With all due respect ladies...

I have had 2 miscarriages that required a DNC and 1 that didn't  so I DO UNDERSTAND...I have always supported Ann and EVERYONE on this board.  I am just in shock that people can only dwell on the negative aspects in life.  That is really sad....So DON'T OPEN THE POSTS if you are only looking for bad news.  NOT EVERYONE in the world likes gloom and doom all the time.

Ann -

I am sorry if I offended you. Being that you are the only person I have actually "met" from this board and I have liked you from the get go, that is the last thing I have ever wanted to do.

I can understand where coming here and reading the posts day after day can get tiring and harder every time. This last week is the first time I have posted pics this pregnancy, and I have been posting more responses to threads and such since I have been home - so I hope that you don't feel I am overdoing it  - I need the support right now while I just try to make it through the next 3 weeks. Trying not be a drama queen - lol.

I hope you know that I wish nothing but the best for you. I don't want you to go back to your hole - I am glad that you are out of it and posting.

(((((HUGS)))))

Ann- I think that would be great to have a TTC board. Cant we get together a ton of ladies who are TTC and have them ALL put in a request for a TTC board? Maybe if enough of us bother them maybe we can make it happen???? 

Hey Ann....

I am so sorry for the way you are feeling....I cannot even begin to understand the pain you are going through....and I am sorry if the posts are getting overwhelming to you....

Although I am not pregnant I am very excited for those TTC and those pregnant (including recent BFPs). I understand the part about your request for moderation....but what do you mean by it? Maybe it would help others be more sensitive if they knew what you meant more...or maybe I am in the dark here....like I am sitting here questioning my most recent posts...one was on Nathan being 6 months and one on a GA get together for people on the board....I am wondering if I fall into the "moderation' category....I am honestly wondering if I am one of the people that have offended you....again, I may be way off or misreading stuff but if you can be more specific on what you mean by moderation it may help others.....

Also, I know you know this but when I cannot open the thread (either too busy or have to pick and chose) I just move on....I know everyone wants to post various things and being on boards for many years I have just learned that not all posts are going to interest me or are things I can add to....I do try to support as often as I can but don't have tons of time.....

Again, I am so sorry.....let me know if I can help (including moderation messages)....I am hoping everyone continues to speak their minds....

Take care,

Ann

Hummm?  This is the "post-op pregnancy board" correct?  Why should anyone "have" to tone down the pregnancy excitment on a pregnancy board?

I agree 100% that they should have a TTC board!  That would be a great addition for the ladies here on OH. 

I'm sorry for the loss of a baby that anyone on here has had to go through.  My thoughts have been with everyone.....

Ash :)

 Ann, maybe this isn't the best place for you to be right now. There's a good site called nowisleep.com, it's a forum for people who have lost pregnancy's, infants, toddlers, etc. There is also a special section for those who have lost but are trying again. I understand your frustration, but it's not fair to ask everyone to "tone down their joy" For many, it's something that couldn't have happened before and it's such a joy to share! For others, it's a place to find encouragement that WLS can have such a positive affect on ones life. I feel your pain, I really do. But threatening to "crawl into a hole" is not positive, it's not helpful, and it's not nice. I don't really believe in a conventional god figure, but I hope that everything works out for you and you can find a better place mentally. A therapist really helps, I promise. Good luck and best wishes
                                                                                          -sky

Ann I have to echo what others have said.  (1) there is no way anyone here is intending to upset you - in fact, in my short time on this board I've seen nothing but a huge outpouring of support for you.

(2) When I was trying to get pregnant after my multiple miscarriages, I participated in an online forum - TTC after loss.  I didn't move to the "pregnancy" forum until I was in my second trimester, finally.  Perhaps there is a better place for you during this difficult time.

(3) This is a pregnancy forum after WLS.   I don't know where else I can go to celebrate with a group of people who understand my unique cir****tances.

I wake up every day praying I'm NOT going to have a miscarriage.  I know it's a solid 2 months before I can breathe fully - In fact, this is the only place I've allowed myself to celebrate, even a little.  I know every day that my time could be limited.  I know all too well the fear and the loss.  I have a tough time toning it down when it's the one place I'm allowing myself to NOT hold back.

