OT: Toddler Problems

Please tell me tantrums and whining are normal at 17 months old. YIKES! For the past two days Nylah has been hanging on my leg non stop, last night I went for my 45 minute walk and she cried at the door for me until I got back (poor DH had a colicky baby to deal with too). OOps.

Anyway I so do not like whining, its very annoying. I am so patient and talk so nice to her and she still insists on whining, and when she is playing and gets angry she starts whining and gets so mad and starts throwing things. And after she throws it she says "not nice". sigh so she knows she's being naughty?!?

Does anyone have any advice if you ever dealt with this? I do not like yelling at children and I can't stand constantly saying NO, I want her to explore but I want her to be happy and she just seems so miserable.

When my son used to whine I'd just tell him I couldn't understand him when he whined...and if he had to repeat what he said several times until he lost the whine in his voice, that was fine.  Don't yell when you say it...just say it in a firm but normal voice.

Re throwing things...I'd take them away if she threw them and just tell her that since she threw it, she obviously didn't want it.  Put it away for a few hours where she can't have it.

Now Riley is over 2 1/2. So reasoning with her is a little easier. But I take her to her room, and tell her when she is ready to play nice or talk nice, she can come out and be with the rest of us. She usually lasts about 2 minutes in her room until she comes out with a smile on her face. And if she is still grumpy, I take her to her room and tell her that she's allowed to be grumpy all she wants. But only in her room.

This works well as she usually plays with her stuff alone till she snaps out of it, or she changes her mood quickly so she can join me or her dad or brothers.

Ah- my DD had begun this phase..which I contributed to learning it from the new older kids at daycare (she changed rooms at 1).  She is just about 14 months and she tries to bite in frustration and will throw things and lay on the floor.  We usually tell her to stop and then walk away or put her away from the situation...I admit if she bites me I do tap her face for doing it and tell her no.  I'm not a fan of yelling, hitting or saying no all the time.  The response from her varies right now, but I doing it consistently hoping for results.  She has also recently begun the leg clinger..and screaming.  YIKES.

This morning when I took her cup, she was almost empty and I was trying to give her some more milk...she tried to bite me, but was so frustrated she was biting herself.  She quickly stopped.  Additionally, we are teaching her sign language to try to reduce frustration around certain area..food, poopy diapers, etc.  Good luck!

No advice but man I hope someone gives you some because I am in the same boat. It was been this way since about 18 months and she is now 25 months. Sucks! The worst is when they KNOW they are being naughty. Yesterday I asked her if she needed a time out - she screamed yes at me, got in the naughty chair and started laughing. Um can we say possessed much?? I have tried taking away toys, turning off elmo if she is watching, it doesn't matter. Ugh.

Oh gosh that sounds NOT GOOD. I believe we are headed in that direction, I better get down to Borders and get a book on this because I need to get ahead or know what to do when she starts talking back, we haven't gotten there yet but I know it will come. She has been climbing on anything she can get to and throwing things. I tell her no or make her sit and time out and she does the same, laugh at me or pretend she is getting up to spite me. Seriously it's hard having a toddler.