No Heartbeat (LONG POST)
Definitely take the day off and take care of yourself. Big hugs to you and your husband. One thing I learned is that men grieve in their own way so don't be alarmed if your hubby doesn't act exactly how you would think he should. I had a hard time with that.
Again, Big hugs to you guys!
Sandy
I'm so sorry Traci. I've been in your shoes and know how upsetting it is. Do go pamper yourself and take a day or so to yourself. My first mc, I worked my way through...my last two, I took the week off just to feel sorry for myself.
Re waiting for the mc to complete itself and everything to come out...every one is different. All three of mine did it on it's own. I started bleeding and that was it...everything was out w/in a day or two. In both of the last two, I was spotting but the u/s showed a strong hb...then the spotting turned into full bleeding. The second one I had the u/s that showed no hb...the third one, I didn't even go for a follow up after getting two u/s w/strong hbs followed by heavy bleeding. I knew what was happening and there was no point in going for an additional u/s.
Re the pain...I was about 5 weeks w/the first one and didn't have any pain (I don't get cramps w/AF...if I hadn't known I was pg, I'd have assumed it was just a heavy AF); about 6-7 weeks w/the 2nd one and no pain; and about 8-9 weeks w/the third one and did have cramping - enough that I just heated up my sock full of rice that I use for a heating pad and put it on my stomach...but it was by no means unbearable and didn't require drugs. I do have a relatively high pain tolerance though, and I know everyone's different....I just wanted to let you know that the physical pain may or may not be as bad as the dr is telling you about.
I am also RH negative (O-), and my dr always gave me the rogam shots as soon as the mc was confirmed. I don't know if it's better to get the blood work or just do the shot...but my dr just did the shot. Honestly...after everything...that's the hardest part for me...because that's like shutting the book on that baby. My dr said the shot had to be done w/in 72 hours of the mc (but don't know if she meant 72 hours of the passing of everything or 72 hours from the confirmation of mc) to give you the best coverage.
If you need someone to talk to...I may be on the other side of the world...but I'm only a PM away. Again...I'm sorry you ended up joining the ranks of those of us w/a history of mc's. I wouldn't wi**** on anyone.
Holly
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