very upset

i know that i maybe emotional. however i am so sad/scared/angry that i am going to gain weight. i know that i must stay on top of things but i'm so afraid that i will gain weight back. To me that is one of the worst things that could ever happen to me! i keep crying and crying and crying when i think about it! i can not go back to living life fat. i dont ever want to be close to that person. i am panicking about it and then i feel bad for putting to much stress on the baby! i'm barely pregnant and i will definetly talk to my obgyn about it. i just dont know how to deal with these emotions....has anyone gone through this? how did you gain perspective? what did you do?

The vast majority of us here, no matter what we gained were able to lose all if not more of the pregnancy weight. I weighed less then pre pregnancy within days of delivery. I did gain about a pound a month breastfeeding though.

Pregnancy is a time where we HAVE to put the baby ahead of our own needs. It is very important that you eat healthy and try to keep as much stress out of your life. If you are an average weight, gaining 25-30 pounds is normal and it will come right back off. If you are still overweight 20 pounds is about average.

The good news is that you don't pile on the weight all at once. If you do have a big gain one month you might want to cut back on your sodium as it is usually due to water retention. You won't be gaining 30 pounds of fat, it will be baby, breast tissue, placenta, water, not fat.

Hi there ... Let me also say that you are not alone in this fear. More than "normal" women, we tend to obsess about the weight gain because we fought so hard to change out lives and become healthy. I totally agree with what Jennifer said - she's good people. When I became pregnant 4 years post RNY, I weighed 160 lbs (I was 260 before surgery and 130 was my lowest - and unhealthy weight. )... Now, my baby girl is four and a half months and I weigh 154. I gained 23 lbs during my pregnancy. I think the key is to continue living a healthy life style - exercise (not to the point of being tired ... I LOVED walking!), make good choices about food intake while adding carbs back in, and drink lots of water! Good luck to you ... you are not alone! 

I feel the same way but what is keeping me sane is continuing my exercise program which happens to be walking. It's very important to myself knowing that I am still eating healthy and continuing to walk. At some point you will have to accept the fact that you are going to gain some weight- it's only natural and healthy for your baby. It took me sometime to accept it and it makes me feel better knowing I am doing everything in MY power to keep eating healthy and to walk as much as possible- even when I don't want to. You are far enough out now to have learned a new life style change and now is the time to really use it.

I felt the same way at first. I just had to remind myself that I had to gain to ensure a healthy baby. I've gained about 10-12 pounds total so far, and my OB is okay with that. I just remind myself daily that the baby doesn't really need that many extra calories. I eat the same things I always do, with the exception of adding whole milk and two healthy snacks a day.

Take a deep breath. You will be okay. Just don't go off the deep end and eat crap all the time!

Keep in mind that the weight you gain is not fat... We don't need any more of that... Your blood volume doubles, the baby and other baby guts (placenta, umbilical cord ect.) are also part of that weight. Don't worry about the number pay attention to your body