second baby shower a faux pas????

oh boy.... so it seams that my family and DH's family grew up on different continents. My mom beleives that you should only have a shower for your first born, MIL is already talking about ideas for a shower... uh oh i smell trouble :-O I have some stuff from my son that was saved. Some stuff that was in the attic didnt fair well. and some was just not in good enough condition to save. Some stuff i gave to another new mommy that was in a bad way. So yes i probably need a bit of stuff. I understand my moms point of veiw as well too though. I guess it could look kinda greedy. Then i keep thinking, what if its a girl??? then im toast.  I am already putting the word out to people i know with young kids not to get rid of anything till i get first dibs. We also have this awesome store by us called "Once upon a child" that is a store that buys gently used and new baby stuff and sells it pretty cheap so im sure that store will be a godsend.... So i curious to get the feedback from you girls.... What do you think about a second shower????

Well, I am about to have my 4th baby shower.  I have had 3 boys and my side of the family has given me a shower for all of them.  I am from a huge family though and we celebtrate each addition in to the family. I am about to have my first girl and my mom mentioned that I should go register and I told her no way.   I am pretty embarrassed by the fact that everyone has to come to another shower, but she said that everyone keeps asking when it is and what they can do to help with it and what do I need.  This baby will be the 25th great grandchild for my grandmother and the 5th one born in the past 10 months, so we are so used to baby showers.  I think that a celebration for the birth of a baby is great, gifts or not.  The fellowhip with family and friends is the best part!!   I wouldn't feel greedy about it, just make sure that everyone knows how grateful you are for their generosity!!!

Take Care,
Tami

Just my opinion....

I think every child should be celebrated no matter when or what order they are born in.  I'm all for a baby shower for a 2nd, 3rd child etc. 

Good luck!

Ash :)

The second shower being a faux pas is no longer relevant. That mindset was developed decades ago (think our grandmother's generation) when 1) practically everything for babies was gender neutral; 2) women popped children out one after another; 3) people could actually afford to buy everything they need for subsequent children; 4) products didn't get recalled or become garbage with one child's use.

IMO, a shower is about more than just getting gifts... it's about celebrating the coming child and the mother to be, no matter if it's her first or fourth.

I am glad u posted this cuz I have a daughter thats all and now I am having twins... I know some say you only get one for your first born and others say you get another if you want another... My fiance' think we should have another if one of the twins is a boy cuz everything I have is girly. and now I need another set of everything, I need a new stroller cuz my daughter beat this one up..and highchairs... I dunno... I guess it depends if anyone want's to throw me one...lol

I also wanted to add to mine is that we can't afford all this stuff... I am not working I was looking for a job but then I got pregnant and now I can't find a sitter for my daughter were just getting by now and I dont have a clue what were gonna do with 2 more... I am trying to find a job so I can work from my home...

In NY (where my sis lives) 2nd showers are all the rage.  They are called "Sprinkles."

If people are willing to throw a shower, don't get in your own way!

I had a baby shower with each one of my pregnancies granted they are far apart (7 and 10 years)
I did have 3! I feel though if someone wants to throw you a shower then go ahead!
Beth

No way! I totally think each pregnancy deserves a shower of its own.

i had a shower last year thrown by my husband for our daughter cause i was sad no one offered to throw me one, now with identical twin boys on the way in 18 days still no one threw me one, so i bought used items off craigslist, bought from goodwill and recieved gently used clothing from family members, i must say i got good deals, but i just figured someone would throw me one being they are a different sex, but that being said, im grateful for having one the 1st time around............then  my sil said "you know i heard some people have sprinkles for their 2nd pregnancy"-yea then how come you dont throw me one, lol

i believe its more than  the material aspect of it, its a celebration, i guess we will celebrate them when i have them baptisied and have  a dinner party afterwards.