I need some emotional help please
Would you feel better if she was in her crib on her back while you are gone? You may have to let her cry herself to sleep a couple of times before she will sleep this way (which I've never been able to let Hannah cry herself to sleep...I'm a softie).
Good luck!
Amy
I can totally relate with your fear. I lost my first baby (25 years ago) but not to sids she was stillborn at 39.5 weeks. It was the hardest thing I ever endured then. So after having children I developed a fear that I would hardly sleep checking on my babies all night long. If I fell asleep and I woke up and looked at the baby sleeping soundly I would freak out and shake them to see if well you know what I mean?? Man it is awful!! I have a total of 6 children 3 adults and 3 small one and until this day I still go through that with my 16 month old.
My daughter co sleeps with me since I nurse her and just the other night I woke up with that fear where I startled her and she cried.
I feel for you being away from the baby you can not check on her continuously. I would definitely talk to you spouse or whoever is watching her at night to lay her in the crib where the mattress is firm and you know that the baby is safer there. Like Amy said even if it takes to let her cry a bi to get her used to sleeping the crip. You can put the wedges on her sides to keep her from rolling. My kids really never liked sleeping on their back so I make sure they were on their sides with the wedges.
I hope the fear eases up soon. I wish there was something magical I could say to you.
Hugs,
I am who I am and accept my feelings wholeheartedly.
Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind.
Cira 249/144.0 current/goal 154/ 5'3" 10 lbs below my Dr's goal
Most of all, check on her by calling often. You are her parent and have a right to be concerned.
Again Hugs,
Angie
I can feel your pain. That was my #1 fear once Josiah was born. Not that is is a 100% guarantee but we bought an angel monitor. http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=2970307
I felt so much better after we got it...
(((HUGS)))
Erika
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Boy can I relate!! I had such a hard time returning to work and leaving my daughter! I was a wreck for pretty much the first nine months or so. And I was scared of Sids too! In fact, my daughter slept through the night for the first time at five weeks (She's a great little sleeper!!). That next day was her blessing day at our church, and I had been preparing the food and celebrations for weeks. I remember being so tired and bolting out of bed at 7:00 am and dashing across the room, thinking "She's dead!" and, she wasn't. She was still sleeping, happy as can be. I spent a lot of time stopping to listen for her breathing for the first several years. I believe it is normal to really struggle heading back to work. I also think SIDS is something incredibly frightening for moms, and in your situation your concerns over SIDS can't really be helped because you can't be there to listen or fly across the room, so that is just adding to all the stress and adjustment over returning to work. It's a tough situation. Maybe try working something out with your DH to call you once a night after he has checked on the baby. If you need more than once, try twice or more for a few weeks. Best of luck finding a solution! And good luck with the returning to work transition- it was the toughest part of parenthood for me! Just take it one shift at a time. I still take work one shift at a time....
Carrie