Another update on DH & his daughter!!!

Ok...so his daugther called today & they talked for about an hour....she tried to apologize about standing him up Friday  & he was quick to tell her...no apology needed...poor girl, sounded like she had her own breakdown Friday (much like he did!) and I think nerves just got the best of her.  We can completly understand that...of course, now he has been on cloud 9 all afternoon after talking with her...it is almost scary how much it sounded like they have alike. So they will try again for a meeting, & we assured her we will not all bombard her at once....she did express interest in being there in 2 weeks when the baby is born; I wil not push for that of course...this is on her time, I know this is a lot on her. But I think (at least on my end hearing from DH) that it went welll so hopefully it will for her as well. Does sound like there might be some concerns on the part of her mom & dad so that probably doesn't help; like i said, we definitely don't want to step on toes there...so we will wait for her to be ready.  Thanks for thinking of us.

 I'm really glad that he was able to find out what happened.  I can totally understand the nerves getting the better of her.  Hopefully one day soon she'll be ready to meet with him again.  Best wishes!  

I am so glad they spoke!!! :-)))

That is so awesome....thanks for the update! :)

I'm so glad things are working out.  Maybe DH can write a little note to the adoptive parents thanking them for raising a beautiful girl when he couldn't do it and kind of let them know that he's not trying to usurp them in any way.  I don't know, it just seems that if they're having some concerns a gesture like that might make things go a little smoother.  I have not been in that situation, so please take it with a grain of salt.  Take care!
-Donna

I think Donna had an excellent suggestion.  Maybe your DH should reach out to her mom and dad and reassure them that he only wants to get to know her...not to replace them as her parents.  If her mom and dad were a little less nervous about the outcome, then maybe the daughter won't feel torn or like she's being disloyal to her mom and dad by reaching out to meet your DH?  Not that there's a guarantee they'll come around, but it can't hurt. 

that is a very good idea ladies! Thanks...I have been thinking of that a lot...I feel bad for them...I can certainly remember how it was when I was 18 (and thought I knew everything mind you LOL) & my mom...knew nothing! So I can see that playing out in her house & her parents thinking...well great, now she will think the grass is greener at our house...maybe if he did write a little note or something, it could help. We did talk about the possibility of us meeting them & trying to reassure them...but that might be weird for them. I will mention this to him, thanks!