Guess I should introduce myself...Sorry LONG
Welcome. I can understand where you are coming from with the fear- I lived my entire pregnancy with my daughter haunted by what happened the first time (m/c). I have come to realize and rationalized this often with myself- there isn't anything more I could have done, or would be able to do now. But I try harder to enjoy everyday with my baby, even when I swear I could pull her piggies out of my girl-town. I also was followed by a RE that gave me great hope (I conceived on my own too)..but they were a source of strength, support. and knowledge They truly cared about their patients. I had so many u/s I lost count..but I knew she was healthy. I had them weekly from about 5 weeks to 12 or 13 (because of having genetic testing done). Then around 18-20. Then lots after that to monitor growth. I am amazed since i have learned to relax more how much faster this (my 2nd since my loss) pregnancy is going.
With my 1st daughter the pregnancy seemed to last 2 years, it must have been the anxiety. The m/c taught me a lot about myself, my family, Dr's and just changed who I was. I also put on some weight after the m/c and battled with myself. I still have my bad days especially around the holidays when baby was to be here, where I wonder what that baby would have been like (boy / girl, fussy / content, a good sleeper, blue / green / brown eyed, etc) My sister lost a baby 2 months after I did...but because her loss was later in her pregnancy- she had a funeral service for the baby. The words of that service helped me through- I remember finally realizing I had been given a gift. The ceremony explained that God blesses special people with babies that can only be with them or on earth a short period of time- because HE knows that those people can give that child the unconditional love they need and then move forward. So- as hurt as I was I knew I was also very blessed. (This coming from someone who is not very religious- but those words helped me move forward). I wish I was able to get a hold of that ceremony- it was very touching and was told much better then I summarized.
I am sending positive vibes that your pregnancy this time continues to be healthy and very soon, you can be telling us all about the baby.
With my 1st daughter the pregnancy seemed to last 2 years, it must have been the anxiety. The m/c taught me a lot about myself, my family, Dr's and just changed who I was. I also put on some weight after the m/c and battled with myself. I still have my bad days especially around the holidays when baby was to be here, where I wonder what that baby would have been like (boy / girl, fussy / content, a good sleeper, blue / green / brown eyed, etc) My sister lost a baby 2 months after I did...but because her loss was later in her pregnancy- she had a funeral service for the baby. The words of that service helped me through- I remember finally realizing I had been given a gift. The ceremony explained that God blesses special people with babies that can only be with them or on earth a short period of time- because HE knows that those people can give that child the unconditional love they need and then move forward. So- as hurt as I was I knew I was also very blessed. (This coming from someone who is not very religious- but those words helped me move forward). I wish I was able to get a hold of that ceremony- it was very touching and was told much better then I summarized.
I am sending positive vibes that your pregnancy this time continues to be healthy and very soon, you can be telling us all about the baby.
Thanks for your kind words and the positive vibes!
Only a woman who has gone through miscarriage can truly understand what it's like. The rest of the world (including husbands sometimes) think we should be able to just get over it and get on with life but I still think about that baby I lost who would be a month old now.
Thanks again.
Only a woman who has gone through miscarriage can truly understand what it's like. The rest of the world (including husbands sometimes) think we should be able to just get over it and get on with life but I still think about that baby I lost who would be a month old now.
Thanks again.
Lap Band September 2007 / Slip discovered March 2014 after significant regain / Revised to VSG April 29, 2014
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