Got an in-law question for ya

First off, congrats to the many women who are pregnant with #2 (or 3 or more) who were preggo the same time I was preggo with Conner.  Yay!  (No, I'm not trying, and no, I don't want a 2nd one, at least, I don't want to birth another one - I'm game for adoption though!)

Ok here's my question:
Soon DH, Conner, & I will be on a trip to Disney World with my parents & my in-laws.  We're all staying an a 2br condo.  I know I'll be sick of everyone about 5 minutes into the trip. 

I'm worried thought about jealousy. 

See, we celebrated Conner's 1st b-day a week ago, and my parents & my in-laws were here at the house.  Mom & Dad were only going to be here from late Friday night to early SUnday morning (meaning, they had one full day to spend with Conner, and even that wasn't a full day because of the party).  My in-laws came on Thursday, and left Monday, so they had 2 extra days with Conner than my parents did.  

So what's the problem?  Well, my dad would be playing with Conner, and my FIL would call the baby to him.  Or Mom would go to pick up Conner, and Shirley would swoop in and grab him.  Oh Lord.  Ya'll see where this is going?

So I donno what to do to try to mediate this.  My idea is to send an email to both sets of parents and say "I want Conner to have one-on-one time with his grandparents, so Monday X gets Conner, and on Tuesday Y gets him."  DH doesn't think that will work.

Any suggestions?  (sorry for the book)

TIA ladies.

I'm not sure it would be a good idea to dictate who gets what time slot.  But I do think its a good idea to give them a heads up "out of concern for Conner".  It's easy enough to say that holding his attention is a daunting task (as is true for any one year old) and that it's better accomplished with fewer people around.  Ask them how they would like to divide up time so that everyone can have quaility time and Conner is less likely to get cranky, overtired, etc.   This is especially true with all the changes in his environment a trip like this will bring.  Maybe they'll be understanding and voluntarily divide up some time.  Maybe not.  But if not, don't hesitate to put on your parenting hat right in front of everyone.... feel free to swoop in and stop the jealousy by reminding everyone it's time for Conner to have a break from everyone because he's overstimulated.

good luck for sure!

I have done that.  Maybe I'll just let them ha**** out themselves.  See, my parents aren't the type to say something, and my in-laws are clueless. 

I'm gonna need a box of wine and Xanax for this trip.

You 3, your parents and DH's parents are all staying in a 2BR condo?  WOW!  You are a brave soul!  Good luck!
-Donna

Yup, MIL has time share, so it's paid for.  = free for us

I think after about the third day your parents will get tired of them swooping in on Conner and start swooping back.   Although my in-laws and parents both live within walking distance to us they've not all been in the same room more than twice since Hannah was born.  Once was the day she was born and once was Thanksgiving.   My MIL is a hermit and doesn't like to leave the house.   She does tend to watch our house and see how long I spend at my parents.   So it is a bit of a struggle to make sure that she doesn't feel left out.   It really makes her upset when she sees me go visit a non relative neighbor and I haven't been to visit her.  Anyway....I'm rambling.
Maybe you could pick nights on who gets to keep Conner in their room.  That would be a good break for you and Kyle!
Have a great trip!
Amy

That's a good idea.  We are having a date night that week, so we'll have to figure out if 1 set or both will be sitting.  I just don't know why a set can't say "I wanna take him on X ride, let's meet back at whatever time."

Yikes good luck on this one!!  I have absolutely no idea on how to deal with this one. But I do like the idea of the lady who first responded to you about over stimulating Connor and the other suggestion of who gets to sleep with Connor for the night.  lol

Have a great time and don't forget the bottle of Tequila for a Margarita each time they all swoop Connor.  lol  Just kidding wish you all the best!

Connor is such a cutie he has gotten so big. Wow time sure flies!

First, Hi and I noticed that we both used Dr. Warnock...do you love him?

Anyway on to the In-Law issue, If it were me, I would let my husband deal with his parents and I would deal with my own. As the DIL and the mother of the grandbaby...your in a tight spot with the inlaws. You don't want to come across as the over controlling shrew to them but at the same time you don't want to make your own folks feel left out or pushed away. I would have a sit down with my parents and tell DH to do the same and then if things get tense in Disney World have everyone sit down together and talk. That way both parties know that your a united front and don't really care about anyone's "agenda" just that Conner is happy and not overstimulated or able to pick up on stress levels.