Is impending doom a normal fear?

Hey guys,

So.. I have this feeling of impending doom. I have a feeling that because this is something I have always wanted that it is going to be snatched away (miscarriage, psychotic baby stealing nurse or aliens) Yes I know this sounds stupid.. but I am being very honest. It seems like all of my fears are coming to surface and then magnified times one trillion. I have been sooooo emotional lately. I am treating my fiancee' so badly. I dont know if this is normal. Every morning for the past two days I have had mini breakdowns. I'm open to advice and experiences...

Thanks,
Jasmin 

 I really don't have any words of advice but from my experience with this pregnancy... pregnancy is SUPER stressful.  From constant TP checking to baby snatching dreams, to being the worst parent in the world... I've done nothing but stress most of the pregnancy.  My poor LO.   Last night I had a mini breakdown in the tub and freaked DH out.  All because I was afraid I'm going to be a horrible mom.  

PS.. Lately when I'm out shopping, I check around me to make sure people are being extra "starey" and watching me to snatch my baby from my womb!  That's how paranoid and psycho I've gotten! LOL   Probably doesn't help that it's happened recently and has been on the news. 

I had that with my last pregnancy.  We tried for so long and had 2 miscarriages and I just felt like I was always waiting for the other shoe to drop with the pregnancy.  I think it's normal for those of us that have wanted this for so long and now it feels too good to be true.

Hope your fiance can find it in his heart to realize it's not you, it's the hormones and forgives you.  LOL.

Take care,
Sandy

Thanks so much you guys! These hormones are truly something else. I also share that fear of winning the award of the Worlds Most Horrible Mom. I am glad to see that there have been other paddlers in my boat.

Enjoy The Rest of Your Weekend,
Jasmin

I think it is normal I had those same feelings for a long time during my last pregnancy! I think as time goes on it will get better as baby grows and you get to experience new things along the way!! I wish you all the best!
Beth

I had a ton of fears too.... too many vitamins, not enough, gain too much weight, not enough.  I wanted an ultrasound every month, bought a doppler monitor, etc etc.

Horomones don't help.  Stress doesn't help. 

At some point I realized worrying wouldn't change anything.  My baby was in God's hands.  And I figured once he was born I'd stop worrying....nope!  Now there's a whole new set of items to worry about.  (SIDS, Vaccines, H1N1, blah blah blah)

I think the point I am trying to make is worrying does no good.  Do the best you can every day and let nature take its course.   Everything happens for a reason.

*hugs*

Cindy

I understand where you are coming from.  Every time I go to the bathroom, I fear seeing blood.  I am up now because I can't sleep due to worrying.  It hit me.  I was thinking, how am I going to pay bills, how can I afford diapers?  I can't afford to have this baby, yet I can't afford not too.  Then I think maybe God is trying to get my attention.  As someone else stated, I have ro realize that God is in control.  I am now wondering if this is God trying to get my attention to realize how much I truly need him.

I have the fear of wiping myself and seeing blood at any given time as well. I am with you all the way with the bills aspect. My fiancee' has a six year old and there is constant custody, child support and other court issues that seem to never resolve or that they resolve anytime soon. I dont want my child to be second class with anything, and I fear care expenses. The amount she is getting from child support is outrageous, although some people say that judges will ammend it to a degree once there is another child involved. He is an awesome dad and does so many things with his daughter. I just want my child to have all of the same oppurtunites and not be second class or struggle for anyone or anything especially if one child is damn near in the promise land. (sorry I know I am venting) just upsetting to me. I am a work-a-holic by nature. I work 70 hour weeks. I know I cant do this anymore, yet I feel compelled to because I want my child to have everything I never had and things easily acceptable to him/her. I feel so stressed in this area because I dont wanna be a bad mom. Hell, kids usually dont know when you are struggling, adults do. I just dont want that sitaution at all. (ok more venting I know). I agree that God holds everything in his hands. He is the all seeing and all knowing. He wotn ever give you more than you can bear. I am sure it will all work out. I know we cant be the only mommiess to be that worry or stress on finances. It will be fine.

I know how you are feeling.  It is like it is too good to be true.  Our hormones are a beast right now, which makes us emotional monsters...LOL.  However, I keep reminding myself that this is my blessing from God and I deserve it and what he has for me will be for me.  I also keep reminding myself that we create what we fear, so please be careful of your thoughts.

You will be just fine!

I also keep reminding myself that we create what we fear, so please be careful of your thoughts.


Girl,

Thanks so much for that sentence! It will carry me for awhile and then when I need something else to meditate on I will send you a message on the back end