Celebrities & Extreme Plastics - Epiphany

Love your attitude Kim!!

Thanks shuga!  Have a great day.  I'm gonna friend you-you are a wealth of knowledge for what I have coming up!

Kim, thank you for your response!  I totally did this for me and am very happy with how I look.  I can just say having gone through this experience now, there is a lot to be said for the emotional roller coaster that I've experienced.

It is very hard to think of yourself in a good way if people never validate you or tell you that your reality or perspective is not what they see.

I definitely don't want to attract people for my looks, but I think it will help me with my options.  I'm also working very hard on making internal changes as I've received a good deal of feedback that I come across as *****y, unapproachable and too dominant.

This comes from growing up in a rough neighborhood and developing it as a survival mechanism.  I'm working on softening my mannerisms, smiling more, working on my body language, etc.  I'm not dating right now because I know I need to work on these things before I can be successful.

I lack self confidence externally; inside I really am happy with myself, but I just don't get that externally.  So when men make eye contact I turn away because I don't think they would be interested in me.  I'm working on changing that; smiling more, approaching people, etc.  Part of my "training" will be going to bars and clubs by myself, and making a point to talk to as many strangers as I can each day.  Practice makes perfect!

It was very hard to hear that people saw me this way, because inside I love people, I'm thinking great thoughts about people, etc. But even my closest friends say if they didn't know me, first, usually meeting me online, they wouldn't have talked to me.

This is why I think it's important to be open to feedback and get a reality check from friends and others.  It's painful but I think necessary for my growth.

I think you are lucky that you are so self confident and projecting the right things.  I'm finding I have to relearn these things after the tough upbringing I had. But I'm glad I have a direction now.  Thanks for letting me share and the feedback!

Hugs!

You are so on the right track!  FYI-I had to take "tact and finesse" training to learn how to deliver news with some "cream and sugar".....the most important step in changing is wanting it...you are going to be successful for sure and I wish you great things to come!

Some people may not mention it cause they r jealous or because they look
At u for u not at ur nose. I don't care if people notice my plastics cause I didn't do it for them it is for ME. An u want subtle changes not something that changes ur look to much talk about celebrities look at Dolly Parton she looked totally fake and carrot top he looks horrible. Some girls get their breasts do big they scream fake. I never had my breasts done cause I don't care how good the Dr. Is if u show some cleavage an d have your breasts out especially in a bathing suit I can tell, cause in the middle they r perfectly round.

Check out ur before n after pictures if u really need to see the difference
Or post some real pictures and we will tell u.
Susan

I have friends that I know are jealous because they tell me so; but they are loving about it and truly happy for me.  Having experienced that emotions of loving jealousy, I totally get it.  I am definitely posting more pictures once I'm a little more healed; I would love to get some opinions! Hugs

I dont have any PS yet, but I totally get what you are saying. Im already thinking it and Im only in the saving for it stage.

My legs were always my best feature. If I take care of the upper body..I may be facing disapointment with my legs. If Im all good from the neck down, Im going to want my face to not sag. I can see it becoming a real mind game.

As for the dating...I know its hard. Believe me. Reading your earlier response really rings a bell with me.

Yes!  I see you get what I'm saying.  It can be a real mind game, and it's hard to describe unless you've done it already.  It's like having kids.. you don't get until you've done it. 

When I had my son I had no idea what unconditional love was.  I would die for him, without hesitation.  I never knew what it was like to love someone so much until I saw his little face.. actually before he was even born. 

I had some complications when he was born and told his father that if it came down to him or me, before I went into surgery, that I wanted HIM to live. I could never know or understand what that unconditional love was like until I experienced it. Anyways I digress. 

You are ahead of the game if you already see this before you have even had the experience.  I'm not sure how to handle this all, but it's cathartic to even be able to share it, and maybe you'll get a chance to prepare mentally before hand. 

The best advice I can give, is try to stop yourself from fantasizing, if you can, that you are going to be a different person, that everybody will notice and it will fix everything.  I wish I had not fantasized so much, especially with doing so much at once, because it only led to my bubble being burst.  Ouch!

 Yes.. and the dating thing.. wow! I've got a lot to fix.. sometimes it's overwhelming!  Years of cocooning myself from the pain of rejection and the tough exterior I built.. all deadly for a successful relationship. Ugh!

Thank you for your honesty and sharing your journey. It definitely gives me some things to think about. It sounds like a roller coaster of emotions.



Gail

It has definitely been a roller coaster for me, as well as many I know. There may be ways to prepare, so I bet it's worth looking into. Like I said before, the biggest thing I wish I had done is not fantasize about life after surgery. I'm still me, flaws and all. If you can keep it real, I think it helps immensely! Hugs to you Gail!