Gained 30# and can't stop crying

I'm sure this question comes up often, and I should probably read more posts, but I'm soooooo upset right now and need some encouragement!


I'm 2.5 years out from RNY and I'm 29 weeks pregnant.  I'm already up 30#, at this rate, I'm going to gain 40#.  I was already obese (according to the charts) when we conceived, so I was instructed by my dr. to gain 15-25#.  I'm hungry all of the time, maybe not hungry, just head hunger.  I don't have the energy to exercise, and I don't know how to stop the weight gain.  OK, I'm rambling and feeling sorry for myself...I'm so distraught. 

For the ladies who are more than 2 years out, how long did it take you to lose the baby weight, and how much did you gain?

I am sorry you are feeling so bad.  Try and think that this is the best for the baby and you will lose it after you have the baby. 
I was 10 months out of surgery when I got pregnant.  I gained 45 pounds and lost 30 within the first week.  I lost another 5 and never got back down the other 10 pounds.  But I didn't work out, or eat healthy...This time around I am 30 pounds heavier than the first time I got pregnant.  I am planning on doing much better this time around.  I am over 4 years out now.  I totally got off track, but I will make sure I make myself a priority this time around!!! 

take care and keep your chin up!

Bambi

I only had Alex 3 months ago.. but I had gained 40 lbs with him and still have 20 to go to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight.   I'm not exercising or eating properly right now... so I know once I get off my butt and do that, the weight will come off.  

I've been hoping I'm having a 25# baby and the rest is jus****er weight.  I'm concerned my tool doesn't work anymore and I'll be 300+ pounds after I have the baby.  After struggling my whole life with my weight, I'm so afraid I'm in for another 30 year battle.  I'm just going to have to return to my high protein diet and work out like crazy again.  At least this time I won't have to lose 140 pounds, and only have to lose about 40. 

Another question, can we do the high protein, low carb diet and still breastfeed? 

Read this article to hopefully put your fears at ease. http://www.drbrewerpregnancydiet.com/id68.html

The four theories discussed above have influenced the training of most obstetricians in practice today, so that weight control remains a fixture in American obstetrics. Doctors continue to seek a definitive answer to an irrelevant question: How much weight can a pregnant woman gain without placing herself or her baby in jeopardy?

The current "magic number" is 24 pounds, accounted for by a prominent obstetrician in this way:

Fetal tissues (baby).......................7 1/2
Placenta.......................................1
Amniotic fluid................................2
Organ growth.................................2
Growth of breasts..........................1 1/2
Increase in blood...........................3 1/2
Tissue fluid and stored body fat......6 1/2
Total maternal weight gain:............24 pounds

This table appears to be based on a scientific analysis of the various physiologic changes that occur in normal pregnancy. However, recearch demonstrates that when weight control is not practiced and the mother is encouraged to maintain throughout pregnancy optimal nutrition, including adquate salt intake, she commonly gains ten pounds more than this table indicates. Additional circulating blood, tissue fluid and stored fat comprise these ten pounds. This is not excessive, undesirable weight. Rather, as we shall see, this increase is a proven safeguard for mother and baby that is subverted when weight control is practiced in lieu of scientific nutritional counseling.

For me, gaining weight and losing weight, while difficult for me since I paid good money to lose these nearly 120lbs, is a moot point while pregnant. I plan on breastfeeding after baby is born too so I am hoping that will help me lose the baby weight along with my sleeve help. But if not then 2 short years devoted to pregnancy and nursing is worth it to me for my child to have a healthy start. After that is accomplished then I can go back to losing the rest of my excess weight and finding my body again.

My 2¢ though.

I know how you feel.  Two weeks ago I was told to eat more, because the baby was measuring small 10th percentile.  I feel like all I have done for the last 2 weeks is eat nonstop, good news is baby is up to the 13th percentile and is 3.6 pounds now she gained a pound in the last 2 weeks. But I have gained 5 out of 30 for this pregnancy in these last 2 weeks.  I don't even want to eat, but I am doing it for her. 

What scares me is am I going to be able to stop after I deliver if i settle into this pattern for the next 8 weeks?  What I do know is that my tool for weight loss will still be there, and when I am able to use it I will lose the weight. 

Good Luck (It will all be worth it when your baby is in your arms.)

Our tool is a funny thing!  While pregnant I have noticed that I can eat much more than when I am not.  After you have the baby you will notice things going back to the pre-pregnancy way. 

Bambi

I remember going through the same thing... then I forgot what week it was but I realized I had to embrace it. I became very lazy after having my son... I didn't get serious about losing weight until he was almost a year. I am currently 8 lbs from my pre-pregnancy weight. BTW, I gained almost 45 lbs and lost 28 right away.
Your pouch isn't broken... you will just have to get back on track after you have the baby.

Don't exercise but maybe just take a few walks around the block every day.  The more you worry about this, the more you'll gain.

I'm glad to hear my pouch will work again when the baby is here.  This issue is I'm always eating, and even while I'm eating, I'm thinking "what can I eat next?".  I'm elated when I wake up because it's time to eat again!  Happy to hear I'm not the only RNY'er who was like that.  I think I'll come back to OH instead of the other boards.  I feel at home here and know that you guys understand what I'm going through  (and I can get on the forums at work, which is always a plus). 

BTW, Don't get me wrong, I've never loved someone (the baby) so much before meeting her.  I don't even think I knew what love was before we conceived her.  It's all just a terrible mind trip knowing what I went through to lose the weight and the potential of gaining it all back.