Just a vent...

So Drew will be 2 months old tomorrow. I can't believe how fast time goes (I said this to my mother, she turned to me and said "wait and see how fast he turns 27" lol.)

Anyways - Andy (my baby daddy/boyfriend of 6 years) is the love of my life - I expect to be with him for the remainder of my life. Drew is my first and now only child. Yep that's right - Andy got neutered the other day. Initially I was fine with the idea because we have a big family now since he had 3 children before we had Drew. Gary is 18, Mariah is 16, and Alyssa is 10. While they all adore Drew to death, I feel like not giving him a brother or sister closer to his age isn't fair to him. I was an only child and while I loved it, there were a lot of times that I wished I had a brother or sister.

There is nothing I can do about it now - but it is just kind of hitting me that I will never get to experience having another child. At least I have Drew who has captured my heart and made me a much better person. It's just kind of sad.

Ok that's my rant. Thanks for listening!

Did he consult you first or just go and have it done?   I think I would be somewhat upset too, if I was you.   It's such a drastic move and a final one at that. (they actually can try to reverse it, but it isn't easy or certain). 

At 27, you still are pretty young.  I hope you don't change your mind in the future.  

Babies are a blessing.   Hold tight to your darling little one!

Bonnie

He did ask me my opinion on it, but basically told me that he was doing it regardless. He had 4 children and that was enough for him. Which - if I had 4, I would probably feel the same way. Of coarse I would like another one but I can also look at it, that I can give him my 100% undivided attention.

I can so see where you are coming from. My husband had 3 kids and I have one. We just lost a baby together in June. And alot of time he talks about how we are almost done having kids and how much cool stuff we can do when the kids are all out. We have a 18,15,14 and 10 year old. Sometimes I think yeah we are almost done....and that can be exciting but...I still feel like I want more kids. We are just back and forth. That really stinks that you are done though :(

Jackie

I am having my tubes tied after this baby. I was really depressed for 3 days after signing the papers. But the way I look at it is that I am 39 and done...hubby is 33. I would like for him...god forbid something happens to me...to be able to find another spouse and have children if he wants.

In a way what your SO did was kinda nice. You are still young and have the opportunity to move on if something happens to him. And you knew getting into the relationship that he had 3 already. I know it sucks emotionally, but I think of it as an unselfish act on his part. He didn't ask you to get fixed. Shari

I can see both sides of the fence so to speak. I go back and forth about wanting to have more kids...sometimes...mainly on days Emad misbehaves, I say no thank you, one is good, family name will carry on, and he is getting to a tolerable age and some freedoms come back, other days, I want a baby badly. The indecision lets me know I am not ready for a definite decision.
My sister had two kids before the age of 25 and got her tubes tied. Her S/O was 10 years older and had one previous child, so 3 total. Well things are now not so good for them, she thinks about leaving, is only 32 and wonders if she found someone else would it last because what if they wanted kids...
So, maybe his decision was the best for you guys. As you said you plan to be with him forever and Drew and his other kiddos could be all you need but God forbid something happen you would still have the option to have more children.