Honest opinions on age please.

I turned 36 one month after my son was born in April. My husband and I never thought we would have our DS but we are very blessed with him.  Here's what I need opinions on. How long should we wait before we try again? We are not getting any younger and if we are so fortunate and blessed enough to have another child we would like for them to grow up together. I am/was extremely healthy before during and after my pregnancy  and had a very good outcome. Any suggestions?

You say you never thought you would have ds.... did you have fertility issues? I tried for 5 years and we were blessed with dd....positive she would be our only one. I was 37 when I had her and 38 when we got our surprise pg #2. Sometimes after a pg your hormones really level out and your body just seems to know what to do. We started trying after Emma was 9 months and I found out we were pg when she was 13 months. We both have fertility issues though and figured we would never get pg again, so why not try soon. The average time for a healthy couple without issues to conceive is 8 months. Of course that doesn't mean you won't get lucky on your first try.

I will have to say that I have had major anxiety about having 2 so close together. DD will be 21 months when our son is born. I think sometimes how hard it is to do things with just her by myself and I wonder what the heck I have gotten myself into...lol I know people do it all the time...but just the other day I ran to get sandwiches from subway with dd and thought how much different it would be with a toddler and a baby. IF I were younger and had less problems conceiving I would have waited a bit longer. But, we are truly blessed so I will take what I have been given.

The other thing to consider is that if you had a c section... they want you to heal for 18 months. They say wait 18 months to ttc again....but I did get the okay from my ob to start trying sooner as long as I wouldn't be having a baby within the 18 months...hence starting to try at 9 months just in case.

Good luck. Shari

Thank you so much for you response. Good points. Before my wls I was not able to conceive due to PCOS. I guess that magically disappeared because we got pregnant the month after I decided to stop taking bc pills to see what would happen. I am of course back on the progesterone pill for now since we may not know what can or can't happen from here. If we were younger we wouldn't be as concerned. I thought about waiting until DS is at least 9 months or so. I have wondered myself how to due it with 2 instead of just 1 but like you said, mother's have been doing it since the beginning of time. God just gives us the strength. :)
Good luck to you.

I'd say that's a totally personal decision - my Grandmother's both have "Irish Twins" babies that are less then a year apart. My Mom was born in  April and her brother followed the following Feb.

I say go for it!  MAybe it will take a few months to TTC and it will work out perfectly

Good Luck!!

My daughters are 16 months apart and I had anxiety about how I was going to deal with a newborn and toddler. It is going just fantastic and is not bad as I thought it would be. The only part that even remotely bothers me is the getting up every 3-4 hours in the middle of the night. Other than that everything is perfect. Although my toddler is 17 months old and she is into everything now, it's a *****allenging because she now throws tantrums and climbs on EVERYTHING. You will manage, I say try as soon as you are ready, it's really not bad!

Hi There....

I totally understand where you are coming from....I was 39 when my son was born 10 months ago and now am 40 (duh) and anxious to have one more at least....am worried about my age and how to do it all with a demanding job....my DH is almost out of the navy and once that is over with we will likely start TTC again....but am completely in utter bliss with my son and have to realize if that is all God has in store for us then I will deal with it....

I say go for it...and I agree with the other posters, we will figure it out with two....and as you said... God gives us the strength.....

Hugs and Congrats,

Ann

I think it would probably be best to wait at least a year between trying.  But of course that is just me.  I don't think I would want 2 in diapers at the same time.  But, of course do what you feel is right for your family.  Good luck in whatever you decide!