? about husband and unexpected pregnancy

I have never posted here before. I just found out I am pregnant yesterday. It was a total surprise. My husband and I ahve been together for 9+ years. We ahd tried to get pregnant before with no luck. I am 9 months out and wasn't "really" trying. I told my husband yesterday and he isn't exactly for having a baby right now. His motive is mainly financial. I am pretty emotional right now so try not to come down to hard on me. I mainly am just looking for some words of encouragment.

I would say remind him you had tried before to have a baby, and that baby had you been successful would only be at the most 9 years old now so financially you would be in the same position.  Plus there is no good financial time to have a baby.  You just can't really plan for a baby's cost completely.  Give him time, he may just be in shock and this is his way of dealing with it.  Also encourage him to talk about his feelings without judging him on what he says.  This will help you understand the position he feels he is in (it is very likely the male provider genes kicked in when you told him and he paniced).  Good luck and congrats no matter what!

Thanks for your reply. I was pretty excited when I took the test. I told him he needs to take a few days and think everything through. But I can't help being happy!

I don't blame you!  Here's to a healthy 9 months!

Hi Sister,

I say congratulations are in order.  Financially, things will never be the way you want them before you have a baby...at least that's been my experience.  You are a lot healthier now than you were and I'm sure that makes this pregnancy a lot safer.  It's going to be an exciting time for you and your family.  I think he will come around in a few days.  If not, you know we are behind you and support you no matter what.  My sister is pregnant, due Sep. 28th with baby #3.  She is happy about it, but was a little down at first because she's 39.  But, so far, so good.  A baby is always a blessing!!!!!!!  You are going to experience pregnancy at a healthy weight and will be able to find cute maternity clothes.  I know as a plus size person, I had a hard time finding cute clothes.  When I did find a couple things, I had to pay a lot of $ for them. 

I'm happy for you my friend.

Hugs,

Tammy :-)

Congrats on your pregnancy!  I know how your husband is feeling.  We weren't trying either and found out I was pregnant at a really bad time.  I just started school and am unemployed.  Then we found out it was twins.  I'm 26 weeks and STILL getting over the shock and we found out at 6w!  LOL.  
Your hubby will come around.  If we wait until things are financially in order, we'd never have kids. ;-)

Good luck to you!  You'll get lots of support here!  And again, CONGRATS!!

Sandy

Oh, sweetie, I am so happy for you!  Congratulations!  These blessing always seem to come with worry... you know that's part of being a good momma.  Hoping just a little time to get used to the idea is all your DH needs to be super excited.  Pamper yourself and your tiny growing bean in celebration.   D2K

My husband has never been super excited when I was pregnant I have 3 children, an angle and a baby on the way. He has always stayed reserved the entire pregnancy. When the baby arrives it is a completely different story.  He loves each and everyone and is the best dad. I just have to remember that he stresses about my health, the money,  he is the soul financial provider. It is okay to be happy. This last time I told my husband I told him he could stress all he wanted but this baby is a miracle and I am excited.

Hi,

Congrats!

I sent you a private message.

Patti

We were not trying when I got pregnant with Lex. It hit us hard we were planning our wedding, planning a cross country move, my other two sons were 9 & 10 it was crazy. Once we both saw that first ultrasound, nothing else mattered. He just needs time to let it sink in. Congrats and remember babies are miracles and gifts, you have been blessed. I believe the man upstairs just knew you were ready before you did!