Confused, Lost on Lower Body Lift scheduled for 02/13

Your wife will help you after your surgery. If not, then I would wonder why you were married in the first place. Tell your surgeon your wife will be your support. Do not tell him that everyone is against you (personally, that is none of his business). Tell your wife you are getting it done and that as your wife, she will have to take care of you.

I used my mom's electric, adjustable bed, which helped when I had to get in and out of bed, especially the first week. Many people rent electric recliners to help during recovery It can be hard getting in and out of a regular recliner immediately post-op). My mom helped me the first 3 days at home, but by day 5 I could get in and out of bed and change my own dressings and do everything myself.

I just want to thank everyone for replying and giving me advice.

But I will not being forward with the surgery.  I can not get my wife to get on the same page as me, and I just cant keep going, mentally I am drained.  

Again thanks for every ones support, if anything changes I will let you know.

So sorry!   Hopefully it will get better - please take care.  

"One side is saying you deserve go for it and the other is saying no just be happy with what you have done."

Both are true.  Be happy with what you have done.  AND   You deserve it.

The 'go for it' part is up to you.  In the end, its your body and your decision.

The more opinions you ask, the more opinions you will get.  This is a time for self reflection and appreciation of who you are so that you can make a decision that feels right to you.  For now, the answer is no.  In 8-12 months the answer might be hmmm, maybe. 

--Becca

Focus on keeping the weight off.   Start saving for PS - if you still don;t want it in a year - than use the cash for something else.  It is not a bad decision put PS on the back burner and to wait awhile.   Use moisturizer and see how look and feel in a year.  Personally, I had a face lift and an upper body lift.  I am SUPER happy that I had the Upper Body Lift.  I wish I had held off on the facial PS work. 

Is your wife overweight? Does she worry you are trying to attract other women and will leave her? I do think my boyfriend worried about that, but then understood that I wanted to do it for my own mental state.

Yes she is overweight, and she is struggling getting down, but she is making slow progress.  She got knocked of track after she suffered a back injury but the doctor is suppose to release her to start exercising again on the 20th, right now she isnt allowed to do anything.

She says she is not worried about me attracting other woman or me leaving her.  We have been married for almost 20 years and I told her I am not going anywhere.  I want to do this for myself.  When I started this 2 years ago I said when all was done I wanted to have all the skin removed.  So this was not a surprise to her when I said I am ready.  She was all excited at Christmas because the doctor was ready and while we were on vacation the last week something completely changed, she is dead set against it now.  She says she doesnt like the fact its a risky surgery.  Well every surgery is risky, heck life is risky, I could get hit by a bus on the way home.  I really have no answers, but something happened between Christmas and coming back from vacation.  

I have done everything she asked, she said would you at least see a personal trainer and see if they can help, so I said sure no problem, so I went with her and they were honest, they said he has to much skin, he would be able to tighten some if lucky but they said dont waste your money, because if it hasnt happened by now with me working out on my own, it isnt going to happen without surgery.

I say go for it. She's not going to leave you over this.  

I had a very long talk last night with her, which got heated at times.  Laid out the reasons on why I had to have this done, it was not for anyone else for but me.  To make me feel better.

She seems more open to it this morning than she did yesterday, we shall see.

Ok we are going for it!!!  She is 100% behind me now, signed the contract with the Doctor...  So 2/13 is the day... I dont know what changed her mind, but she said she will back me 100%