OT Feeling very selfish today

Please don't flame me.  I know this is just me being selfish.  My son is 6 months old.   My sister in law just had her baby boy about 24 hours ago.  This all started a few years ago.  She got preggers first and had a boy, then my first boy came a month after hers.  She didn't help us out by giving us clothes as her baby grew out of them.  Instead she gave them to Amanda.  Well, this time I got preggers first with another boy and at my shower all she did was talk about how she had nothing for Logan when he comes.  She knew the same people would be at her shower.  So, she talked about how she gave everything away and didn't have a thing, ruined the fun for us.  Of course, she got tons more at her shower than we did and my in laws bought her everything else she needed.  Of course they are living there right now as well.  I have saved all of my kids clothes because I want one more in a few years.  They had the guts to ask me for my clothes and anything else I can give them.  I have 3 kids and they didn't feel the need to help me, why should I help them plus I want another child.  I don't even want to see the baby  or even be around any of them.  I am so mad because they don't offer to help us with our 3 but drops everything to help her and their 3 kids.  She is married, let the dad take care of the kids, that is what they are doing to us.  I know I am being selfish and it's not Logans fault.  He didn't ask to be born to this crazy messed up family.   Thanks for letting me rant.  I feel alittle better.

That sucks but I can understand your feelings!  I wouldn't want to give her anything either.  LOL.  Just say, "sorry, I gave it all away to a friend already"  Lie....we'll forgive you.  HA!  :-)  Or tell her you already sold it all to the consignment shop or that you promised another friend.  Do what YOU want to do!

Good luck!
Sandy

I would tell her the truth., You  are saving it since you want another one. If she doesn't like tell her to kiss your bummy!

No flaming from me!

Reciprocity is a huge thing to me in my personal relationships. I scratch your back; you scratch mine. There are exceptions of course, but know this: You have options. Just because someone asks something of you does not mean you are obligated.

People often manipulate others (both intentionally and/or unintentionally) by way of guilt-tripping, "stealing one's thunder," etc.

My advice (if you are asking for it) is to decide what you WANT to do in this situation. Then, act on it. If you WANT to keep the baby clothes, you have a right to do that. No explanation needed.

--Paula