Babyitis big time!!

 Okay, so this post is for the mama's that are still here who know they are not going to have any more babies...I had my tubal ummmmm2-1/2 years ago or so...and have been totally okay with it until now.  I turn 39 this year, and man oh man am I missing having a baby...or even the option to be careless and let it happen if it happens.  We went to a B-day party for a friend last weekend, and there was a girl there with her 6 week old son...I did nothing but hold, feed, change, and cuddle with that baby all night...Everyone else was drinking and partying...I just thoroughly enjoyed spending time with that little one.  

Last year I was babysitting my neighbor's newborn 3 days a week, so I think that kept my baby cravings gone....but boy are they there right now.  I even asked my husband about getting my tubal reversed which of course he said absolutely not...are you crazy...you can hardly keep yourself alive muchless an unborn baby...and I know in my head he is right, but boy in my heart does it hurt!!!!!

I am thinking about maybe applying to be foster parents for infants...do ya'll think this is a bad or dumb idea???  I just miss having a baby in the house so much.  Technically I have 2 daughters old enough to give me grandbabies...but I would never suggest such a thing or push such a thing.  They are both in very serious relationships...I am certain with the men they will marry...but neither of them are ready for babies yet...so that is out!!!  LOL  I am just grasping at straws...somebody needs to just come drop their little one off with me once or twice a week so I get my fix until I get through this.

Have any of you other ladies had this???  Or am I just a total whack job (well we already know the answer to that)...but you know what I mean.

Babieless forever....whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!

Laura

if you were closer id even pay you to come over so i can take a nap lol

LOL...I would love to.  We could not live farther apart if we tried...hahaha 

come the end of may wanna move in? :)

My boss and his wife did foster care - the hardest part... she had to give him back in the end. Kept telling herself she wouldn't get attached - well I don't think that's possible!

Good luck!

Liz

Maybe just visit not move in...LOL  It worked out great babysitting my friend's little one.  It took care of all of my baby pangs...and the best part was...I got to send him home at 6 o'clock at night...LOL  He was such a doll.  I miss him so much!!! 

I have two you can play with!  LOL!  You can come over and play if you want.  :-)  I don't have any of your phone numbers anymore since dropping my phone in the toilet the day the girls were born.  My SIM card transferred NOTHING and my old (rather new actually) blackberry is fried.  :-(

Sandy

 Awww Sandy I would love to do that!!!  I bet you are exhausted with all 4 of your little ones now.  Do you have family or friends coming in and helping at all?  I would love to make a pit stop at Starbucks and come and see you!  My cell number is 253-682-8960...give me a buzz and we will set something up soon!  Lets make it on a day when you have no other help so that I can come in and help to give you a break!  Don't forget that I also have a 16 and 15 year old daughters here that are awesome with little ones due to their siblings.  It would probably take both of them to babysit all four of yours, but if you want to get out and get some Christmas shopping done, I know they would love to come help!  Just call me when you are ready for some company.  I have been trying to kind of lay low and let you rest (hahaha I know that is a joke)...but really, I didn't want to call and wake you when you were actually taking a cat nap or something...so you call me and we will get something set up :)

Laura

My two cents:

You are NOT crazy at all.  You just love babies!

If you have the ability (time, talent, etc.) to become a foster mom for infants, DO IT!!!  Yes, it is hard giving them up...but when you think about the HUGE difference you are making in the life of a child (even a month or two of stability in what may have been a completely chaotic situation prior) can make a world of difference.  True, you may never get to see it long-term, but just knowing you provided that child with food, comfort, and love they may not have ever received (or may not get to receive regularly again, depending on their situation) is priceless.

A very close friend of mine did foster care for infants.  Many of the children were actually brand-new babies straight from the hospital whose mothers tested positive for illegal drugs at the time of birth.  It was sometimes scary taking these babies home because they themselves might be going through drug withdrawals (shaking, etc), but the love and bonding time she gave them was so special.  I like to think that it helped these children long term with their attachment to others because they might not have received that kind of care from their drugged-out birth moms had they gone straight home from the hospital with them.  Not saying all addicts are automatically bad moms or anything, but you do have to wonder about the parenting ability when they come to the hospital ready to give birth already stoned.

Anyhow, if you have ANY questions, please let me know.  I know a fair amount about the process involved to become a foster parent and have all kinds of stories, tips, etc. from my friend from when she did it.

Kudos to you for considering such a step!  I wish I could do it myself (I would, but my husband said he just wouldn't be able to give up the foster babies at the end).

Good luck, and cheers!

~Katherine

Laura,
you are not nuts! 

I think it's a fabulous idea of taking on foster care.  You would be great at it too!  It would be hard giving them up but I think you could handle it. 

Here I am pregnant again, thinking I was finished after having Delaney.  Life threw me a curve ball and then I found another wonderful man that treats my children like they are his own!  It's amazing!

I say go for it!  Oh, what does your DH say?
you better have a chat with him first!  lol

Bambi

At first DH was not for it at all...not because he really did not want to do it, simply because he was afraid I would not be able to give up the baby when it was time.  I think the more we talk about it, the more interested he is becoming.  He was adopted as a 16 month old baby and I had a baby that I gave up for adoption when I was 16, so we have been on both ends of this...kind of interesting that we each have a different experience such as this.  Anyway, it is a very long process to get approved...so, I may start it after the beginning of the year if I can get my health stabilized and all.  I can't take anything on right now until I am sure I am healthy enough to do it.  But, I am excited, and cannot wait to begin the process.  I just have to tell myself to eat..eat...eat...LOL  

Thanks for all of the replies ladies...you are all so wonderful :)

Hugs to you all!!

Laura