a confessional... I'm scared...

of sex! I know I know - I am 29 years old and pregnant what the hell am I talking about. I know it is irrational but I am afraid that in someway sex is going to harm my pregnancy. I've been able to fend off hubby so far but he is going to catch on soon. I'll expain it all to him this weekend. 

Please tell me that I am maybe not the only one. BUT I feel like I have to take EVERY precaution now because I am so afraid that this pregnancy will end in another miscarriage. I Am sure that there is no relation between sex and miscarriage and since my last miscarriage was a blighted ovum (everything pretty much stopped at implantation - I had an empty sack that stopped growing at 8 weeks and had a D&E at 11 weeks and NEVER had a sign telling me there was trouble).

I am so super emotional about everything and this is no exception. I am taking care of myself and relaxing knowing that this is all in God's hands now and he has the master plan.

Thanks for listening as always!

Liz,

The mind is a powerful thing. I can definitely understand your feelings. I know that the medical books and the gynie say its okay and " yada yada yada". I just feel like something bad will happen. I know its all in my mind. Fiance' started getting extremely frisky and we "did the do" and the next day is when I was in the ER with my spotting and cramping. Damn near a month later I felt so bad for denying him, but was so uncomfortable with doing it. I thought I would lose the baby for sure or start cramping. I havent fully discussed this with him either.

Thanks for sharing - so glad that I am not the only one. I know I'll give in to him eventually - just trying to hold out until after the US on the 8th!

Liz, you've got a good guy on your hands, I'm pretty sure if you tell him you're afraid, he'll be ok with it.   Besides, you are a creative cook, start thinkin up a new recipe to satisfy the man's hunger....   You 'kin do it!

lol thanks Jackie :)

Girl since I had spotting the first 13 weeks or so I did NOTHING!!! Hubby was so sad about it but he understood. I told him I was afraid and that it scared me and he was very understanding. I would tell hubby so he does not think its him. I am sure he may still have some of the same worries. I know even since then hubby has been lucky to maybe have gotten any fun 10 times since I got pregnant. With the kidney infections and the gallbladder surgery and healing a lot has happened but at least he is understanding and does not pu****old him we have plenty of years for that even though its driving me nuts too. :) I think talking about it is the best thing and makes it much easier for the guys. In other words YES I felt so much the same. TERRIFIED!! Big hugs though and I know you will do great with this.

I dont know where those start came from in my previous post they are not there when I try and edit. Thats so funny!!!

I'm scared but I guess the "good" thing is that my husband is even more scared than I am.  He won't lay a hand on me right now.  He said he will after the first trimester is over. 

Funny thing is, I don't have any sex drive anyway.  I'm just not interested...

I haven't had sex this entire pregnancy nor did I have sex my entire pregnancy with the twins.   It's not for lack of wanting it either.  

Just irrational about sex and pregnancy.  

My husband wasnt allowed to even think about touching me until after the first trimester when I got pregnant after my miscarriage.  I also Know/knew it wasnt going to change  anything...but seriously how could I even enjoy it when I was soooo nervous.  Your feelings are your feelings and they are valid.  You do whatever crazy thing(s) help you get through your pregnancy...and hubby should happily support you (at least outwardly! :)) I have a doppler and would listen for the babies heartbeat after we had sex (but before I could feel her move) to make sure she was ok.  So, color me crazy, but I made it through!! :) Blessings!!-Jen Q.