Venting.....
I think alot of the ladies here have given you excellent advice.
1. seek help, which it seems as if you are doing. There are free/cheap counseling services somewhere out there, you just have to find them. Or perhaps there is a family member or friend who you trust and can talk to. Sometimes just talking it all out helps.
2. Try not to make permanent decisions while you are pregnant. Hormones screw everything up, and our bodies are just hormone filled rage machines right now. It's ok and normal to be upset about everything, and to be worrying about it. But jumping into a decision you'll regret b/c of hormones is just a bad idea.
3. He does have a point. (hear me out here) Talking about the past is not going to change it and it's not going to make anything better. If you can give him a second chance then give it. Start fresh. Betrayal of trust ruins many a relationship. Builing back trust is very very hard, but it sounds like that's what he's trying to do.
Of course you are confuzed. You sound stressed out over this. Just remember, these decisions do not have to be made now. If you are really leaning towards the adoption thing, that can be done at any point later down the road.
I know it's hard to do, try not to stress. it's bad for you and your babies.
Good luck and as always we are here,
Victoria
1. seek help, which it seems as if you are doing. There are free/cheap counseling services somewhere out there, you just have to find them. Or perhaps there is a family member or friend who you trust and can talk to. Sometimes just talking it all out helps.
2. Try not to make permanent decisions while you are pregnant. Hormones screw everything up, and our bodies are just hormone filled rage machines right now. It's ok and normal to be upset about everything, and to be worrying about it. But jumping into a decision you'll regret b/c of hormones is just a bad idea.
3. He does have a point. (hear me out here) Talking about the past is not going to change it and it's not going to make anything better. If you can give him a second chance then give it. Start fresh. Betrayal of trust ruins many a relationship. Builing back trust is very very hard, but it sounds like that's what he's trying to do.
Of course you are confuzed. You sound stressed out over this. Just remember, these decisions do not have to be made now. If you are really leaning towards the adoption thing, that can be done at any point later down the road.
I know it's hard to do, try not to stress. it's bad for you and your babies.
Good luck and as always we are here,
Victoria
~Victoria
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