Pregnancy & Weight Gain Issues..HELP!
Let me introduce myself, my name is Julie and I don't have any kids, but I wanted to ask you all about having children after WLS. I have been on the fence about the whole pregnancy thing after WLS. I had my RNY on 1/16/2008 and have lost so far 164lbs. I know, I am scared to death to gain any of that weight back, but I do see myself in the future being a mom. What I need help on, is the weight gain issues due to pregnancy. How did you deal with the weight gain while being pregnant and how tough is it to take off the weight after the delivery? This is something that I am having mixed emotions on. I am 33 years old and some days I feel as though my clock is ticking away and some days I think about the weight gain and want to throw that darn biological clock out the window! I know the outcome of the weight gain, is a beautiful baby, but emotionally how do you deal?
If anyone has any advice or has been through this, please share!
If you really want a child.. Then start trying.
While wishing i would have waited to get pregnant, because im not a year out of surgery yet. I would NEVER wish or be upset i did get pregnant when i did. God gave me a gift of this tool and what i chose to do with it is up to me. With that being said God also gave me this gift of having another baby. Im very lucky.
If you feel that your not READY? or dont want to gain weight then maybe the issuse isnt having kids its with yourself and your new image you have for yourself. I would think about that first before wanting to bring another life into this world.
Now am i upset ive gained two lbs!! YUP!! But did i get over it.. Yep.. in a few days... after losing weight every month for 12 plus months its hard to see the scale rise. But in the end i will have healthy happy baby.
I personally think you sound a little selfish.. But im pregnant and kina emotional as well.
I totally understand the emotional feelings, I am a girl, too!!..lol But as far as being selfish, lets just say that's a NO!!!! But again that is your personal oppinion and you have your right to that. Just remember words come across differently on print then they do in real conversation. I just don't how you can think I sound selfish when all you know about me is a post regarding how do you deal with the weight gain after WLS? This post had NOTHING to do with not being grateful for the gifts that we are given in our life!
I hope I am not coming across, too harsh! It's just that this is a question, I have been thinking about for awhile. I was at my support group last night and someone had brought in their baby and I guess it really got me thinking about the whole issue of the weight gain thing. I do know that in order to have a healthy baby, weight gain is required and un-avoidable, but when you have worked so hard emotionally and physically to reach goal, how do you cope with such a life changing event & gaining the weight? We all know that super models almost never look like they put on weight after having a baby, damn Heidi Klum! LOL But for us real people it will happen.
I also want to say, Congratulations on your upcoming arrival & I wish you nothing but the best for a safe & happy delivery of your little one!
I knew that I wanted at least one more when I had surgery. I figure if I watch what I eat, my tool will be there after I deliver. At this point I have lost 2lbs, in previous pregnancies I would have already gained 10lbs at this point.
Dealing with the biological clock is aggravating. Good Luck.
Emilie
Julie
WLS is a mental and physical. To me know matter how much I weigh or what pant size I am - I still some times see a fat girl. It is all mental for me. That has been my biggest strugle since WLS in 2004.
I wish you the best in your journey and sorry so long.
Stacie
Caleb - 10.15.07