question about ur siblings??

 I have a younger brother.  Long story short. He is the black sheep of the family in most senses of the word. Alcohol, drug use, and whole nine. In and out of rehab. BLAH, blah blah. I no not ever really talk about it publicly because im not proud of it at ALL!! 

anyway my brother got involved with a girl, Bi polar which would be ok but she refuses meds ALL THE TIME!! or will lie about taking them. Had my brother arrested. Well she is pregnant. I just got a call she is in labor and asked me brother to be for the birth and that we (mom and I) can come up when we want( after work). Im not sure if i should go. My brother is asking for a paternity test. So I feel like i dont want to be attached to this baby if its not my brothers. On the other hand I want to go and be supportive for them both. any advice would help.

I just wish they would both get there heads out of their butt's and be parents .. and good parents!!

Eh, I would go. But that's just me. I am a sucker when it comes to family. Even the messed up crazy ones. If they are asking for support, then I would go. Again...just what I would do.

My brother (younger too exact same situation) was in the same situation...we all were there when she had the baby...all of our fears were unwarranted about the baby being his/not his so looking back if I had not been there I would have regretted it...she is 3 and half now and one of the lights of my life!!

Good luck whatever your decision is...I know its hard

~Flora

That was nice of her. I think that I would go too - it is nice that she wanted to include you in this. Maybe she is scared and needs a fellow woman to be there with her.

*hugs* You're strong!

I would go, too, but that's because I am a sucker for any babies/kids. I get the impression from you that you are a really kind and caring person, and I have a feeling that whatever your feelings for mom and dad are, that little baby is gonna get your undevided attention and ful support cuz that's just how you are!  Good luck!

Update****

Just got off the phone with my brother she was born at 1115 am. 5lbs 15 oz. 19 inches long.

I talked to the ex and my mom and i and kids are going up after work. She started crying on the phone. I cant handle emotions. lol. Im going. I think your right jo, If i dont go i will regret it!!!

Update****Just got off the phone with my brother she was born at 1115 am. 5lbs 15 oz. 19 inches long. I talked to the ex and my mom and i and kids are going up after work. She started crying on the phone. I cant handle emotions. lol. Im going. I think your right jo, If i dont go i will regret it!!!

Congrats Auntie!!

I have two sisters who drive me up a wall, BUT I would have gone, glad you decided to do it. If it turns out in the end that you are not the Aunt, well you where still the bigger person for going. Good luck.