Baby shower update

So I posted before how my family( mainly my mother and her sisters) feel that you only have a shower for the first and your suppose to keep everything from the first on.  Well I dont agree and alot of people who i have asked or talked to about it see my reasoning. I had my first in 2000. a boy my second one was in 2005 a girl and my family and friends mostly  did have small shower. I got all clothes and it was really just a little family gathering type thing. no really party or things like that.

 Well I decided that if my mother does not want to have one.. Im gonna have one for myself LOL .
I think im going to register at target and walmart. I already a few things given to me by my great friend. Crib, mattress, stroller, car seat. She ROCKS! I found a swing and pack n play at a consigment place for dirt cheap. So really i just need the small little needed things. burp clothes, diaper bag, bottles and some other little stuff. I am going to put on the inviite for every pack or diapers and wipe you get a ticket for a chance off. I have a few really nice gifts. I have a homemade quilt that was never used that was made my menonites in the local area. Im thinking using that and maybe get a small lottery tree to chance off. Also im going to make mason jars filled with dry cookie mix. so if we have a boy I will name the mix. "Marshall" mellow chocolate chip cookies. Thats my idea for now. I have a friend that wants to help so do you think its wrong to do on my own? My only worry is do i send invites to my family to be courteous or do i not?

TIA for any suggestions

I think it is a great idea! What if you call it a Baby Celebration or something like that!

Sounds like a fun party!! Oh and I would invite them - let them decide if they want to come or not.

Liz

Sorry, you probably won't like my opinion LOL  I fall into the one shower camp. I think its tacky to expect or ask for a shower after the first baby. I think it's nice if someone decides to do it for second,third or more babies, but think it looks bad to throw your own or ask for one. My sister had another baby five years after her son was born, and demanded that we throw her a shower or she would do it herself, I did it but I really resented her for it and honestly so did the others who participated in it. Most people where applaed by her actions but would not tell her to her face, they just whined to me about it LOL 

I think if you want to have a party to celebrate baby and you do that yourself, that is one thing, but to register and send out invitations and call it a "shower" where you expect to get gifts is a whole other story.

 I see your opinion.. But i would be happy if my family threw me a party with out expecting it. LOL.

I like Liz's idea of a celebration.  Either way I believe celebrating each birth is important.  to each there own though.

LOL I would be thilled if my family threw something for me too (its been seven years since the triplets, and this was a HUGE surprise so I have NOTHING LOL). I like the idea of a "Spinkle" that was cute name for it. My girlfriends are taking me out for a mani/pedi at a local spa, and we are going to have a nice lunch out together as a celebration of baby and as a nice relaxing afternoon for me before all hell breaks loose over here LOL 

So while it seems technical and almost silly, if I was throwing it myself, I would not call it a shower, that word seems to spark something in people who have strong opionions on the subject LOL. I would also probably put in the invite that the person's presence would be "gift" enough, knowing full well that people are going to show up with stuff.

We are planning on doing a luncheon/brunch type deal. hubby just said.. Screw it!! I will throw it for you! He's funny.

I think a sprinkle or celebration is what it is. Either way if people want to come they can, if not then thats there choice.

I hope your family has something for you!! 5 years is long.. As this was too a huge surprise. We were not actively trying. we wanted to wait till June 2010 to start trying. 7 years is a long time!!!

The word shower is used because you shower someone with gifts. Having a shower for yourself is asking people to give you gifts.

My WLS group had a shower for me when I was pregnant with my 4 year old. It had been 12 years since my last child and my family offered to have one but I refused. My WLS had not been at my previous shower so it was ok, plus it was a total surprise. My husband's coworkers also gave him a shower which was really sweet.

It sounds like you are already planning it though so why ask us?

 It is something I am thinking about and planning.. But I said Ideas. Liz said a celebration.. someone else said a sprinkle instead of shower.

OTher say im selfish to want another one. LOL But thats why I asked for opinions. Either way I will take them and do as i wish.

I think anything after 5 years another shower is definetly acceptable...Cribs constantly get updated and the one you might have had 6-7 years ago might not be up to code now. It's ridiculous when people say one shower only. This is the year 2009...get with it people,lol!! Things change and I know for a fact a lot of people have more than one shower now a days!! Don't feel bad about throwing yourself a shower...I Iiked the idea of call it a Baby Celebration....Have fun and enjoy!!!

Hugs,
Shannon

When I told my co-worker that I probably wouldn't have a shower.  She starred at me like I was crazy.  There will be 5 yrs between my children.  Her comment was "every baby needs a shower"  and than she called her mother who is a cross between June Clever and Dear Abbey.  And her opinion it is completely acceptable to have a 2nd baby shower.  We live in the Chicago land area...things may be a little different here ?  But I say go for it !!  You can have a "Sprinkle" rather than a "Shower".

Good Luck!

Gina