With all due respect ladies...

I have not  been in the wood work...I read the board everyday...And there are a ton of things I want to make comments on, but I don't.....You can say whatever you want to say, I pay no attention to you...You are NOTHING to me, never have and never will be...You are another one, that I gave the utmost prayers to, the utmost cheering too, and this is what you say...And you are DAMN skippy Im gonna jump down Ann's throat...I tried for 13, count em sweetheart 13 FREAKIN YEARS to get pregnant, and finally GOD saw fit to not only allow me to concieve one, but two...And I am the best mom I can be, I don' t take ONE MINUTE forgranted...And yeah this topic is negative, ANN MADE IT THAT WAY..Why don't you jump on your bandwagon and ride on out into the sunset...Again you mean nothing to me, but who the hell are YOU OR ANYONE ELSE TO STEAL ANYONES THUNDER!!! Most of these woman have tried as long as I have even longer and for someone to come along and "will you tone down the post" My response would have been NO I WON'T!! When someone thinks they are pregnant you see 100 different pix of pee sticks..This is one is from 1st am, this one is from this afternoon, this one is from 2 mins later..And the pee stick pix go on and on..Well guess what, these are baby bellies, one right after another one...And I pray these girls keep posting them!!!!! So again, get back on your band wagon, and please ride off into the sunset, far, far away from me or any of my posts!! Oh and when you said "Good Bye, did you fold your arms across your chest like a 2 year old and go hmffff"

Wow Jen. You kill me. I even sent you a card because I knew you were having surgeries and thought about you daily. I really didnt expect this from you but that is quite alright.

It seems the only time you post is to jump down someone's throat. Its an observation. So take it at that.

No I do not go hmff... I'm saying good bye because of people such as yourself. You can jump on me all you want but in the end I know the truth.

Have a good day. This is the last I will ever have to deal with you again! 

Ann has been such a huge, long time supporter of this board. Why cant you all just let her feel what she wants to feel. Very few of us can understand what she isgoing though. One miscarriage is very painful yes, but what ann is going through is much worse. Cut her some slack.
Many people get on here to vent about the stupidest **** anns vent isnt stupid, its full of pain and she deserves to be able to post whatever she feels.

although this is a pregnancy board everyone knows it is also TTC as many have been there. No matter what this board is called, Ann is a member and deserves our support.
jeez

I have no idea what Ann or anyone else that has had a miscarriage is going through - nor would I ever want to. I do know that I tried to get pregnant prior to my WLS and was unsuccessful for 4 years due to my weight. I ignored the rules (while not intentionally) and found myself pregnant 5 months out of surgery - I was, no I am VERY lucky that my WLS helped my fertility issues. My heart goes out to those of you who are TTC and to those who have suffered losses.

I was beyond excited when I found out I was pregnant and came to this board because I am a first time mother - none of my immediate close friends have children and I needed advice. Especially because I didn't know how it was going to work due to the WLS. This board has been so much help over the last 7 months - I can't even begin to tell you. I'm constantly telling my mother "(so and so) on the pregnancy board said I should try this" or something to that effect. I've received nothing but advice, support, and prayer. I've seen the same go out to those that are TTC, those that got BFP's, and those that are having issues. This board is about SUPPORT!! When did we lose focus on that?

I do not believe that anyone should have to "tone down" their excitment on their pregnancy nor do I think we need to flame someone who just suffered (another) loss. Ann has the right to feel the way she does and it's obvious from this post that she is not the only one that feels this way. Many have said if she doesn't want to see the baby bumps - that she doesn't have to open the posts, in the same aspect - if you don't agree with someones opinion - you don't need to respond to it either. As stated before - this is a SUPPORT board - regardless of the name of the board - it's about SUPPORT. We need to support those who are pregnant and we need to support those who are not.

So I guess the point of my rambling is that while Ann doesn't have to open posts that make her upset - we don't need to respond to post that are ultimately going to make us upset.

I hope I made sense because that was a lot of rambling - I guess I'm in the middle of the fence with my opinions on this one - right where I belong.

I understand where Ann's coming from...and having had three m/c's myself...know how hard it is to see all those pictures.  When/if people calm down and actually read what was said, I hope they will realize that Ann was not trying to negate the joy of other's pregnancies, or their right to express it.  As soon as I saw Ann's post, I went to peak at what some of the recent posts were in order to get an idea of what could have been causing her pain - and there were A LOT of belly shots in various stages of pregnancy.  I am not complaining...I love to see them...but do see where Ann's coming from.  That said...maybe it'd be 'acceptable'  if someone posted (as stated in another post I sent to Sandi) a 'Hump Day Bump Day' thread and all the pregnant women had an opporunity to put all the belly shots in one spot?

Yes...as previous people in this thread have posted, we all have the right to 'not open' a particular thread...but if you've had multiple miscarriages...it can be painful to see thread...after thread...after thread of successful happy pregnancy pictures...and not that any of us are denying their right to celebrate the pregnancies...but it still hurts.  Consolidating the pictures a to once a week thread means only one post to skip...rather than half a days posts to skip.

I know many many (way too many) of the women here have had at least one m/c, and many have had multiple m/c's.  I currently have one of my best friends, whom I've known over half my life, and whom I experienced my one and only successful pregnancy with 14 years ago - her son is one month older than mine - who is now pregnant with her second child.  She found out she was pregnant one week after I did in December 2008...and she's still pregnant and I'm not.  I celebrate her joy of her pregnancy...but to be  honest...it's not without the pain of knowing that I too should be right at the stage she's at.  When her little girl is born, I will feel joy for her...and sadness for myself that my baby didn't survive.  Pregnancy is a two sided mirror...happily ecstatic if you are...and painful loneliness if you're not and want to be...

I look forward to reading the posts about everyone's pregnancies...seeing their pictures (consolidated to a weekly thread if that's possible...?)...hearing about their morning sickness, bloating, whatever...because I learn from the responses on ways to deal with it in the hopes that one day, I too will be praying to the 'porcelain god' myself with morning sickness...and bringing my sorry complaining ass here to talk about it. 

I also appreciate all the advice I've gotten from many people out there - re the progesterone, trigger shots, IUI, old assed advanced maternal age TTC, blood clotting disorders, etc etc etc.  I couldn't have made it this far with my sanity reasonably intact with out Ann and everyone else...and don't want anyone to leave 'mad' or offended because someone dared to say 'hey, I'm hurting here...'

So I cast my vote for the 'Hump Day Bump Day' and hope people let bygones be bygones!

Holly -

I think your "Hump Day Bump Day" is an abolutely PERFECT idea and a great compromise for everyone! I will second your nomination! :-)

Now if everyone else would just get their panties out of a knot and listen to a little reason?  Maybe I'll give it til next week (after cooler heads have reigned) and next Wednesday if I remember, I'll try to just start a post for it?

how do we keep a thread on the front page for a week?

Very simple....there is this thing on the forums that says "show recent posts". Click there and it shows the threads that have been posted on most recently. Most, if not all, forums (not just OH) have this option for viewing threads. And, to  ensure that it stays there...I have seen many people type one word.... "bump".....to move the thread to the front page. See? Easy.....

I meant on the front page of the actual board.

do whatever you all need to do.