I feel like scum UPDATE

My Dh's brother called today & said he needed a huge favor.  I already knew I would regret answering the phone.  I love b.i.l but just to make things short & sweet , he lives a different life than us.  Anyway, he told me that his ex wife & daughter called DHS & told them several lies & said he needed someone to keep his 2 month old or DHS was going to take him.  I hesitated but told him we couldn't, we have so much on our plates already & I didn't want to get involved with all the drama (didn't tell him the last thing).  Anyway I asked about my MIL & he said she couldn't take him.  I told him I would let DH know but he's out of town working today.  I felt so horrible saying no, but I don't want DHS or anyone else all up in my business.  Who knows how long we'd have to keep him & we have a little one coming now.  I couldn't deal with the stress that would generate.  I feel like a heartless witch.  I called DH & told him what he said & I knw it bothered him.  He'd do anything for a child.  I told him to call his mom when he gets home & find out more.  ANyway, if I knew it'd be smooth, we might could for a while, but I'm telling u, it's usually drama with them & I don't want anything to do with it.  Someone please tell me I'm not a witch?  If i find out more about this I'll be sure to post.  I'm stressed!


**UPDATE*
My ex SIL called Dh & told him she wasn't the one that called DHS.  We still don't know much.  My BIL's ex GF (he has 2 kids with her) took temp. custody of the baby so as far as I know DHS won't  take him away.  I'm shocked DH didn't call his mom to see what she knew, but I figure hewill tonight.  I'll make him tonigt if nothing else lol.  I would but misplaced her new cell #.  Thans for the replies.  I feel better.  Just hope the baby is taken care of .

No you aren't a bad person. You have to prptect your family first, and then other family members family. If he is living such a different life style do you really want that in your house even if it just his baby...

I wouldn't worry about this... this might be just what he needs to get his life together... it might be a God send...

I agree - you aren't a bad person - sounds like you are a really good person you know know that your priorities put your family first!!  AND your emotions are going to be running higher since you are expecting so take care of you first! You and your little one are most important right now!!
It's just like post WLS - we need to learn to put ourselves first again.

*Hugs* have some tea and relax - that's not good for either of you!!

Always best to take care of you and your kids first then what is left is for others. Maybe wait till hubby gets home and see if you can get more info. Call DHS yourself and see what all it involves. Kind of hard with situations like this though. Just do what feels right and that will always be ther right thing for you and your family!!!

this is just my opinion..... i would do almost anything to prevent a child from being entered into the system... once into the system.. it follows them forever....i dont know how else to say this... so pls dont take offence... you said you dont want dhs all up into your business... when people say that ( and i dont mean you... i mean people in general)... makes me think they are hiding something... again.. i dont mean you... i mean in general... you also said you couldnt deal with the stress... im sure this is stressful and hurtful that none of his family will take his child to protect them from being just another number in the system.... i could go on and on... but i wont because i know it will come out hurtful to you.. and thats not my goal..

You shouldn't feel guilty, it isn't your problem in any way.

BIL needs a vasectomy, STAT.