Miscarrying versus D&C
I miscarried and then had to have a D&C. If I had to go through it again I would make them do a D&C. It was too hard emotionally for me. Maybe if they do a d&C they can run test and maybe find out what went wrong. My prayers are with you. I am so very sorry that you have to go through this. With my D&C they put my under and I woke about just a little groggy. I had been bleeding heavily for almost 24 hours. Like I said emotionally I wish I had forced the D&C.
Hello Jennifer,
I am sorry that you are having to go through this. I myself have had 3 miscarriages, each of which ended in a D&C, but not before I passed the baby on my own. I am going to be very blunt about my experience because I feel that you need all the information to make a good decision...I doubt ANY male doctor has had to experience a miscarriage themselves personally.
WARNING... can be graphic and upsetting... read with caution
Miscarriage #1 was a blighted ovum and around 6.5 wks I want to say I had a D&C. This was very simple. There was no baby that had developed... so basically no scraping was needed for the procedure.
Miscarriage #2 was 11wks 5 days and I was having spotting over labor day weekend and went to doc on Tuesday after labor day and we saw no HB. I had the D&C scheduled for the next day. My body decided it didn't want to wait until Weds at 1pm and I began contracting (yes, it's contracting, not cramping as the doctors like to say) and my water broke (very little fluid) and then I passed this little baby about the size of the palm of my hand (bottom of fingers to the top of wrist and I have very small hands). It was traumatic, but very amazing to see this little baby, too. I wouldn't stop bleeding and I mean MASSIVE amounts of blood. Used a bath towel and folded it up and put it between my legs, put on a big pair of panties to keep in in place, then DH's sweat pants and white sweat shirt. Then another towel on the seat of the car, We had to drive about 30 mins to get to the hospital normally, but it took almost an hour if not more to get there due to a traffic issue. By the time I got to the ER I had been crying the whole way because I was in pain. My uterus continued to contract attmepting to expel the rest of the contents. I had my little tiny baby in a baggie so it could be taken to the cemetary crypt. (very traumatic) I went to stand up to walk into the ER and I had a gush of blood and was soaked to my ankles. I was spilling out clots the size of baseballs. I was scared for a minute that I was going to hemmorhage to death or that they were going to have to give me a hysterectomy. My husband was terrified. I finally had an ultrasound and the results were indefinite so I had a D&C anyway. It was quick, virtually painless... kinda like a mild period afterward.
Miscarriage #3 I was 16wks when I went in for an appt and there was no HB. They offered me a D&C at the women's hospital in the city, because that hospital didn't perform them past 14 wks. So I told them I didn't want a D&C because I wanted my baby to be intact. So I had to go an talk to the maternal fetal specialists at the womens hospital to discuss the risks of me being induced and laboring, since I had already had 2 c-sections in my past. Once again the morning of my scheduled induction to dialate my cervix and deliver my baby my body took over and I started contracting. Called the hospital and they said to come in. Drove about 45 mins contracting the whole way. DH asked if I wanted him to drop me off at the front or if I wanted to park with him. I said drop me off, I just had a feeling I would be in bad shape walking through a parking garage. Thank God he did... about 5 steps into the lobby area my water gushed out and I could feel things moving down. They rushed me to the ER and took care of me there. After I had delivered the baby... again I was bleeding profusely and they said the placenta was still in there and they didn't want to grab it an tear it and cause me more pain and bleeding. SO they took me to the OR, sedated me, gave me a saddle block and did a D&C. I was ok with that because I knew that my baby was already out. I was again getting scared because of the bleeding... they had me sign documents stating that if they couldn't control the bleeding and my life was at risk that I would agree to a hysterectomy to save me and stop the bleeding. The recovery for that D&C was about the same. The emotional part was worse than the physical part.
Anyway... sorry if I got very detailed I just want you to be aware of the potential problems if you M/C on your own. Many women M/C on their own and have no problems... but then you have women like me, who have serious life threatening problems. Most doctors don't do aggressive D&C's... my doctor used gentle suction and no scraping at all. I went on to conceive again and carry to term a beautiful baby girl named Sydnee... after 2 c-sections, 2 vbacs and 3 m/c - D&C's. The pontential of scaring your uterus is real, but very minimal... especially if the doctor is gentle.
I truly hope this info helps you and doesn't terrify you. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.
Hugs, Love and Prayers
B
I am sorry that you are having to go through this. I myself have had 3 miscarriages, each of which ended in a D&C, but not before I passed the baby on my own. I am going to be very blunt about my experience because I feel that you need all the information to make a good decision...I doubt ANY male doctor has had to experience a miscarriage themselves personally.
WARNING... can be graphic and upsetting... read with caution
Miscarriage #1 was a blighted ovum and around 6.5 wks I want to say I had a D&C. This was very simple. There was no baby that had developed... so basically no scraping was needed for the procedure.
