Maybe It's Just Me

Seriously, I"m not saying YOU personally disrespected the guy.  I think the jist of my post was overlooked by some who would rather argue than step out of their own boxes and examine how others were treated. 

I appreciate the information you've shared with us, just as I appreciate all the opinions on the board, even the MOD and FDA''s opinions.  I just think we should all be open to sharing and exchanging ideas and not so quick to attack and offend those who do not share our beliefs.  That's all I'm trying to convey.   I'm not accrediting or discrediting anyone's sources or views.  I just think it really stinks that some people's overly aggressive posts have driven away someone who could probably benefit from the boards.   It is not OK to gang up on others, even if we  have been posting for 3, 5, or even 10 years, no one owns the boards.   It's always the ones who can di**** but can't take it who speak the loudest.

Thank you so much for your well-wishes, and in return I send you good tidings. 

God Bless

Part of being supportive means not blowing sunshine and rainbows up someones butt.   This child of theirs has no one to fight for him/her.   Both parents are clearly alcoholics in denial.  

Like Jo, I'm not a fly by night poster.    I have been around the block and back again.    Those who actually know me, know that I would give the shirt off my back and shoes off my feet to help someone else.   Those who know me, know that I am a genuine person.    I don't sugar coat a thing and I tell it like it is.   This may rub people the wrong way, but I cannot please everyone.  

An opinion is one thing.  Openly admitting to drinking while pregnant is a whole other ball of wax.  That is not something meant to be taken lightly or handled with kid gloves.  

Once again, it's not about whether I like what was posted or not.  Nor is it about whether I like to "rock the boat" or not.  It's about mutual respect for others' opinions, new ideas, and the way we respond to each other. 

Now I too am not a "fly by night" poster.  I may be new to the pregnancy board, but am not new to OH by any measure and what I know of OH is this is a fabulous resource for health-related information and support.  This is not a place where someone should be berated for expressing a contrary opinion. 

I will not nit-pick postings or even suggest for one minute you guys were wrong for being offended if he called you names or cursed at you.  I read his original post and he had some interesting ideas.  He is entitled to his opinons, even if it is contrary to yours.  I appreciate him enriching the posting with other ideas.  He did not post in an offensive nature and the responses to he and his wife's  posts were unwarranted and abusive. 

Showing respect for other's opinions and new ideas by no means indicates I'm not willing to "rock the boat". Additionally as far as "if you don't like it, don't read it".  Really?  That's a little...how should I say it....IMPOSSIBLE. 

I won't be baited into an argument about what I should and shouldn't read or about my style of posting.  Nor will I entertain personal attacks.  I will, however, ask that we consider the feelings of others so that we may enjoy and exchange ideas in a civil manner.  

Really guys, don't be Internet Nazis.  It seems to me that the people who bully others on message boards are the most docile people when you meet them in person. 

I suppose that her insinuating that my mother drank while pregnant with me was nice right?  

And please do me a favor.   Don't EVER compare me to a Nazi ever again!   Not only am I a Jew, but I know people who lost their entire families at the hands of Nazis and barely managed to escape themselves.  

Who is doing the name calling and judging now? 

I don't know if you missed it, but I believe I said I don't blame you for being offended if they called you names or cursed...let me add, made any personal judgments about you, your lifestyle, or the lifestyles of your loved ones.  Did I cover everyone?

You didn't like that did you?  Comparing you to a Nazi was a little strong and unwarranted, you think?  Then I've made my point.  You don't like being bullied online and neither does anyone else.  You don't like being persecuted for an idea that is not the that of the majority?  Then don't EVER do that to someone else ever again!  Since you know people who have lost their entire families at the hands of those who did not agree with their ideas and beliefs, I would think you would show more respect. 

Now, who is looking to be coddled?

The only point you are making is starting more crap.   

I'm not looking to be coddled, trust me.    I will continue to say (and post) whatever I want.   You want to call me a Nazi, go for it.   You want to continue to think that you are in the right here, think it.  

I thought you wanted to just get along?   Bravo, you're doing a great job!    LMAO

I don't if you think by insulting someone is going to get your point across... is okay... but you are way off!

You are new here??? Then I would highly suggest you take a step back and observe. No one felt the need to attack you until you put your own foot in your mouth.

I would highly think twice before attacking a regular and someone who has been here 3+ years...

Or what?  If I don't think twice, what's going to happen?  Are you going to berate me too?  What exactly are you going to do?  Block me?  You probably should because you won't be running me off of OH.  Check my avatar, I've been here more than 3 years myself as a matter of fact, much longer than that, I was on OH before there was even a pregnancy board.   So if anyone is new here, it's certainly not me. 

You all have a flair for the dramatic, and I appreciate the passive aggression in you.  But don't get all John Demjanjuk on me now.  You were just big and bad...talking about how you tell it like it is, rocking the boat, what I should and shouldn't read, this that and the third. However, when you and your croonies are called out for what you are, your own butts start tingling for sunshine and rainbows.  Pulling out the ethnic card and pretending to be the victim instead of agreeing to disagree, showing respect for others' opinions, and keeping the peace on an otherwise peaceful board. 
ETA:  It reminds me of someone famous...or should I say, infamous?

Wow, you really took the topic and twisted it to be about you.  You have been a member of OH for more than 3 years, since July of 2006 stating you were here before the pregnancy board.  This board was here then, because I got pregnant with my son that exact month and was posting here prior to that getting my ducks in a row for a healthy pregnancy.

Back off. 

No, THEY made it about ME.  

By the way, I have used THIS username since July of 2006 and if I'm not mistaken, that was over three years ago since this is December of 2009.  I've been here even longer than that and I'm quite familiar with this type of behavior.  

I refuse to back off when I see such an injustice.  I know it's a futile attempt to reason with those who can't see the forest for the trees.  Those who thrive on making a scene instead of making a difference.  Clique-ish types who think OH belongs to them and only them so their and only their opinions matter.  I will not back off when women and men who could benefit from the true purpose of the boards, which I thought was to share, learn, and support, are chased away by said behavior.  That would be the easy way out.  To back off, maybe deactivate my username and find a board that better suits me.  Newsflash, OH suits me just fine and I'm quite comfortable on the pregnancy forum, so I'm going to stay.  And every time someone is bullied, I'm going to speak up for him, her, and myself.