Random Thoughts...

I may get flamed for this post... but lately... and it maybe because of my pregnancy hormones... some observations...

(and honestly I'm really not trying to be a *****)

1. There are ladies on this board who have been TTC for years... who have gone through infertility and loses... that I pray for every day, because I have been in their shoes. Infertility and Loss is the one thing I wish on not even my worst enemy...

2. Seriously the complaining and blantly I'm going to put it like this... the whining has increased big time. Its to the point that I rarely come to read the board and seriously skip over posts.

3. Be blessed you are experiencing the miracle of a child growing inside of you. There are women and couples on this board that would do ANYTHING to be in your shoes and live your experiences.

4. Look at it this way, you are pregnant...things could be so different. You could be going to doctor appt after doctor appt and test after test... only to be told... it "may" never happen for you.

Just I guess some ramblings...

Hold on, I'm popping some kettle corn.   LOL    ; )   


Like I said on FB earlier today.   Some people will find a way to complain about complaining.    Let's face it, when you are pregnant, you will have some good days and some bad days.  

However, embrace them both and roll with it.   

My favorite is when people say, "but I'm not complaining."   Um, yes you are.   Really, it's ok to complain every now and then, but every 5 minutes about mundane stupid crap?   Give me a damn break and come back when you have a real effin problem. 

I couldn't agree more.

U know that I <3 u Sara!  U are gonna be a great Momma!  Thank you for speaking your mind and telling people how you feel.  I never say anything because I guess I don't feel I have a right to.  I've never been in their shoes, but someday, by the grace of God I will be.  When that day comes I will be so greatful to have to deal with all of these "problems". Until that daycomes I will sit back, listen,and wait for the day that I get to be one of those women that you are talking about.

Thank you.

I know you will be a great momma one day too! 

I wish I could make it happen soon for you. I really do.

I would be one of those people - more than 7 years I have been off of BCP.  Other than the first several months after surgery (and I'm not getting into a debate whether it's too soon for me to be TTC yet) we have used no protection and we are actively trying again for the 3rd or 4th time.  (i.e. OPKs, timed BD, herbals, etc). 

While yes, I think to myself  "oh SHUT UP, I would kill to be puking/sore back/swollen ankles" - I get it.  Alot of things about being pregnant suck. ALOT.  So I tend to not read those posts when I'm in a particularly pissy/depressed mood.  But I sure can sympathize.  I think if someone is going to whine every 5 seconds, it would be nice of them to take it to a place where everyone is pregnant (and can sympathize) rather than a place where they KNOW there are many who have been waiting a long time and/or have had multiple losses.

But that's just my humble opinion.  No flaming here. 

T :)

Thank you for speaking your mind. And being honest.

LOL I think I'll have that framed, most people don't like it when I'm so damn honest ;)

To clarify - feel free to complain, but if that's all you're gonna do **** off (so to speak) ;)

T :)

Should they make a TTC after WLS board then? I mean I thought this WAS entitled "Pregnancy after Weight Loss Surgery". I guess I assumed this WAS the pregnancy board. Am I missing something here?

I personally don't feel "welcomed" in the same way because I don't have the same surgery as just about 99% of the posters on the board. I can't have my questions answered because I can barely find pregnant women with the same surgery as me to ask questions to. But I come and answer questions as I can beause I "think" (not sure though) I've had some of the most experience on the board with 7 live births a miscarriage and now currently pregnant. I've had a c/s, a VBAC, a natural land birth and several waterbirths. I've even had a mild stint of "infertility" and I understand charting and temping, so I do understand those who have been TTC for a long time and the emtional distress it can cause as well as the heartache.

Still after having been on numberous pregnancies board since I was pregnant with my first, I'm used to the whining and complaining posts and either comisserate with them if I feel the same way or I ignore them because there were too many of the same whiney posts.

I dunno just my 2¢ worth I guess.

 

It absolutely is the pregnancy after WLS board.  And I think everyone has a right to their opinion.  I don't have to agree or like anyone's opinion, but I do have to respect their right to it.  I never said don't complain.  But I think if that's ALL you're going to do (regardless of what board you're talking about) it's really annoying.  Anyway, it's beating a dead horse since everyone can post whatever they want and anyone can be annoyed at whatever they want.

T :)