i am sorry....

jenifer and to everyone else *****ad or responded,
i have to admit until tonight i have never ever heard of women checking their own cervix. after 3 pregnancies and having many close friends who gave birth i just never heard of it...also having 2 complicated pregnancies with doctors who are againt checking cervix themselves...i was shocked....
over the past couple hours after reading all the responses i spoke with a few friends and went online and apparently women do it quite often... i myself wasnt informed and my choice words were very insulting and wrong...and i realize it now...and genuinly apologize how i came off. i personally wouldnt do it...but we are all entitled to our opinion...mine was horribly communicated and for that i am sorry.

tricia

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to fix your ticker, rather than copy the code over, if you just copy the picture of the ticker, and paste that in your signature, I think you'll find it will work better for you..

 I was reading the other thread and to be honest i would have thought it was alittle weird to check yourself as well.. considering I dont think at 34 weeks pregnan i could reach!! and it would be super uncomfy!!!! I dont think you were wrong in asking.... Some people may have been altitle overly sensitive but hey whatta gonna do.. I see your point in asking though!! I would have too!!

And to be honest I wouldnt do it myself.. I would feel weird and uncomfy about it. just like i dont like the fact of being checked by doctors!! lets face it!! its umcomfy no matter who does it..


 

 A bit off topic.. but I can't imagine being able to check myself while full term when I could barely swab myself for the GBS test!  

Tricia,

Don't feel bad for asking...it is what it is.  Your post topic may have offended some.  That is what is hard about message boards and emails...we cannot hear any emotion in your voice.  I'm sure it was not accusatory as much as just shock, as it was something you had never heard of.  I have heard of it, so was not shocked.  Although I must admit when a previous poster had posted something about either her doing it or having her hubby do it on a regular basis...I thought that a little ummmmmm icky..but hey...it was her body.  She wasn't asking to do it to me :)  And, I must admit I broke down and had my hubby do it once with one of my first pregnancies.  He more than obliged as he had been cut off from that region of my body for quite some time...LOL Sorry...I just don't feel sexy at 8 months pregnant...so I was not one of those gals trying the sex thing to make baby come...I was repulsed at the thought of it...lol...my poor hubby.  I always did give in way before the recommended 6 weeks post labor was over though because I felt so guilty...LOL  See....there are lots of different opinions on all of these subjects.  So, don't feel bad for asking the question.  Maybe just proofread what you are writing to make sure you might not offend someone as I KNOW FOR SURE that was NOT your intent at all.  

Take care, good luck with baby, and don't feel weird for not checking your own cervix...I figure that is what the docs and nurses get paid the big bucks for is to play around down there.  LOL

Laura 

Take care, good luck with baby, and don't feel weird for not checking your own cervix...I figure that is what the docs and nurses get paid the big bucks for is to play around down there.  LOL

LOL now see that just sounds disgusting to me. It sounds like a form of prostitution. Paying someone to "play down there"?! Ewww! A complete stranger whom you only meet once a month. I've been with my husband for 12 years and he's had more access than ANy doctor or nurse has, and yet when one suddenly puts it into a "medical" context vaginal checks become "gross" to some extent. It's such a disconnect for many as they seperate medical and sexual with their "private" parts.

Partner's fingers in vagina for foreplay is fun and exciting. Partners fingers in the vagina to check for the cervix or other medical things, suddenly it becomes and "ewww" thing. I just don't get that. But that's just me.

I get where people are coming from though, because I understand the seperation and the need for it mentally. But like I said in the other thread "The more you know." that PSA is a true statement.

I have no problem with people checking their own cervix. I have no problem with only letting the OB check the cervix. It's a personal decision.

But why is it disgusting and a form of prostitution to allow a physician who is trained to check  a cervix? I don't understand that. I know my OB is not a complete stranger. Maybe that's why I find this so odd. I love my OB, trust him completely, and he is HIGHLY trained, educated and experienced to care for pregnancies.

Maybe I put too much confidence in my physicians, maybe because I work in the medical field, maybe I am just stupid. But I don't think there is ANYTHING wrong with only allowing a physician to check. It's their expertise. Not mine. And although I think it's great to understand how to, and do it yourself, it's certainly not something I would consider myself an expert in, even if it is mine.

Doing it yourself is not gross.

Only having a physician do it is not disgusting.

It's a matter of personal comfortability.