My 2 cents and I'm going to tick people off

I don't see where ANYTHING I said was mean.  it really SHOULDN"T matter to you what others do with thier births.  I"m sorry if that bugs you. 
If I had chosen to find a doctor that would induce at 39 weeks or do a completely elective csection than that would be MY perogotive...nothing for you to be concerned with.

Edited to add:

part of why doctors do some of the things they do is the insurance issues in this country.  malpractice insurance is awfully high in the country.  it hardly pays to be a doctor anymore and I most certainly don't want thier job.

some of the nurses I had were blessings.  I'm sure they cared more than others but some yes, could care less once they go home...it is  JOB afterall.

*looks for the end for the world*

lol.  you know we're going to end up buddies right? lol  ok maybe not but tolerating seems ok.

I am going to be having my third c-section in November. I wish I could do a VBAC, but they are not allowed at my hospital if you have had two previous c-sections.

But I'm really glad you posted this. I get frustrated when people talk about being induced so casually too, especially when it's not medically necessary. There are way to many c-sections being performed and people just don't seem to understand that it is not just another way of giving birth. It is major surgery and can have major complications. It can also cause scar tissue and adhesions that can cause bowel abstructions - something we are already at a higher risk for from having had gastric bypass and possibly other abdominal surgeries. It can have an affect on fertility. 

I wish I had researched and understood more before I had my first child. 

Melanie

Thanks Melanie - you just made me smile :)

I didn't have a choice with either of my pregnancies, and I would have given my right leg to go all natural with both of them. I too cringe when I hear about inductions for convenience sake, because I know so many people who ended up having to have c-sections due to failed inductions, and the whole c-section thing, you don't even want to get me started on that.
 
I had planned right up until I went into labor to have the triplets natural, but at the last moment baby A shifted and placed his rear end right over my cervix and made that impossible, the second one I had to have because they had to give me a vertical incision while delivering the triplets and the risk of rupture was too high for me to labor or push. I had text book c-sections, was up and running in a few hours and took little to no pain meds, but even though I did great the aftermath was horrible. I developed adhesion's with the first one that made it impossible for me to stand up straight, go to the bathroom or even breath without pain, and I had to have two more surgeries to remove them and repair the damage caused by them. I have already started to feel twinges of pain during the healing of this one that make me fearful that I will go though that whole thing all over again.

I feel this same frustration when I read about breastfeeding on any message board, and I don't really post about it anymore or give advice because it's too frustrating to me to type out all the info I have and put my heart out there to help and then hear all the reasons and excuses why people could not nurse, or why they are not willing to try what will work to make their nursing relationships successful. So I bite my tongue, and rant to my husband LOL 

I agree with you 100%. I had four natural, wonderful births. Like you I used hypnobirthing and I had Reagan in the car after 25 minutes of labor. When I got pregnant with Riley I was so excited because we had different insurance and instead of an hour car ride I could go to the closer hospital 30 minutes away. So I made my appointment and met with the doctor from hell who told me that I was too old and too fat to be having a baby. I posted that I was terrified of going there now because I would have a 1/3 chance of getting his OB when it came time. I don't know if you were reading the board at that time and remember how awful it was and how torn up I was over what to do about Riley's birth.

I decided to go to my old OB and to be induced with Riley. I will regret that decision until my dying breath. Not only did my doctor carelessly break my water when Riley was still floating but it caused a prolapsed cord and I had a stat C-section. Riley was born not breathing with an apgar of 2/3. He spent 5 days very ill not being able to eat or be held for 4 of them. He is my fussiest baby and part of me wonders if a bad birth makes for a stressed out baby.

Another part of me knows that had the cord prolapsed in the car then 100% he would have died so I will never know. I do know that I feel very ripped off about his birth. I loved Reagan's birth, I love reliving it, I cry when I think of the fact that I wasn't even awake during Riley's. I was not there to comfort him, he must have been so scared not being able to breathe.

If I had to do it over again, I would have checked in to a hotel a few days before I was due. I wish I could go back. We only get that experience a few times in our life. My total combined labor for all 5 of my birth was less then 17 hours so I did have it easier then most I am not sure what I would do after 10 hours of hard labor every 2 minutes. My doctor made a mistake but it was ultimately my choice that almost cost Riley his life.

WOW! I wasn't reading the board then and I wish I had been! Tears in my eyes :(

My ultimate goal is healthy baby, healthy Mom -- don't feel ripped off you got a beautiful ife to cheri****hink about all my miscarriages and I know I wouldn't be the Mom I am today if so many weren't taken by God, it gives me more patience, more love, and I laugh at some "experiences" that some kids would get yelled at for... we just go clean them up. :) We all have our own path and I believe that everything that happened with Riley was meant to be... you're right - you'll never know what could have been, and perhaps we should be thanking Him for that. 
Thanks for posting that - it also reminds me to keep thinking about and praying for those I have lost touch with... we were your secret Santa many years back. :) Right?

Yes, Reagan was Paige's Santa! I had a terribly emotional pregnancy with Riley and just before I got pregnant I had put on about 15 pounds. When I went to that awful doctor my BMI was 38 and my age was 38. The doctor made a joke about the same number, looked me in the eye and told me I was too old and too fat to be having a baby. I swear that made me not be able to make rational decisions.

I hope you have a wonderful birth. I wish all doctors would offer hypno birthing. Babies would be flying out in my opinion LOL.

I don't go into labor, I dilate all the way to a 5 at 39 weeks and never have one contraction.  So inducing is usually the only way they're gonna get out.  Plus having a special needs child on top of a husband that is usually out of the country when I deliver doesn't help either.  As far as the epidurals go, hell I wish I could get one, they just never seem to work for me, fun spine huh? 

To each there own.  None of my military hospitals have ever offered an elective c-section or induction at any of the bases I have ever been to.  Maybe civilians have more choices then we do, but I will tell you this that after 72 hours of labor with my first son and no pain relief I was begging for a c-section and still didn't get one.