Am I normal?

This is a question for the MC Club. I am able to start ttc again in about a month. Right now I am excited to be able to try again. But.. I have read some of the post here and I am getting scared. I am scared I will mc again and I am starting to  again. I think part of it is not knowing what happened. I accept that sometimes these things happen but I want to avoid it again so I want to know why. Someone PLEASE tell me they had similar issues too.

I am right there with ya sister in MC. I had mine in June - we were told good to go for july (after 1 normal cycle) well it ididn't happen last month but I am gearing up to ovulate next weekend (around then anyway ) and I just want it to happen in the worst way. I am scared to death that I am going to go to the 8 week appt and they aren't going to see the hearbeat and I'll have to go through this again. I had a blighted ovum so they tell me that it is a freak thing and that I should be fine next time - SHOULD BE - I am still scared!!

hang in there and hopefully we both get pregnant again quickly and with nice sticky healthy babies!!

*hugs*, thoughts and prayers!!

I question why all the time. Will I have a healthy baby again? I'm VERY scared. The thought of losing another baby is unbearable. I still think of my baby all the time and how I would almost be 20 weeks. Plus my brother's girlfriend is pregnant and she is due just a couple weeks after I was. So that's been hard but yet gives me hope. Plus I get to be an Auntie again!!  I think about what was wrong all the time. I'm even thinking of changing clinic's because I asked when I was pregnant to run my progesterone. And my doc didn't feel that using suppositories really help much. But I've seen so many women who it has helped with. So I think I'm going to change Dr's.

Jackie

I think it is VERY NATURAL to feel the way you do. I had my MC and had to wait two months before trying again. Well, yesterday was our IUI with our RE. I am scared, hopeful, and yet trying not to let myself even think it is possible to happen again. Then, I worry well if it does happen then I need to not get excited about it until 13 weeks. I think this is just something we think about.

The RE said there is nothing that you do or don't do that causes a MC. Also, he said it doesn't mean it will happen again next time. So, I am holding out to that and praying! Also, for all those that had a MC on this board and went on to have one, two, or three additional children that give me hope!

We are all here for you!!

Traci

I understand completely. I had one(MC) in Sept. 05 and got pregnant again in Dec. Healthy baby, but worried the 1st trimester. Had another one this March( blighted ovum) and it was 4 months after that until it happened again, was worried and I did have another one(Chemical) last weekend. It's crazy. I'm a worry wart anyway. I think it's always in the back of your mind. Lets all hope for sticky beans. Good luck to you. Just wanted to let you know, your not alone on your worrying.
I also wanted to add that I do have 3 beautiful blessings. 9,6 and 3. Now I have 3 angels.

I would say very normal.  I know after my m/c I was sad I was everytime AF showed..but then when I woke up and it was due- and took that HPT and got my BFP- I cried even more.  I was scared to death...so much so I think it took away from the joy. of my pregnancy  But my little girl is 13 months, and healthy and happy.  I reason with myself that I wouldnt have DD if I had a sucessful pregnancy the first time, it helps me cope.  It's still hard, even with a sucess and I pray this bundle will be the next "healthy and happy"..but I am a realist.  I know anything could happen.  I was due two days after Christmas, it makes Christmas a very hard time of year...but I try to look at the joy my daughter has brought.  And I certainly hope for those who don't have children that have suffered a loss- that your healthy sucessful pregnancy happens very soon.  Just remember being stressed and worried is normal- but you'l have to learn to cope so it doesnt affect your well being (I found that hard sometimes).

I'm having similar issues. I'm nine weeks as of yesterday. We have an u/s on Tuesday....and I'm scared to death. This has been a very different pregnancy for me. I've only had minor morning sickness. We saw the HB at almost 7 weeks, but I was not reassured. Some people might say it's because it was so soon after my last miscarriage, but I think I would feel this way if it we'd waited two years.The whole thing throws you for a loop. I don't like the feeling that I can't do something. We weren't gonna try again, but I couldn't stnad the thought of giving up on something that we've gone through so much for.

Anyways, You're not alone. Try and be brave.


Angie

So normal.  Not only am I terrified that I will have another MC, I'm afraid my pregnancy was a total fluke and I won't get pregnant again and even have the CHANCE to MC again.

My MC was in March.  Two of my too young, unmarried nieces "accidently" got pregnant.  One right before me and the other right after me.  One had her baby boy a couple of weeks ago and the other is due in October.  I couldn't even look at them for the longest time.  I was actually resentful of both of them. 

It has gotten somewhat better with time but when the baby boy was born, I could not bring myself to go to the hospital where the rest of the family was.  I was so wrapped up in my own pain that I just could not stop crying.  I went and saw him the next day but I still don't know how I managed to get through it.

Our's is a pain that only we who have been through it fully understand.  Sometimes I cannot believe it still hurts this much after all this time. 

I waited almost two years before we got pregnat again. I am wreck, I thought it would be okay, but I really miss my angle. We had a heart beat and it seemed like everything was fine and then nothing. It was not caught until 14 weeks and no explaination. I am terrified. We had our first utlrasound and I am 6 weeks 6 days today. I have my next appointment schedualed for 10 weeks. I will have another u/s and I am hoping to relax after that. I have told very few people and I have been praying like crazy. Good luck to you and God Bless. Also I have three children and one angle, there is hope.

The worry is so normal. I worry every day, and I am almost 17 weeks now. Before my miscarriage I had two successful not easy pregnancies, I never had any bleeding with either one. Then the MC, two months after the MC I got pregnant.  I had spotting, then on and off brown discharge that stopped around 12 weeks. Now I am just waiting for the other shoe to drop.

I did get a home doppler, that does reassure me when I am worried.  I had my 16 week appt this week, heart rate was good, I am measuring at 17 weeks.  I just try not to worry and can't wait until I can feel movement regularly.

Good Luck, baby dust to you for a sticky bean.