Vent and a few things NOT to say to someone who has suffered MC

I think that you are totally OK with that, not over reacting at all!!! My hubby was upset but he acknowledged that it was definately harder on me because the baby was inside me and he couldn't feel or see the baby yet so it wasn't as "real" to him. I understand his point of view too.

As for your OB and their staff there definately should have been more consideration! I was taken directly back to a room where I waited for the Dr to come in. She was straight forward but never demeaning or insensitive. The HR OB had called ahead for me and explained everything so I didn't have to also.

*hugs* hope you feel better. For me the D&E (similar to the D&C) was almost a relief because it was closure and helped me to move on.

Liz

Thank you ALL for being so understanding and for your honesty. Each day does get a little easier and we are healed just a little more. I wish the same for all of you!

You girls are my hero's  .. 

 Cathie,

Everyone handles m/c in different ways...I think the ones who are insensitive are the ones who do not believe it is a baby from the minute it is conceived...I DO...I think from the moment that egg is fertilized...that is a child...and when I suffered all 3 of my miscarriages...I felt as if I was morning the loss of a baby...not a fetus that was not fully developed and looked nothing like a baby yet...it was still MY BABY!!!

You are so entitled to feel any and every emotion that you are feeling...and my heart breaks for you....now i have one comment that was made to me when I lost my twins at 16 weeks...the u/s/ tech said...as she is telling me the babies died probably 3 weeks ago...well at least you have 7 healthy children already...so you should be able to get over this fairly quickly...well guess what...I didn't get over it quickly...those were my babies...and will forever been my babies..whether completely formed to look like a human or not!  

Anyway...I will kick my soap box aside...just know that I care about you and am praying for you to have some peace about this and then start BDing again and get another baby :)

Love and many hugs to you!

Laura

hugs I am so sorry.

My favorite comment was when I was told "its not really a miscarriage if its a chemical pregnancy.  it wasn't really a baby yet. its like you weren't even pregnant at all right?".

so that line that said I was pregnant was lying?  no HCG meaning nothing was fertilized.  no it was indeed a child that I lost. one that I wanted and one that I lost.

people really need kicked sometimes.

People are so insensitive.  And ditto to Mandy, when I had my chemical pregnancy in Feb. my friend said "well it wasn't even a realy baby"

Be strong girl!  I am so sorry you're going through this

I don't think you are over reacting either.  It is very hard to suffer a loss.  I know it is hard to bru**** off but try not to listen to these people and find your support with those of us that have been through it.  No one will understand what you are feeling better.  (((hugs))) Sorry for your loss.

I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am (I haven't been on in a while and think I missed your post).  Sending you healing hugs.

You are not overreacting at all. People say really insensitive things, whether they realize it or not, it doesn't make it right. I'm very sorry you're having to experience this and all the comments that people are saying.

My favorite one when I lost Noah's twin was..."atleast you still have one in there"...

Then my mom bought my crib bedding which had ..."two by two"...printed all over it.  When I told her about it and how it made me feel she said, Oh I forgot all about him being a twin, please does remind me again, it's just too painfull...WTF really, too painfull for you mom? 

Some people don't understand until you have been there.  It is your baby no matter how far along you were and you have every right to scream, punch, pitch a good ol drunk what ever you need to do to help you through this time of loss.

Yeah I got the Well, at least you know you can get pg.. I hate that one, I wanted to hert the people because I wanted both of my two.....

People are very insensitive and I know sometimes they dont seem to be, but we have to remember that we are overly emotional at this time...

I am sorry, sometims that is enough sometimes the most simple thing is overlooked by those around us....

Cathie I'm sorry you lost the baby hun...