With all due respect ladies...

Ann,

My first response was to be upset but then I thought of how I would feel if I were in your shoes and honestly I admire you for even being on the board at all...I don't think I could handle it at all. I have no idea what it is like to lose a baby and God forbid I hope I never have to know what that is like. I am sorry for your pain. 

(((Hugs)))
~Flora

WOW!!!!!!!!!!

I am sorry that I am excited, I guess we should all just pretend to be miserable so that everyone else feels better???  Consider myself gone.  Sorry!  I thought this was a place to share everything both the joys and downfalls.  I guess now that it's mine and some other ladies' turn, that's not OK. 

This board is a pregnancy after weight loss SUPPORT board.  Are we supposed to disapear and only write or post if things are bad???  WTF, that seems a bit selfish to me. If all we ever saw was the bad side, who the hell would want to get pregnant in the first place????

I guess this just isn't the place I thought it was...Good luck to you all!

exactly what I was thinking.

with all due respect ann, I'm really sorry that you lost another baby.  I'm really sorry you lost ANY.  I've only lost one and it was just at 5 weeks and isn't even termed a miscarriage.  they called it a chemical pregnancy...and it sucked.

and I left the board I was on for a bit to gather myself and then came back...pregnant again.

I hope your heart can heal but I wouldn't crawl under a rock and pretend I wasn't expecting for my best friend...and I most certainly won't do it on a WLS support board.

I hope things get better for you.

WOW right back Kelly. This is a support board and some of us are choosing to support Ann. If you want to take your toys and run go right ahead but Ann and others have every right to say how they feel. She is in the process of losing her 4th baby and all of the people due at the same time are posting belly shots at not even 6 weeks pregnant. I have had 5 children and trust me that you do not show at 6 weeks or even 12 weeks.

I am really surprised that you can't have a little more understanding of Ann and try to tone it down a bit during this time for her. Of course you are happy you are pregnant but the posts about MS, cravings, belly shots ect at only 6 weeks are a bit premature.

you can have morning sickness at 6 weeks. I did with my daughter and with this one.  You can show at 6 weeks.  I've always been a fat ass when pregnant so I never did but just about every skinny gal I knew definatly had one at 12 weeks.

noone is trying to make her situation worse than it is.  its unfortunate and I do feel horribly for her.  but really...it is a pregnancy after wls board.  I expect to see things about pregnancy...good, bad, ugly. all of it.  

maybe I'm just mean?

All of the women posting today have every right to post what they want. Ann was strong enough to point out that it was very hurtful to her. At 6 weeks the baby is the size of a pea, it isn't the baby showing it is water and bloat.

I keep reading people say that this is a pregnancy after WLS board. Yes it is and Kelly has been posting here for years before her husband had his reversal AND before she got pregnant. I am not going to have any more but I have had 2 post WLS babies. We are all here in different stages and we should all be able to say when things are bothering us.

I just think it is better to say to Ann that you are sorry she is in pain then it is to get angry with her.

You are not mean at all. You are stating your opinion, that is all I am doing too. I am not trying to be mean but I am looking at this more objectively since I am not pregnant or trying to be as an observer of the tone the board took over the last few days.

yes the baby is that tiny but your uterus is the size of a plum.  maybe a lot of it is bloating and all that but why not celebrate what looks like a baby belly?

I havne't paid attention to the tone the board has taken over a few days.  I open threads I want to and dont  open those that I don't.  its not hard.

I have ALWAYS been supporting!!  We got Pregnancy pee stick posts EVERY DAY and honestly I was excited to see them because I knew, this is what she wanted and I was THRILLED for her.  ( I said that in my supporting posts!!!)  Never once have I ever rained on or requested that someone else rain on people's parade just because I was unhappy.

Regarding my picture, I  posted that I know its bloating...but it's still in the belly.  I never said that was the BABY!!!!!! 

Kelly,  I think you missed the point.  Ann wasn't upset with you or anyone in particular.  Just that there were a ton of posts today with belly shots.  Don't take it so personally.  If you re-read her post, she just asked that maybe they all go in one post instead of having 7 or 8 separate ones.  And not just for her, but all those who are having infertility problems.  It is one thing to be TTC, another to be TTC with fertility issues.  And we have both groups on the board along with the wonderful preggos.

I am sure it is hard for her and I don't think she wants to rain on parades.  I think she would leave the board if it got too bad.

Miscommunication can cause hurt feelings on all levels. 

Laurie

Sorry, the statement I referred to was in the post to Jackie (below the original.)  As I re-read the original, I was thinking, "Where did I see that?  I know I saw that!"

Laurie