn more bedside manners.

And for everyone... my brother was long and skinny. I am not exagerating with that description.

You are so right in the statement that God does not give us more than we can handle.  I know sometimes I think I am going to crack and I wonder what sins I am paying for...LOL  But in the end, it always works out.  I am not TTC anymore...we finally decided 8 is enough, but I still hang out here...cuz I love all the women on this board and having had 8 kids, I feel I do have a lot of knowledge to offer.  Now, I don't know if you know my story, but I was unable to STOP losing weight and last January (2009) had revision to put part of my intestines back in play to try to stop the weight loss.  Over memorial day weekend I was down to 82 pounds...they put in a PICC line and put me on TPN to make me gain weight.  Well, I have been successful in gaining weight, as I am now weighing around 109 pounds.  I have just recently gained 5 pounds, and I swear it is because I am drinking 2 regular (not diet) sodas a day.  You will need to be careful of the sugar issue if you dump really easily, but I highly recommend the soda route.  I believe it has made me much more hungry after drinking the soda as well.  So, you are not only getting the extra calories from the soda, but also benefiting from the increase in appetite.  Also, carbonation tends to help nausea...so this might help your nausea as well.  I absolutely do not have all the answers, but just a suggestion for you to try.  I did not realize you were having so many "issues"...I will definitely keep you and your sweet girl in my prayers...I am sure she will be perfect :)

If you need anything at all, please feel free to message me.  I have dealt with about every complication you could have during pregnancy...from placenta previa to premature birth at 31 weeks due to being induced because of HELLP syndrome...so I would be happy to try and help you in any way you need :)

Hugs,

Laura 

Thank you so much Laura!

You know its funny when I had the surgery I was saying I would probably never get down past 170.My surgeon laughed at me and said I would def go lower and I would probably have to start a rigorous maintence meal plan earlier than some as I drop weight fast and easy. I am sure if I wasnt pregnant I would be in the 140s by now. But now here I am 29 weeks pregnant and 165 lbs (my surgeons goal for me) and eating every fattening thing in the book and I cannot stop. I am sure I am eating upwards of 1800 calories a day with like a 5-6 oz pouch and I am just starting to hold steady...mathmatically that is a lot of high caloried foods in one day.

I am going to try the soda route also has I am getting very desperate. Have you found any kinds or brands work better than others (please dont say a dark soda as i generally dislike them as they make my teeth feel gritty). And a quick question, I have heard before that soda can leech calcium, is that true? If it is I am still going to try it, just up my calcium.

Thanks for the prayers. I have really been having quite my fair share of "issues" this pregnancy and they are really starting to take a toll on me. I'm starting to think they might be the cause of my consistant queezyness as I dont handle excessive amounts of stress well. I just keep thinking to take things one day at a time and in less than 2 months I will have my bundle of joy and all worries will come to an end...either through validation or joy of the opposite. Besides all I can do is put it in Gods hands and wait cause even with results there are no ways to change them.

 Well, my favorite as far as soda is Mt. Dew.  I used to drink all diet coke and diet mt. dew, then out of a fluke I switched to regular Mt Dew because we were out of all diet sodas in the house and kaboom...here I am gaining weight.  I definitely eat anywhere from 2000 to 2500 calories a day..it is just insane.  I eat everything you are not supposed to and break every rule we were taught during the losing phase...it is insane.  I am still nervous that someday I will regret eating so poorly, but at this point, it is the only thing that keeps me out of the hospital and off of TPN dragging an IV bag around for 16 hours a day.  

I dunno if all of your problems will disappear when baby gets here...lol...but at least you will know what it is you are dealing with.  THAT is where I am horrible, is the waiting to find out what is really going on...and 9 times out of 10...it is NOTHING!!!  and they have scared the snot out of you for nothing...it is maddening.  Anyway, again...if you need anything...I'm just a msg away :)

Take Care!

Laura

I will def have to pick up some soda whenever I can get out...not today, weve gotten over 8 inches of snow out here. I hope you can keep your weight up and all will rectify itself.

I know when shes born I will have an entire new set of worries but I am soooo ready for these to come to past. I sure hope I am in the lucky 9 out of 10 and she will be absoluetly perfect health wise. Then I can be mad at everyone who worried me lol.

And thank you! I will keep that in mind.

Thoughts and prayers heading out for you and your baby. I am sure that all will be OK. I had posted about a month ago that my baby was measuring big and I was worried. I was reminded that this is just an ESTIMATE! They can be off over a pound! SO if she is really a pound bigger then they think she is perfect!

Try to focus on teh good news (impossible I know!) and relax.

I'm with the PP - make high calorie protein shakes with whole/2% milk, peanut butter, ice cream, whatever you can tolerate to get it in!

Thanks Liz. That is what I am hoping, that the estimate is a little off. But from what I am reading the weight of her is not off by much....they measured her at about 2.5lbs and babycenter says she should average close to 3lbs now...so not a huge amount. I am hoping she has a growth spurt.

I have tried the shakes and dont tolerate them well. I am not much of a dairy drinker and not too much of a sweet person...never was (my problem was portion sizes). So this is making an even bigger problem. Thankfully I dont dump so I can force feed myself Ensure, whcich although taste like milk doesnt taste sweet...and jeeze the stuff has like for 10 oz 60 carbs in it...almost an entire days worth for us and like 400 calories) and my OB wants me to drink 2 daily. I think I have to work my way up to that though cause it wount benefit if it makes me sick.