I just don't know how to feel! I really need to vent!

So as most of you know my OB has been telling me since I was 20 weeks along that she wouldn't allow me to go past my due date of 12/25. She also told me 2 weeks ago that she would induce me between 39 & 40 weeks if baby didn't come on its own. I really wasn't too keen on the idea of induction from the start but she insisted it would be better for both of us so I just got used to the idea. We have been planning around the fact that we would be having our baby before 1/1/10. Because we were going to be having baby b4 the new year a lot of things worked out for us! We would get my tax rebate which would allow us to afford to stay home w/ baby for 10-12 weeks rather than only the 6 weeks we get paid for. My dad was able to schedule a trip here from Montana to meet his first grandbaby. We switched to 80/20 health coverage for 2010 and we currently have 90/10 so more would be covered by insurance. My WLS used up my max under my health insurance for 2009 so having the baby in 2009 meant we wouldn't have to pay a dime for it. We also get all of our vacation banked on 1/1/09 and if I am on FMLA b4 then I won't be forced to  use all of my 2010 vacation first b4 I use my unpaid FMLA meaning I will have all of my vacation to use thru out 2010 and same goes for my husband. Well my OB calls me last night and informs me that she took my ultrasound results to a High Risk OB and she said that the baby is running big yes but not big enough to justify an induction so she is just going to let me go. I cannot begin to tell you how frustrated I am right now. If baby comes after 1/1/10 A LOT will get messed up! I am just so mad at my OB for feeding me this crap for 17 weeks now and then all of the sudden she changes everything. I agree that induction is not ideal and I would rather not be induced but she told me for so long that that's what had to be done and to plan for it and so we did. Now all has changed and all I could do last night was cry my eyes out. I just have this feeling that this baby will not come on its own and I will be pregnant for the rest of my life. I don't know why I feel that way I just do. I want to ask my OB who was wrong in telling me I had to be induced by my due date if baby didn't come on it's own? Who is responsible for this oops?! I worry that my OB has no clue what she is doing. Then she tells me we will just add some more ultrasounds if I don't have baby by 40 weeks. Well sorry to tell ya lady I am completely OUT of vacation time and Dr time due to the 30 (literally) other appointments you made me go to up till now so I can't schedule anymore appointments. Gaaahhhhhh I am just sooooo damn frustrated!!!! Bring on the prayer, castor oil, sex, raspberry hot tea, walking, spicy food, you name it! I have to get this baby to come on its own b4 the first of Jan!!!

-Ashlie

I would be livid. But I would also explain all this to the OB and try to compell her to go forward with the way she said she would initially..  Even if she could induce by the 27th you would be out of the hospital by 1/1.  That is crap.  They do things for their financial benenfit regularly, they should help you out this way.  It is not like they are doing it sooo early that it would put the baby at risk of NICU.  I am so sorry and will be praying things work out for you.  

oh man...I would try everything to make yourself go into labor then...lol I tried and tried with my daughter and still nothing, I got induced and just before I went to the hospital I had a feeling I was just gonna go into labor anyways that night...I wish ya the best...

My ob said he would induce me if my baby doesn't arrive by his due date 1/30/2010 because it's probable that we will lose our insurance by Feb. 1st, so he said if I don't deliver by the 30th he'd induce so we'd still have coverage. Try and explain to your doctor what you've said here and tell her that all your plans are based on what SHE has told you all along, maybe she'll change her mind. If not castor oil worked for me last time around.

Don't forget the Evening Primrose Oil! Insert it vaginally and take it orally too, twice a day. That helps rippen the cervix faster. So does sex but EPO can be done inbetween, LOL

Usually if you explain your situation to the doctor you can be induced.

My oldest was due Jan 6th. At the beginning of December one doctor in the practice told me I'd need a c/s because my baby was breech. They scheduled my c/s for Dec 24th. Dh and I had our Christmas in preperation for our Christmas baby. A few days before the c/s a different doctor in the practice (whom I think just didn't want ot work on Christmas) decided myu baby still had time to turn and cancelled the c/s. Our Christmas SUCKED because we were planning on having a baby in our arms and we had already opened presents and had Christmas!  The Monday after Christmas yet another doctor did an u/s and said the baby ran out of room and couldn't turn and I needed a c/s. Then asked "Do you want it before New Years or after?" Um DUH!!! We wanted the take break of course! We scheduled the c/s on Dec 30th, Just 2 days after the appointment.

I hated having a c/s. I cried every day from the moment they told me my baby was breech and I needed a c/s, like it happens everyday. My dream of a natural delivery was shattered! I did everything I could on the internet back then (AOL 1.0 days - dial-up) to try and turn the baby. I even went to the pool and did handstands! Nothing worked.

But I understand your emotional roller coaster, especially this time of year and the tax break option hanging over your head. Who doesn't want extra money for having been pregnant for 9 months?!

Keep looking online for ways to get the baby out. Hopefully your doctor will change it's mind and help with the induction. If not then I hope that the things you do to get baby out will work! Good Luck!

I sure hope you go into labor on your own before the end of the year. That sucks to plan it all out and then have your doc change things.
With my daughter I was due on Jan 8 and expected to not have her until January and not be able to put her on my taxes, but always hoped I could, and things happened where she was born on Dec 20. It was crazy. So things could work out, I hope they do.

I really hope that if you go to 40 weeks they'll at least induce you after that.  did she say if she would then?

that is awful that they've told you this for weeks and then changed it.  when I switched ob's at 35 weeks they wanted to go by the first due date I was given (by a faulty u/s imo) of 12/25. well we've scheduled EVERYTHING for the past 7 month around the due date of 12/19 (letting me have a csection around 12/14).  dh put in for his leave in SEPTEMBER and if I had to wait til 12/18 or 12/19 or later to have the baby via csection he would burn 8 or more days for nothing.  luckily I whined enough and they trusted me since its my 3rd kid.  

I hope you can get yourself into labor before the end of the year.