Words that anyone struggling to conceive hates to hear
I know I have only done 3 rounds of clomid but I still have the mind set it's never going to happen. I have too many things against me. This is when I was thinking, you know if things happen for a reason and that is why these things are happening to my sister-in-law, maybe this is happening to me for a reason. Which is not helping me feel better or anything. It's making me kinda paranoid actually. Like, are my husband and I going to get divorced or something and that is why it's not happening. Or stupid stuff like that. Wow, yeah I know I really over think things...... *sigh* Anyway- maybe some of you think the same way and can share your feelings about this topic!
Julia
Jackie
We can stick in "why me" mode for too long. Well WTH not me? There are blind people, people without limbs, people who can't breath, people that are in constant pain - babies with cancer etc. WTH not me?
Yes, I'd like to find a good man and have babies. It can sometimes seem like I am the "only one" who has bad luck with men, the only one who is unwanted . . . Please, let us all just get over ourselves.
Every single thing does happen for a reason. Do all you can to move things in the direction that you'd like them to flow BUt by all means, live in and enjoy the moment. Life is never as bad as it may seem during some of our darkest hours. We all fall into pity mode sometimes but it doesn't do a single positive thing for us Besides people get sick and tired of the pity party real quick. It is sure to cause you isolation OR bad company.
All the Best to you,
Leila
Julia, sorry I wasn't thinking that you were throwing a PP. Just thinking that we (me too, I was thinking of me, I was intertwining us woman/people in general for whom things seem not to be working out for) sometimes get side tracked feeling like we are the only ones. The world is such a big picture. Life is so much bigger than us - the whens and whys we don't know. We must trust that things will work out in our favor no matter how they turn out.
Remember how many people were supposed to be at the Twin Towers and were delayed or canceled or whatever? Then there were people there who would have never been there - as horrible as it seems, you go when it is your time. Unexplainable things happen in our lives and we'll never have the whys right now. We just have to love and enjoy what we have and when it changes, we change to accommodate.
(((HUGS)))
Leila
I am not sure she meant you were throwing one at the moment. I think her point is that we can often let ourselves get in that mode over time when we feel like "why me?"
I can't speak for her but that is what I got from her post. And I tend to agree. Although it's always easier said than done.
I can give much better advice than I will ever take for myself. And I can be one of "those" ...everything happens for a reason.......talkers. We all have struggles. They aren't always the same as someone elses. And they always seem worse to us than to others. I know that first hand.
I hate that people who truly want children sometimes struggle. But there are also many other things that don't seem right and are so unfair. In all our lives in some form or another.
Hell I am not sure what I am getting at now..........I have lost my train of thought and this will probably not even make sense after I I hit the submit button.
Sorry, hope I was somewhat coherent. (Still suffering from pregnancy brain....post-partum)
When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila & salt and give me a call!