Does the worry ever go away?

I don't think it goes away...at least it hasn't for me.  It does lessen with each milestone, though. 

My miscarriage was the kind where I had no symptoms at all and went for a dating ultrasound expecting to see a heartbeat and instead was told that I had miscarried.  That was completely traumatizing and I was terrified of it happening again.  I can't even describe the relief I felt the first time I saw that little flicker on the screen.  I relaxed a little more with each subsequent ultrasound.

Once I was far enough along, I bought an AngelSounds doppler (only $30!) and was able to find her heartbeat consistently which also helped.  Since about 20 weeks, I've been able to feel her moving which is really the best reassurance but even with that, if I haven't felt her for a few hours, I worry a little even though I know that's completely normal at this stage.

I think I wrote this same post in my first trimester!  Hang in there!  It will get better.

That is hard Sarah. I went in for the first one saw a heartbeat. Then, did a follow-up two weeks later and I could tell something was wrong when he was doing the ultrasound. Then, he said the baby had died within the last 24 hours. I was shocked because I had been over the moon and told people.

Now, we are keeping it on the down low.

Traci

I don't think that I took 1 breath the day of the first ultrasound until I saw the heartbeat. Now at 20 weeks today I was still nervous when we went in even though the baby was moving all over today.

I'm not good at this not having control thing! lol Good luck, thoughts and prayers headed your way! Can't wait to hear all about it on friday

Liz

I will breath when I get to the second trimester. Then, I will start worry about other things until the baby is born. Then, I will worry about something else I am sure :)

I don't think the worry ever stops. I am a serious worrier when I'm pregnant. I am also an overprotective mother cause I worry . I worry over every little symptom and then if I'm not having symptoms, I worry that I'm not having any. I think it's nomral, just maybe some of us worry more than others depending on our personality or our past history. I hope everything goes great for you this time.

Thanks,
Traci

sweetie i hope that everything works out well for you. i experienced a loss when i was younger that thiis day no one but myself, hubby (BF at the time), and the doc know about. Though i wasnt trying to get pregnant at the time the experience was very tramatizing.  i felt like i was being punished for anything in my life i had ever done wrong. it was a bad lonley place for me. Years later after we were married i had such a hard time trying to conceive (took over 2 years) i was a nervous wreck my whole pregnancy. worried before every doctors visit, worried if i didnt think the baby moved enough. After he was born it took forever for me to put him to sleep in another room. I would wake up at night and put my hand on his tummy just to make sure he was breathing (sounds disturbing but true) the good thing is it slowly felt better. I am no longer the super overprotective mama. and this pregnancy was a suprise blessing, and this time around i will admit i have a little bit of nerves but nothing near like the last time. fingers crossed for friday for you. you will be in my hopes and prayers :) best wishes for a happy and healthy (and not too stressfull) pregnancy!

Hi Traci,

No I don't think the worry ever goes away. I am 11 weeks tomorrow and I go for my first U/S this Friday, unfortunately I have been told by the clinic that because this U/S was ordered to check for twins (clomid pregnancy) that I will be told absolutely nothing, won't be able to see the screen, know if there is a HB or not and the worst is that Hubby is not allowed to come in with me.  I hadmy 2nd prenatal appt. on the 29th and I was 9w6days and he never (the dr) even used the doppler to check for a HB.  I am so disappointed!!! Then I have to wait 2 business days to get the results from the dr who is in the same building, grrrr, well make that 4 days as I can't find out until Tuesday because of the weekend. I don't have very many symptoms, no MS, occasional nausea (after I eat), boobies were really sore in the last few weeks, but for about a week now they vary, sometimes very sore and other times hardly at all (trust me I hit them, not hard, but I nudge them to see if they are still sensitive).  I believe if they are sensitive to some degree I am ok, when I miscarried last may that was the first symptom to vanish.  I have had no spotting what so ever (praying it stays that way), and I feel a bump under my panni (a large panni) when I pull up the skin and flab, that was never there before, just above my pelvic bone.  We want to tell people and family so bad, but want to wait to make sure it is a for sure thing this time.  The suspense is killing us and we hate lying when we are asked how the baby making is going.  I am going to do my best to plead with the tech on Friday to tell me something, maybe I could just break out into tears and send them on a guilt trip...LOL probably won't work though, but it is worth a try to get something, anything...LOL

Good luck with everything

Nope, you're right - the worry never goes away.  It does change though.

After the first trimester it gets better.  After you feel the baby move it gets better.  After you have your growth scan it gets better.  After you hit 24 weeks (viability) it gets better.  After you hit 38 weeks it gets better. 

Then when you go into labor the worry starts up bad again.  Will there be a problem during birth?  Oxygen cut off to the baby?  Brain Bleeds?  Problems eating? 

Then it gets better until you go home from the hospital.  Then it gets better at 3 months.  Then better at 4 months.  It's better at 6 months too....although I still worry about SIDs.  I worry about H1N1 and the flu.  I worry about pediatric cancers and Autism.....*sigh*

No use worrying.  Do the best you can with your health and eating and exercising and let nature take its course.  Worrying does no good - if something bad is going to happen worrying doesn't fix it. 

It's the joy of being a mommy. 

Take Care!

Cindy

Hi Traci,

I so get what you are asking! I have had 2 m/c's both before 6 weeks. Even now that I have seen the heartbeat, I know I am not "out of the woods". I try really hard not to worry about it because stress is really hard on the baby, but it's hard not to. I am glad I have made it this far and have high hopes that this is my little one that will stay with me, but it's so hard not to worry. I really think I'll feel a little better when I his my 2nd trimester. But 1/25 seems like SUCH a long way away! I know that's silly, but it does seem like like a long time. I have an appointment tomorrow. Hopefully we'll be able to hear the heartbeat. I know sometimes they can't this early so, if they try and can't find it, I think I'll be really nervous.

Tina