Got My Results fom my U/S
I am so sorry for your loss. You did nothing wrong. It is so hard when we have a miscarriage to not blame ourselves but you need to understand there was something that made it happen. Take the time you need to heal. We are all here for you! We are here to let you vent, cry, or just be a shoulder when you need it!
My thoughts and prayers are with you!
Traci
I am very sorry for your loss. Having been there myself numerous times, I know how one part of your brain is blaming yourself, even though the other part knows it's not true. Keep listening to the correct part - that this is not your fault.
Knowing your age and your history...I'd talk to your dr and ask if they will start testing you NOW rather than wait for you to get pg again. I know that most drs insist on waiting until after three mcs...but I'd insist they start testing now just to make sure there's no additional medical reason this is happening. The following is just my own opinion - but since you know your mc has just started, ask if they can do genetic testing if you're able to catch the miscarried baby. At about 7-8 weeks along, you should be able to notice it. Alternatively, I know they can do a D&C where they would very likely be able to do the tests. I tried this 2x w/my mcs, and was only told later that Indonesia does not have the ability to do genetic testing...so even when the labs were provided with the tissues and requested to do the tests, they only confirmed that yes, it was the 'products of conception.' I suggest this simply so that maybe it'll point the drs to whether it is truly something wrong with the baby developing or something else medically wrong that can be fixed. After four miscarriages myself - at my own insistence that they at least check, after reading online that it could be the problem - they finally determined that my uterine lining isn't thick enough (I'll be 42 in March) to sustain a pregnancy, and they believe that is the cause for at least some of my mcs.
Please feel free to pm me if there's something I can answer for you or anything I can help you with.
Again...I am very sorry this happened...God knows I wouldn't wi**** on anyone...but you are not a failure.
[[HUGS]]
Knowing your age and your history...I'd talk to your dr and ask if they will start testing you NOW rather than wait for you to get pg again. I know that most drs insist on waiting until after three mcs...but I'd insist they start testing now just to make sure there's no additional medical reason this is happening. The following is just my own opinion - but since you know your mc has just started, ask if they can do genetic testing if you're able to catch the miscarried baby. At about 7-8 weeks along, you should be able to notice it. Alternatively, I know they can do a D&C where they would very likely be able to do the tests. I tried this 2x w/my mcs, and was only told later that Indonesia does not have the ability to do genetic testing...so even when the labs were provided with the tissues and requested to do the tests, they only confirmed that yes, it was the 'products of conception.' I suggest this simply so that maybe it'll point the drs to whether it is truly something wrong with the baby developing or something else medically wrong that can be fixed. After four miscarriages myself - at my own insistence that they at least check, after reading online that it could be the problem - they finally determined that my uterine lining isn't thick enough (I'll be 42 in March) to sustain a pregnancy, and they believe that is the cause for at least some of my mcs.
Please feel free to pm me if there's something I can answer for you or anything I can help you with.
Again...I am very sorry this happened...God knows I wouldn't wi**** on anyone...but you are not a failure.
[[HUGS]]
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