I'm truly sorry you are hurting.  I think a hole is a bad idea - because that's just not reality.  But coming to a place where pregnancy is celebrated may be too much for you to deal with right now.  I hope beyond hope you can find a good place.   In the meantime, regardless of all our celebrating, we do feel for those who cannot do the same.

Sharon

Wow... you know Ann isnt the only person who feels this way?!?!?!

I do too! I'm sorry but the posts about not feeling good and being bloated and all that... ALL I CAN SAY IS...YOU'RE PREGNANT... I WOULD GIVE MY HEART, MY BODY TO BE PREGNANT... I know where Ann is coming from. I have miscarried. I still struggle every day. And lately its even worse... Mother's day sucked. But I have not posted anything about it because I didnt want to bring this board down...

I think I'm going to take a leave from the board... which I hate to do because I made some great friends.

Anyone is looking for me...I'm on face book.

I WAS NOT "COMPLAINING ABOUT BEING BLOATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Where the hell did that come from?  Oh my god!!!  I was EXCITED and I said that!!  Holy cow, this is insanity!!!

If you got that I was complaining then you need to stop looking to far into things.  Get off your high horse and realize no one is trying to hurt anyone!!!!!!  Most of us here have all struggled with miscarriages and such.  We have all been supportive of everyone.  Isn't getting pregnant the goal????????????  So why we do we have to hush???  NO! 

I completely agree and ttc forum is an awesome idea!!!!  That goes without saying!  they do have a pcos right?  I am not 100% sure though.

AS for Jen's post about not showing, that's your own prerogative, I showed a pic BECAUSE I couldn't believe that I was that puffed out.  I actually WAS AT THE OB and he told be that is because my uterine muscles are relaxing and any excess water or gas is going to show like that.  ESPECIALLY in a 3rd pregnancy.  Don't you tell me that is impossible, I have freaking pictures.

Well, I had to say my peace because this bothered me terribly all night.  If you know me at all, You know that I have ALWAYS been a kind, sensitive person.  I rain Campaigns for Cheri's fake breast cancer. ( and lost out on good money for that evil person.) I have sent smaller clothes to people who have lost weight faster than they can keep up.  I actually keep in touch with ladies on this board.  I have even sent various protein samples out of my own pocket to people that are having a hard time with getting their protein in.  I have ALWAYS been good to people.  How DARE you insinuate that I am being insensitive.  Get OVER IT!

That's it!   That's just effin it!   I'm done keeping my mouth shut.   Way to make Ann's post all about you and your feelings.  

Listen I get you are excited, I get it.  I'm pregnant too.  You think Ann's not excited for me?  BS, she is.  If you have had miscarriages then you should know where she's coming from at this very moment.  

She didn't personally call you out in this post, but it seems like you are making it your business to personally attack her and call her out.  I don't get it.  

You want to play one ups about how much charitable **** you have done for others?  WTF is that?  The point of charity is to just to, not to do and brag about it.   Who ran Cheri's paypal site?  That would be Ann.  Who lost the most when it comes to Cheri?  That would be ALL OF US!  We were all screwed over on that one.  I give clothing to people, I give money to people that are in need, I help out when it needs to be done.  Does that make me better than you?  NO!  

Yes, this is a post-op pregnancy board, but as we are all aware this is also a place where women who are TTC come.  Now that you are pregnant you are going to forget how that feels? 

People (and I'm not saying you personally Kelly) that are complaining about being bloated and complaining about morning sickness and needing to buy new clothing.....well that's a slap in face to Ann.   She would give her right arm to be pregnant and have everything that goes along with it.    And I get that people want to vent about the early pregnancy **** but there's a way to do it without throwing in in those who are TTC faces.  

You think I'm not excited about being pregnant?  You think I don't get that people want to shout it from rooftops, I get it.  Like I said, we know that his board, while it's technically titled pregnancy post-op, has all stages of the process.  

SHOW SOME DAMN COMPASSION.  THE GIRL IS HAVING A DAMN MISCARRIAGE AS WE SPEAK!