How did you know it was the right time?

to start trying for your family? We keep planning, and looking into all that we think we need to know before diving into the baby making. We really want to have a family, but also know that we have the rest of our lifes too. It's just hard becuase we want babies but want to make sure that we can provied our children a good life. How long do you wait? What were some of the things that helped your decide to start your family?Thank you for all of your thoughts.
 

I was told this and have told it to many others: There is always going to be something. There will always be a bill to payoff, a job to change, I car to replace, a house to buy, and a repair to make. If you wait for the perfect time you will never have a child, because there is never a perfect time.  I was also told  that a child does not fix a relationship, make sure your relationship is stable and strong so you can fold your new baby into it.

Anyway I know they may sound cliche but I truly believe in both of these saying.

Good Luck,
Emily

I wish I could offer advice but I was ready the day I got my BFP.
As the PP said - there is never a right time.

But good luck when you do decide the time is right. Motherhood is the absolute best job in the world.

if you wait for the right time... it will never happen... you can spend your whole life waiting and that one moment may never come

with my first baby, I knew I wanted at least one and hubby and I had been married for almost two years.  With my second, I knew I wanted more than one child and so we started trying again.  With this one, I just got a "mommy feeling" that I knew a little boy was waiting to come to our family when my 2nd baby was just 6 wks old.  I told hubby that we were done cuz we had a boy and then a girl, but then I had this feeling come to me about another child.   I knew that God was trying to tell me something and it was a pretty spiritual experience.   And when I found out he was a boy a few weeks ago, I got the chills all over and knew it was meant to be!  

Having a baby is the most wonderful thing in the world and you can never fully prepare yourself for it.   And you just try to do the best you can to provide a good life for him or her and have as many as you think you can handle or what God will bless you with- whatever you feel is right for you.

When my husband and I got married we agreed that we would start trying after being married two years.   About 3 or 4 months before that time frame I freaked out and was like no way am I ready.  Then about a month later I got to hold the sweetest little newborn girl (his niece).   That was all it took.   I got baby fever BAD!   That was December 28Th, 06.  I had my IUD taken out Feb 12, 07. Got pregnant in June (3 months after our 2ND anniversary) and gave birth to my own sweet little girl Feb 13, 08.   

With our second child we had planned on waiting until after Hannah's 2ND B-day before TTC.  That plan didn't work out.   This baby is DUE one day before her 2ND B-day lol.

Good luck in deciding when the time is right.  There will always be a reason not to have a baby. 

Amy

Everyone is different but I agree that "the right time" will never come if you keep waiting for that "perfect" time.

I always knew i wanted a BIG family and I knew I wanted to be as done as possible before I turned 35.  I turn 35 a month after I have this one and this will be our last baby at baby #8.

We purposefully got pregnant before we got married. We were engaged but started ASAP.

I didn't want ot be one of those who did wait until they were over 30 to start a family only to find out that they have fertility issues and then try in vain for years to get pregnant without success. I feel bad for those women because they perhaps tried waiting for that "perfect time" and it probably passed them in their 20's. :(

Still everyone is different. For me I just knew I wanted a large family and I knew I wanted them close togther and wanted to be done before 35. So far so good. If I happen to miscarry we will try again as we do want 8 kids.

Thank You for everyone's beautiful stories! I appreciate you taking the time to share them with me, I kind of have more of an understanding on how I am feeling now. Thanks again!

At 21ish, you have plenty of time!!!  Do all the things you need to do, finish your education, travel.  Enjoy your life, your new body, and life.

Best,
Leila