Freaking out now that it is time to pay everyone

Did anyone else start to freak out when you realized this was really happening. I'm starting to really freak out. I know that realistically I'm probably not going to lose any more weight. I've been at 170 for about 10 months now. I really wanted to get to 150 but I just can't seem to get there. My husband is also not supportive and I know that anytime there is an issue in the future he is going to throw this in my face. I'm also scared. What if I do this and lose control and gain my weight back. . I feel like if I have the plastics I've giving up and saying that I'm never going to reach goal. I also can't justify the money. I'm being the surgey as a gift. It is not in my budget. I've got three kids that need braces that I can't get them and am short on tuition this month. I feel really guilty doing this but the person giving me the surgey said they wanted to do this for me and the money would only be given for my surgery and nothing else. Did anyone else have these feelings and how do you get around them and not feel guilty?

Yes, I think many of us have these same feelings. I too did not lose all the weight I wanted to, and I even just said to my bariatric coordinator that I felt like going for plastics was like admitting that I was done losing weight. But the fact of the matter is, much of this skin is causing me so much pain that it is interfering with my ability to be physically active. I don’t want it to be the reason I don’t lose more or can’t maintain my weight.

And the money side is feeling more stressful as I keep getting more and more quotes and decide I want more work done. I am lucky in the respect that I am single and have no children, but I am single, so I am the only source of income in my household and feel the pressure.   

But its time to take care of YOU. We have both worked very hard to lose this much weight and will continue to work hard. When I was heavier, I felt physically deformed. Now with all the extra skin, I still feel deformed and cannot accept all the compliments from people on my accomplishment. I need this reconstructive surgery so that I finally feel good about the weight that I worked so hard to lose. Help with my body image is priceless to me.   

I hope that helps some, and good luck!  

I agree with Angela's post. You're being given this gift?? Honey, I'd jump on it. I don't understand why your husband isn't supportive..it's not like you're using your money and the family is going without finances to cover the procedures. Do what you feel is right for you. And hey, if you decide not to use the gift, send them my way and I'll be their best friend for life..lol.

Oh man, freaking out is normal. Not getting to that goal weight that you
set for yourself is normal.
I had huge bat wings, I was made fun of by the staff at a local vitamin place,
I felt so embarrased by my arms that I would wear a sweater even in this
heat wave! My husband and I dont have a disposable income. I need to work
to help pay normal household expenses. I could not have done this without
his full support. He saw how upset I got over my arms, he was there when
those employees made fun of my arms. We had to do this. So we did.
I am not saying that it is easy but I am a better person now. I actually wear tank tops
and I have been more involved with my kids in just these last couple of weeks.
My coworkers have commented on how the heck could getting extra skin
removed change my attitude toward life. Well it has. My extra skin held me back,
and now I am free. Your family will understand, eventually. Your husband needs
to just suck it up and make you feel like you are the most precious thing he
has ever seen. The fact that surgery is a gift? Go for it. Gifts like this dont come
along everyday, also the fact that there are people on this site who would love
that opportunity.
 
Go For It!!!

Dani

Definitely. I am a single mom of 2 with no baby daddy so I am the only breadwinner. But I had to do it for my mental health. I had huge reservations, but honestly a year later, I am so thankful I went through with it.

I'm sorry your husband is not supportive. What is his reasoning?? My boyfriend did not want me to have surgery, but it was because he loved me regardless of the skin and was worried about me having surgery. Afterwards when he saw how much more at peace I am with myself, he admitted I made the right choice.

 Everybody has second and third thoughts of what am I doing?  I had WLS surgery to save my life but PS surgery is more like vanity.  Sometimes PS surgery saves your mental state.  We work so hard to get to a place that we can enjoy our new found freedom only to find that we are still chain to it in excess skin.  I always said that I would be grateful just to have the weight off but the skin weighed just as heavy on my mind and heart as the weight did on my body.  My husband was fine the way I looked but I knew under my clothes a fat woman was still there hiding.  I borrowed from the equity in my home to pay for my TT surgery.  Sure, I could definitely use a newer car but I think I will drive this newer body instead.

 I say go for it!  But I want to comment on the weight loss portion.

When I had my plastics in Decmber, there was a woman there at the same time.  She had her plastics at 173.  I think she thought she was done losing.  I believe she is 5'4" like me.  I recently saw othere OH page that the plastics somehow jump started her body into losing again and she is currently at 125.  Stranger things have happened. I wi**** had happened to me!  

You never know what your story will be!

That's hopeful to know. I'm 5'4 and currently at 170. Would really like to be at 145 or less but just can't seem to get there. Maybe I'll be one of the lucky ones and the plastics will jump start me again.

 She has a DS as well.

Where to start: in Jewish Law/Custom, if someone gives you money/charity to be used only for a specific thing then you cannot use said money for any thing else! Maybe your hubby is "jealous" that someone gave you this gift and he could not? As fir other familial financial needs-too bad for once given a gift for use for only one thing you need not feel at all guilty for receiving it abd using said money for whst it is being given! What a gift and blessing!
I am short but started at 270/120K and am now 170/77K. Three Kilo were removed during my TT almost a year ago and since then I lost 2-3K.
You deserve to do for YOU. Plastics is not cosmetic or vanity but reconstructive and a form of closure to out weight-loss.
Now thst I have just given a synopsis of everyone else-internalize it!
Mikimi in Israel