1st official OB appointment

i had my first official OB appointment and dating sonogram on friday. The sonogram went great and i had an appointment with the nurse practitioner to go over all of my lab results. I will never make an appoinment with that squirrel again..... My first appointment was with one of the doctors in the practice to verify pregnancy and that went great... this appointment not so much..... I felt like the whole time i was being judged in not so many words.... I obviously went over the fact that i had RNY with the doctor who assured me not to worry, eat small meals throughout the day and add a power bar if i feel like i didnt eat enough. We the NP is going over my chart, when she looks at prior surgeries she raises her eyebrows and makes a huiffing noise and says to me, "didnt they tell you NOT to get pregnant for awhile?" i felt like a 2 year old being scolded. Of course i had to explain that they had. How i wasnt TRYING to get pregnant. That i had huge issues trying to get pregnant with my son. And my birth control failed. She still was looking at me funny so i got pissed and asked her "are you trying to tell me to have an abortion or something?" this threw her off of course, and i told her if she can keep her opinion to herself then to get someone else in here to finish my appointment. Of course she didnt but i guess i really pissedf her off. My first appointment with the doc i had mentioned that i was going to disney in may (i will be 32 weeks) the doctor told me traveling does not increase your chances of early delivery but to make sure i am safe for my trip he wants to see me a few days before just to make sure everything looks good before i travel so far from home... So the NASTY NP must have see somewhere that the doctor had noted this in my file and she turns to me with a smirk and says i'll just have to discuss this trip with the doctor because i really dont think its a good idea... Now i start flipping... DId i ask for your opinion lady? NO.... I spoke to the DOCTOR! ... I stormed out made my next appointment and told the receptionist that i needed to speak to WHATEVER doctor was there... I waited and relayed my experience to another doctor in the practice who appologised over and over and assured me he would have a convorsation with her. Moral of the story... Dont F@#$ with a pregnant woman!!!!!

OMG, I would have been pissed off.  I am kinda scared to go to my first appt.  which I haven't made yet...but going to call tomorrow.  I am so used to my old practice, but I moved back to Mo. from Kansas and it would be more convienent to see the doctors here.  But if I don't like it then I am willing to drive the extra 45 minutes away that I will need to!  

Hopefully you won't have to deal with that lady again.  and if you do and she starts acting up like that again I would walk out and demand someone new!

Good luck,
Bambi

I'm glad everything is healthy with you and the pregnancy!  However, the staff was way out-of-line on this one.  I went through a very similar experience, but it was with the bariatric staff.  BC can fail.  BCP's don't always absorb properly (I have a handsome 6-month old to prove this), 2 forms of BC should be used, and many Dr's don't pass that information along to patients of child-bearing age.   When a woman is already pregnant, preaching, scolding and being generally disrespectful does not HELP the situation.  If you do not get the care you need and deserve, don't be afraid to switch to another practice.  Yours and your baby's health is the priority.  Having a practice that doesn't support your emotional well-being as well as your physical, is not in yours or your baby's best interest.

So sorry you had to go through that!

Hugs,