OMFG WHY ME!!!

So I went to the ER with really horrible stomach pains. The ER doc felt my tummy and said I think I feel a hernia.....sent me to get an xray and what they found was not a hernia but a BABY!! Yes a baby.....Did a sono and come to find out I am 24 weeks and a day pregnant as of Jan 15th. I have been pregnant for 6 months. My surgery was May 14th 09 and that means I have been pregnant for almost as long as I have had my surgery :(. I have had no weight gain and I don't even look pregnant or do I? I can't believe this and I am not excited I know that sounds awful but it is the truth. I was done having babies and now here I am fixing to have another one in 16weeks.

wow! Well congrats on the baby - I know it's unexpected, but I am sure that once the shock wears off you'll be happy. Hang in there! If you aren't eating carbs - add some in!

I am going to be as positive for you as I can, I would give both my arms and probably a leg to be safely 24 weeks pregnant....

Just realize how lucky you are this is going to be a blessing, and once the shock of finding out wears of, you should be happy, you are blessed....

Honestly you should feel blessed. I understand that you are in shock and this isn't what you wanted... however with surgery, your chances of becoming pregnant greatly increase and many times you need two forms of Birth Control.

Many women on this board have been trying for years, months, weeks... and would give anything to be in your shoes...

If you really want to be done having babies I would consider looking at many different options after this miracle arrives.

Please start taking folic acid, a prenatal, b12, and have a full blood panel down. Also call your surgeon and your OB.

Good Luck.

I understand that I should be happy but the truth is I am not and I can't help that. I have tried to be happy and it is not what I feel so I came here for support. Yall I came here cause I am scared to death of being pregnant. My first two times were horrible. I was high risk and every bad thing that could happen did. Now Here I am 6mo and I have not gained one pound not one in fact I am still losing down to 153 I have not adjusted my signature or health tracker but this morning I was 151. How is this baby going to be ok if I cant gain weight? I called my surgeon and he said that everything I eat witch is about 900 cal per day will go to the baby and what I can not give the baby through food it will take from my body IE this is going to be hard on my body. I have a 8 year old and a 5 year old who are both excited enough for me and my husband. Oh and guess what my husband is deployed in Afghanistan right now and will not be back in time for this birth. I am so depressed it is hard to even make it out of bed. Everybody expects you to be so happy but I am not it is not good and I think I am getting worse day by day. I have been on depo for 3 year never missed a shot how why what am I going to do?!

Jewels

Oh and another thing people look at me like I am crazy when I say I just found out and I was already 6mo I mean how was I to know I didn't feel or look pregnant or at least I don't think I look 6mo for sure. I am also scared that I will get fat again I know that should be my last worry but it does worry me :(

I'm currently 27 weeks pregnant and haven't gained a pound.I have actually lost over 20lbs. My ob is not concerned. He stated the fact that the baby will take everything she needs. This is why I said you really need to up your vitamins.

I understand being scared and being highrisk... but the more you worry the worse your depression is going to get. You may want to talk with your doctor about the depression.

Everything happens for a reason.

Honestly, you have a right to your feelings whatever they are. I support that you need to vent your frustration just like those of us who have tried for years and years to be in your shoes unsuccessfully. I think that maybe what you will hear alot of is people who wish they had your problem, so don't be too hard on them. I believe you are not happy but you have to deal with this in the state of from now on. How you feel about the baby at this time is due to shock and frustrations, what you do here on out is going to affect you and baby. Try to look at it as an unexpected new journey. Your weight will only get as bad as you let it. Our tools work wonderfully when you go back to eating right/exercise...best wishes!

You know, I heard somebody say once that babies are the perfect parasite: they take exactly what they need from your body.  If you have a baby in you, it's probably TAKING what it needs first.  Perfect parasite, I tells ya!

What if the baby is perfectly healthy and fine?  Are you still apprehensive about having another child?

You do have options.  You could give the baby up for adoption.  That is a perfectly acceptable option.  Nobody has a right to tell you what to do with your baby.  You don't have to be happy or thankful.  Just feel whatever you're feeling.

Do you want to keep this baby?  The health things can be worked out.  Having a child that you don't want is a bigger problem, in my opinion.

You feel how you feel.  The shock must be tremendous.  No it's not what you expected or planned, nor is it something you want, but it is what it is and you are too far along to change it.  You can continue down this road, hating the fact that you are pregnant (but it may hurt you and the baby emotionally, mentally, and physically) or somehow start to wrap your head and heart around the fact, working on changing how you think and feel (hard but it can be done) and find out everything you can to keep you and the baby healthy in every way, find every support system that will help you now and after you have the baby--friends, family, counselors, medical doctors, military assistance, etc.

I don't know anything about you so I could be way off base, but if you were really overweight when you were pregnant the first two times perhaps that was cause for high risk pregnancy and/or complications.  Perhaps the fact that you lost so much weight  (congratulations) will make it an easier pregnancy than before (perhaps it already is since you are 24 weeks and didn't know it).

Women can and do have healthy babies, even if they become pregnant right after surgery.  My WL surgeon's office as a vitamin/calorie/blood work protocol for pregnancy that my OB follows.

I just want to wish you well.

Wow..I can imagine how you are feeling.  Yes...babies are definitely a blessing no matter what.  However, I know the shock and cir****tances are probably overwhelming for you.  At this point, you are 24 weeks, so just try to focus on doing what you need to do to keep you and the baby healthy.  You were probably high risk before because you were probably alot heavier.  Hopefully, you won't have those same issues this time around. 

Just remind yourself...that you CAN do this and it will all work out.  Hopefully, you have some supportive people around you.

Take care!