Getting pregnant before the 18 months...

Well I'll introduce my self. I'm 23 got RNY Feb 09. Just had acouple of question concerning getting pregnant before the 18 months. They tell you should go on birth control---not get pregnant blah blah... My situation is this my fiance wants babies I've told him we would have to wait due to that I got surgery, but I feel it sometimes puts a strain in the relationship. Even though I got  the surgery to become healthy and be able to have kids and have a healthy pregnancy and my ideal age to have kids is 25. Which everything has worked out pretty good. And I'm on birth control and my weight lost has been excellent up to now. But in the case anything happens [[cause you never know]]... as anyone that has become pregnant before the recommended time had any complications, your advice... anything would help.

You are 23, you have plenty of time to have babies.  Enjoy the weight loss and getting to know the new you.  It is an amazing journey of self-discovery!!!  Have you done all the things you want to do before bringing children into this world - like school, career, travel  etc.

Let your fiance make you his wife first.  If he loves you, he will stick right by you and wait until you've lost all your excess weight and your body is healthy and stable for both you and babies.  A man who loves you wants you to be as healthy as possible

Best,
L

My ideal age to become a millionaire was 30.   I'm currently 31 and not a millionaire.   Plans change and life happens.  

You are only 23 and you are not even married yet.   Yes, you are engaged, but how about you seal the deal before having kids.   You have plenty of time to have children and even more time to experience life.  

My piece of advice........GROW UP!   Part of becoming a parent is putting the child first.   To think about trying to get pregnant now when you are so fresh out of surgery is ridiculous.  Yes, it happens and it has happened to plenty of women on this board.   Yes, they have gone on to have healthy children, but why even put yourself in that position?  

Things don't just "happen" out of thin air.   So if you think your BC pills are going to fail you, then tell your fiance to wear a condom.   If he loves you, then he would realize that now is not the time to have children.   Your body is still healing from your surgery and the Dr is telling you to wait for a reason.   If your FI is putting that much pressure on you then you need to think long and hard about your relationship.  

I 2nd everything Julie had to say. 

I always wanted kids young, like 20 21, and luckily I waited a bit longer.  I was just barely 26 when I had my first.  Make sure you have your priorities straight with your life as a whole before you bring a baby into this world.  Having kids is a full time plus job and it isn't something you can just decide to do one day and take off a few days here and there.  There have been a few times that I have wanted to go out to the bars with my friends, who are and are not married and have no kids, but I don't because I have a beautiful daughter that depends on me 24/7.  She is my life, and that is how it should be with any other parent out there. 

hello..... wait... for 2 reasons... you are young... very young... and 2 your body is healing... i had my son when i was 22..... super super hard... i wasnt done partying... and girl i can party... i was in school... working full time... basically i had no time to even shower... i got preggo... and have the most wonderful little man in my life... his name is jayson!... i have gone out ONCE since he was born ( hes almost 1).... and i didnt even have fun because i felt super guilty i wasnt home loving up on my baby... guess what else? im still not back in school.... fast forward 9 months .. i met a guy... we have a wonderful relationship... had one slip up 4th of july weekend... and here i am again... 14 weeks along with number 2... im 23 yoa... while i love being a young mom.. i wish i had lived my life a little first... now i will never travel.. never get to do the things my friends are doing... and thats ok.. they will be adults by the time im 43 and ill be able to do all those things then... anyway... my advice is wait

First of all thanks for the advice... I'm not sure if everyone got what my post really was about. But I'm not really gonna go into depth I just wanted to know if any one had any difficulties...complications.

I got pregnant early out but not on purpose.  My weightloss was GREAT but as soon as I got pregnant it stopped.  I never lost another pound.  I had no complications but I also gained 50 lbs which isn't typical of a post-op either.  LOL.  I lost most of the weight within 2 weeks of having him but like I said, I never got down past my pre-pregnancy weight which really bummed me out.  
I'd wait at least the year mark if you want to have a baby, just for your weightloss sake.  Complications don't happen very often but they can.  Just be careful.

Take care and good luck!
Sandy