Miscarriage #2 was 11wks 5 days and I was having spotting over labor day weekend and went to doc on Tuesday after labor day and we saw no HB. I had the D&C scheduled for the next day. My body decided it didn't want to wait until Weds at 1pm and I began contracting (yes, it's contracting, not cramping as the doctors like to say) and my water broke (very little fluid) and then I passed this little baby about the size of the palm of my hand (bottom of fingers to the top of wrist and I have very small hands). It was traumatic, but very amazing to see this little baby, too. I wouldn't stop bleeding and I mean MASSIVE amounts of blood. Used a bath towel and folded it up and put it between my legs, put on a big pair of panties to keep in in place, then DH's sweat pants and white sweat shirt. Then another towel on the seat of the car, We had to drive about 30 mins to get to the hospital normally, but it took almost an hour if not more to get there due to a traffic issue. By the time I got to the ER I had been crying the whole way because I was in pain. My uterus continued to contract attmepting to expel the rest of the contents. I had my little tiny baby in a baggie so it could be taken to the cemetary crypt. (very traumatic) I went to stand up to walk into the ER and I had a gush of blood and was soaked to my ankles. I was spilling out clots the size of baseballs. I was scared for a minute that I was going to hemmorhage to death or that they were going to have to give me a hysterectomy. My husband was terrified. I finally had an ultrasound and the results were indefinite so I had a D&C anyway. It was quick, virtually painless... kinda like a mild period afterward.
Miscarriage #3 I was 16wks when I went in for an appt and there was no HB. They offered me a D&C at the women's hospital in the city, because that hospital didn't perform them past 14 wks. So I told them I didn't want a D&C because I wanted my baby to be intact. So I had to go an talk to the maternal fetal specialists at the womens hospital to discuss the risks of me being induced and laboring, since I had already had 2 c-sections in my past. Once again the morning of my scheduled induction to dialate my cervix and deliver my baby my body took over and I started contracting. Called the hospital and they said to come in. Drove about 45 mins contracting the whole way. DH asked if I wanted him to drop me off at the front or if I wanted to park with him. I said drop me off, I just had a feeling I would be in bad shape walking through a parking garage. Thank God he did... about 5 steps into the lobby area my water gushed out and I could feel things moving down. They rushed me to the ER and took care of me there. After I had delivered the baby... again I was bleeding profusely and they said the placenta was still in there and they didn't want to grab it an tear it and cause me more pain and bleeding. SO they took me to the OR, sedated me, gave me a saddle block and did a D&C. I was ok with that because I knew that my baby was already out. I was again getting scared because of the bleeding... they had me sign documents stating that if they couldn't control the bleeding and my life was at risk that I would agree to a hysterectomy to save me and stop the bleeding. The recovery for that D&C was about the same. The emotional part was worse than the physical part.
Anyway... sorry if I got very detailed I just want you to be aware of the potential problems if you M/C on your own. Many women M/C on their own and have no problems... but then you have women like me, who have serious life threatening problems. Most doctors don't do aggressive D&C's... my doctor used gentle suction and no scraping at all. I went on to conceive again and carry to term a beautiful baby girl named Sydnee... after 2 c-sections, 2 vbacs and 3 m/c - D&C's. The pontential of scaring your uterus is real, but very minimal... especially if the doctor is gentle.
I truly hope this info helps you and doesn't terrify you. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask.
Hugs, Love and Prayers
B
I'm sorry you're going through this. I can only imagine (and probably no where near to being close) what you're going through knowing you're pregnant and the baby's still there but no heartbeat. I'd strongly suggest taking the RE's advice and have the D&C. The emotional damage it is likely causing you is not good for you or your DH. I have had four mc's, none of which I had to have a D&C for...my body's good at getting pregnant and good at having a mc all by itself (obviously not the ideal thing I'd wantit to be good at)...so that's strictly my uneducated $0.02...but I think there are a lot of women who've had mc's and went on to have successful pregnancies.
I hope that this time passes quickly for you - which ever decision you make - and that you're able to move on to the healing process soon.
I hope that this time passes quickly for you - which ever decision you make - and that you're able to move on to the healing process soon.
Holly
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I'm totaly in support of having the D&C, I don't think any woman should have to go through the physical, not to mention the emotional pain of a miscarriage. I had to have a D&C with my first pregnancy it took place in Early September, and then I got my first positive test with my son (who's now 4) on December 5th.
My first pregnancy ended in a natural miscarriage. They didn't think I needed a D&C since I was already bleeding. But to come back if the pain or bleeding was severe. Within the next two days I went through one of the worst pains ever but did it on my own. Then bleed for a couple weeks.
My second pregnancy was a ectopic at 6w3d ( would be 11w5d today). There was a heartbeat. The doctor suggested having the shots to "abort" the pregnancy. That way I wouldn't have to have surgery that may cause other problems. It was my choice, I thought I want children and having the surgery could cause reduced chance of that. So I had the shot. I wasn't prepared for the emotional battle of knowing that my now dead baby was still in me. I told DH that if it ever happens again I will have the surgery. If I would have had the surgery I could have stayed home and dealt with the grief of losing another child instead of working every day and having it tear me apart.
In the end the choice is yours, do what you need to do for you.
Missy
M/C 7/08 Ectopic 7/09
My second pregnancy was a ectopic at 6w3d ( would be 11w5d today). There was a heartbeat. The doctor suggested having the shots to "abort" the pregnancy. That way I wouldn't have to have surgery that may cause other problems. It was my choice, I thought I want children and having the surgery could cause reduced chance of that. So I had the shot. I wasn't prepared for the emotional battle of knowing that my now dead baby was still in me. I told DH that if it ever happens again I will have the surgery. If I would have had the surgery I could have stayed home and dealt with the grief of losing another child instead of working every day and having it tear me apart.
In the end the choice is yours, do what you need to do for you.
Missy
M/C 7/08 Ectopic 7/09
MIssy
M/C 7-08 Ectopic 7-09
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