Am I starting or not???

This is driving me nuts...Technically my fiance and I aren't even trying yet.  He still lives in Tn and me in Ky and we weren't going to really knuckle down and tt****il we move in together.  But this past month we were together close to when I was supposed to O and did some baby dancing.  Ok, I am not expecting anything and won't be too disappointed if I do go on and start.  The thing is, today is the 30th day since the first day of my last period.  My period started in Sept on Sept 23 and then Oct 24 so I think today is when I am supposed to start.  I don't know alot about charting or what my phases are. I just keep looking each time I pee to see if I've started yet. I'm not having any symptoms except sore boobs and that goes with pms for me. Got a sinus cold but thats normal this time of year.  I just am not starting yet.  I did see some brownish stuff, really light when I wiped a couple of times earlier.  But nothing like usual. I realize I probably will go on and start and thats cool, like I said we aren't even really trying yet but this is just making me wonder.  Usually when my period starts, it starts.  I always start and bleed for 5 days and then its over.  How do I chart?  What do I need to start doing?  Most likely I'll start later tonight or tomorrow and to be prepared for the future, how do u chart?
Thanks ladies!
Ange

Cycles can range anywhere from 28 to 35 days and will be *normal*



Body changes alone cannot confirm pregnancy. HPT's or blood tests can.



For charting: Fertilityfriend.com

Body changes alone cannot confirm pregnancy. HPT's or blood tests can.



I wasn't saying Im pregnant. I know I'm probably not, and if not, its cool.  We're not really even trying yet.  I just feel different.  If I don't start by the end of the week I'll know it ways past time to start and I'll get a HPT. Thanks

How do you know you were Oing if you do not temp? Everyone os and different times in there cycle.I would wait a day and test. All cycles are different and I would test if you are concerned and stop stressing yourself.
Good Luck

By my CM.   I know by watching that.  If I don't start by the end of the week I'll take a test..I know I'm probably not and its cool if not, we're not trying, we want a baby but aren't going to really try until we move in together.

Thanks
Angela
P.S. I'm trying not to stress but I can't help but get excited lol.

This might be an unpopular question, but I am going to ask anyway.

Why are you trying to get pregnant before you are married? If you are already engaged, why not just wait. Then you can be on your husband's insurance, and there will be a little more stability in your personal life before you try to bring a baby into the mix. I dont know if you have any other children, but I can tell you that even though babies are a blessing, they are a lot of work, and very taxing on even the strongest of relationships. I cant imagine planning a wedding while trying to adapt to life as a couple with a new baby.

--L

This might be an unpopular question, but I am going to ask anyway.


I don't think it's a unpopular question at all.  Its a very good one and we're not really trying to get pregnant. If we do, it will be a blessing.  I do have one daughter she is 8 yrs old today.

You have an eight year old daughter? Okay...in that case...it is time to start setting a better example. She is watching everything you do, and learning...demonstrate to her how to exhibit some self control and how to make smart choices.

Additionally, you have just gone through a divorce from her father, you are contemplating a move to another state with a new guy...potentially moving her away from her father and her friends. I am sure this has all be highly traumatic for your daughter. She shouldn't be a victim of your hasty and poor decision making skills.

Consider her. Every day. Every time. She may love to have siblings, but she is going to love having a stable consistent environment even more. And if you have done your job, one day, she will thank you for it.

This is off topic... but if I remember correctly you and your husband had his vasectomy reversed and were trying then...maybe a year ago?? I take it you are no longer with him and have moved on. You must really have baby fever to get rid of then hubby and move on to baby dancing so quickly! .....Or maybe I have you confused with someone else....boy, was she a drama mama... I lived in Bowling Green for years is the only reason I remember her. If I have you confused, I apolozie.

At any rate, use a charting program such as FertilityFriend.com to get started. They have a tutorial about how to get started and how to be in tune with your body's fertility signs. The site is great resource. It helped me get pregnant with my 2nd. I'm 16 weeks now.

Good luck!

April, if I had something in my mouth it would now be halfway across the room. All you have to do is look at the posting history...