Getting genetic info from absent Grandpa

As a nurse I understand that a good genetic history is crucial to understanding potential risks to baby. The problem? My Husband's dad bailed on his mom when she got pregnant in Indonesia. As such, My husband only met the man once when he was 10 for like an hour. Now we know where he lives and his phone number and address in Houstan...thank you people search.com. But the idea of calling or writing him is just...weird! My husband doesn't resent the guy...his mom is a bit....well....off so we kinda get why an 18 yeard old Japanese guy might have headed for the hills. And he did have a very loving and supported childhood. But still, Hubby is 30 and doesn't know this guy and now we're talking about calling him up like "oh hey! Whats up? I'm your 30 year old son and I was wondering if you could fill out a health questionaire for me."  You know what I mean?
      Another facet is the fact that there is this whole piece of my childs family they will be completely unaware of and thats sad....especially since its a piece of a completely different culture and heritage from the rest.  So the idea of connecting to this family is tempting.  I guess I'm just looking for your thoughts and feelings on the subject.

When I turned 18. I had one goal in my mind, to find my father's father. And I did. It was the best decision. I'm grateful every day that I did it. My family has now found the remaining half. He is a wonderful guy. I wouldnt trade it for anything.

I say go for it. Its just a letter, if he does responde you may never know what could happen.

Sara

I am in a somewhat similar boat as my hubby has an irish daddy he doesn't know and hasn't been able to locate.  To me this really isn't an issue.  Hubby is happy and i figure why worry about genetic things when there is nothing you can do to change them anyway.  I also went the way of no genetic testing.