Depressed (please no flaming)

SHANNYN B.
on 8/31/09 9:29 pm
I think its quite normal to want one sex or the other when you already have kids especially. I wanted a girl every time for that reason. I dont think there is anything wrong with that at all. At least you are honest about your feelings and can express them. I know you will love the little boy with all your heart but it is a disappointing kind of feeling when you want one and get the other then when you find out its sad and then you get past it and fall in love anyway. I say vent and let it all out and feel better. It is a sad thing and I am happy you said it.
I am so sorry about having to go to the ER. Kids seem to do that kind of thing when its supposed to be a relaxing time. I bet he was strong and brave.
Big hugs for you both and I hope your mom is doing better!!
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Hayvann 11-22-09
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Kinzy 4-2-11







Just-Jenn
on 8/31/09 9:44 pm - Midstate Region, PA
I think you covered it exactly by saying that you know this baby is a blessing and that you are mourning your feelings.  We are all entitled to have our opinions and our feelings and dreams.  I always wanted children...I was thrilled to find out I was pregnant, didnt matter boy or girl as long as the baby was healthy.  People basically proded me all last pregnancy if I was glad it was a girl...really I was indifferent.  Thrilled baby was healthy.  This time, we are having another little girl.  It seems odd to me, my family had all boys. My sisters has 2 boys, my brother has 1 boy.  Then I had my girl..then my sister had her surprise baby (her boys are 16 and 19) and it was a girl..she PANICED.  She thought she wanted a girl, but she completely freaked out.  She was like how do I care for a girl?  What is going to happen when she wants MY jewlery, and my advise, and wants me- not only am I not the best example (she means during teen years)- I'm old. LOL..I guess my point is that we all have our dreams and hopes.  I would have liked to have had a boy and had one of each so I could be "done"...but I look at the positives I saved a lot of money by reusing all my girl things.  I keep saying a he would have looked extremely odd with all pink, purple and aqua. 
I am sorry to hear about all of your stress- that certainly doesnt help with the hormones.  My husband doesn't have one romantic bone in his body anymore.  So- hopefully, your plans were just delayed.  ((Hugs))


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floflo1981
on 9/1/09 12:06 am - Huntsville, AL
I am pregnant with my first so I cannot relate, but wanted to say Congrats on joining the blue team...

~Flora

Lilypie - (zx1x)


Pre-op 284/Current 180/Goal 145  5'5
Surgery Date:April 23, 2007



 

tripmom02
on 9/1/09 2:13 am - NJ
When I first found out that I was having a boy I was a little dissapointed (this is DH's fourth boy, my third and we have one girl), but then I just think about the fact that I am going to have a TON of daughters in my life eventually when my boys get married (and I get to skip the whole PMS, puberty, nasty teenager phase too! LOL). I take as many notes as I can when people complain about their MIL's so that I know what NOT to do.

Courtney - Lap band to VSG revision
      

    
biggeekgirl
on 9/1/09 3:06 am

Poor Logan!   Hope he's doing alright.

I was a bit disappointed at not having a girl.... (this was my first) so I can only imagine the feeling magnified in your case.

I know once you get over the disappointment you'll love him to death!  (And you'll save money by not having to buy all new clothes/toys, etc!) 

Take Care,

Cindy

Surgery on 4/25/05 , Dr. Alverdy in Chicago.  God Bless the DS !!!
Highest Weight = 412lbs, Surgery Weight = 359lbs, Current Weight = 155lbs (5'7" tall)http://www.picturetrail.com/gid8138761
 Lilypie



 
Kathy W.
on 9/2/09 4:30 am - Enfield, CT
RNY on 01/15/08 with
First of all I would like to say I will rip ANYONE who decides to flame you about this. Those darn hormones can make you crazy. I was only 6 weeks along when we lost Munchkin and I well remember the crazyness. I can't imagin how bad it can get later on.

I just see this as venting. You are NOT saying you don't want him cause he is a boy. At least I don't see that. You just wanted a girl. Personally I want boys cause I am scared to death to have a girly girl. I will be butting heads with the MIL about putting her in pink, ribbons, and bows. BLECH! At the same time, having a girl would get me in her good graces since she wants a grandaughter. She had two boys and always wanted a girl.

I shall now be know as Hagatha: Queen of the queens.

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