Very scared...need encouragment please

So I finally have a date, 6/24...problem is I had a little meltdown today and am now second guessing my decision. My boys are 5 & 7...all I could focus on was what if something goes wrong, my husband won't be able to take care of the kids without me...I can't leave my babies....is this typical or perhaps I need to postpone surgery? My other surgeries were pre-babies, now I am full of all these emotions I can't control, I just keep crying..help!

Sounds normal to me! I'm sure you were also nervous before weight-loss surgery (although I did not notice if you had one).
Most ppl are scared/worried/freaked before any surgery that Gd Forbid something might happen to them and who will watch their children.
I tend to not be nervous until the day before when it will really happen as I live in Israel where the health care system is similar to UK and until I have my HMO approval I have no reason to be scared-yet.
You could postpone but you have plenty of time between now and then to build up your protein and strength as well as prepare meals and freeze for you and your family for when you recover. Teach your husband how to run the washing machine and where clean laundry goes. Write up a schedule for the kids that is easy to follow:chores, activities or camp, carpools.
You need to take care of you after your weight-loss journey.
Mikimi in Israel

Yes, what you are feeling is perfectly normal. I'm sure you chose your surgeon well. You deserve this to feel whole again. There are risks in any surgery, but if you are healthy, there is a 99% chance you will be fine. Try to relax!!

Honestly, I was so excited for my plastic surgery, I did not worry too much about the risks and should have. I am a single mom with no baby daddy so it really is just me. My kids were 6 and 8 when I had my plastics. My mental health was in a shambles due to the skin. I had to get rid of it. I would do it again in a heartbeat.

Yes, completely normal.  I didn't have my meltdown until the day before the surgery, but it was everything you are thinking  and I had tears just streaming down my face.  It was the closest I think I ever came to a panic attack. And I don't have kids, so I'm sure your worries are even more intense. 

 

The reality is something horrible OR great can happen each day - it's just that we don't often invite this much risk as we do with elective surgery.  But 99.9% of the time, everything works out fine - and that works both for the horrible and the great.  I didn't win Powerball, so nothing great, but I also recovered just fine, so nothing horrible. Ok, that may be just my weird way of thinking, but it helped me. 

 

The best thing you can do is focus on getting your body ready by keeping up with your protein and vitamins, stopping smoking/drinking (if you do), etc.  Just let the emotions happen to get them out and then focus on a positive outcome.

 

 

I postponed mine for a very long time. Now that I have had a TT, I wonder why I waited so long.

If you have a compassionate surgeon, discuss your concerns with him or her. I have a fear of anesthesia. I discussed it with my surgeon and he was very understanding and reassuring. The day of my surgery, I also discussed my fear with the anesthesiologist herself. Again, she was compassionate and allayed my fears.

Yes, it is normal to worry. Try to replace those negative thoughts with images of yourself looking wonderful in a bathing suit.

Good luck!

Yes, it's normal, I'm sure! 

I went to pay the money yesterday on my plastics, and my stomach was all knotted, and I felt like a panic attack coming on, or that I might throw up! Then there was a long line, so I just left.

Today, I paid, and my nerves were not near as bad, and I feel more excited today than yesterday. I think it is just a roller coaster. One day, I'm happy, one day, I'm freaking out! Sometimes, I feel sure of the decision, other times, it's like this is crazy to do.

When I went through my VSG, I was surprisingly calm throughout everything and never had jitters, only a slight nervousness, as they prepped me and wheeled me away. I don't know why this time is so different, it just is. 

 

Hi friend! My surgery is also on June 24th and my kids are 5 and 8. I'm scared to death as well. Feel free to PM me, funny how our worries set in at the same time :)