Unhealthy pregnancy
Well, the difference is this --
I have been where you are now. I've had two postop pregnancies that were, quite littereally, hell on earth. I could gouge the eyes out of women who had roses coming out of their butts while pregnant.. those with rosey complections that were so *happy* and *healthy* during their pregnancies.. I just hated being pregnant. I loved the idea of it.. but not the physical being pregnant.
Now, don't get me wrong -- I love my kids more than anything, and I'd go through hell and back again to have them again -- but I was a miserable ***** for 41 weeks with Kaitlin and 36 weeks with Daniel. And yes, I remember the weeks VERY keenly -- that's how bad it was. Actually, Kaitlin was 40 weeks and 5 days when we induced, but she was born on day 6 so I call it 41 weeks.
Point is -- I've been there. Your doc.. is probably male. He's never had the feelings.. sure he's read the books.. he's seen the patients.. he can emphasize.. but he has no effing clue what you are actually feeling. The fears.. the pain.. the EVERYTHING that is going through your head.
Add in rerouted guts? I mean WTF? And he probably knows nothing about THAT, either. So let's add his confusion to your apprehension about having a postop kiddo (OMG am I getting enough nutrition? Am I going into ketosis? Are my bones melting into goo? Do I have a brain left? Hey, why are baby things so effing expensive? I want this swing, but I am NOT paying $200 for it!!!) and it just makes life more difficult for us.
So yeah, I get it.
Plus docs are just clueless.
I have been where you are now. I've had two postop pregnancies that were, quite littereally, hell on earth. I could gouge the eyes out of women who had roses coming out of their butts while pregnant.. those with rosey complections that were so *happy* and *healthy* during their pregnancies.. I just hated being pregnant. I loved the idea of it.. but not the physical being pregnant.
Now, don't get me wrong -- I love my kids more than anything, and I'd go through hell and back again to have them again -- but I was a miserable ***** for 41 weeks with Kaitlin and 36 weeks with Daniel. And yes, I remember the weeks VERY keenly -- that's how bad it was. Actually, Kaitlin was 40 weeks and 5 days when we induced, but she was born on day 6 so I call it 41 weeks.
Point is -- I've been there. Your doc.. is probably male. He's never had the feelings.. sure he's read the books.. he's seen the patients.. he can emphasize.. but he has no effing clue what you are actually feeling. The fears.. the pain.. the EVERYTHING that is going through your head.
Add in rerouted guts? I mean WTF? And he probably knows nothing about THAT, either. So let's add his confusion to your apprehension about having a postop kiddo (OMG am I getting enough nutrition? Am I going into ketosis? Are my bones melting into goo? Do I have a brain left? Hey, why are baby things so effing expensive? I want this swing, but I am NOT paying $200 for it!!!) and it just makes life more difficult for us.
So yeah, I get it.
Plus docs are just clueless.
I've had two friends who both had MISERABLE pregnancies with all kinds of problems and their babies were just fine!
Banded 03/22/06 276/261/184 (highest/surgery/lowest)
Sleeved 07/11/2013 228/165 (surgery/current) (111lbs lost)
Mom to two of the cutest boys on earth.
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