Want Ps cant afford PS

Well, i have been wanting my ps for about a two years now, i was working untill feb 2011. And when i was working and had not become a mother got prego oct 2010 had baby july 2011. I could have had the ps done. I had the money in my retirement to do it with. andi could have went out of the country (mexico) to get it done. But i kept putting it off due to what people would say when i had the plastic surgery done. I was feeling ashamed for wanting to be my best. to look my best. i was feeling as if i was being very vain and should be happy with how i looked currently. I would look at clothes and pants and just feel bad. Phrases like these kept creeping up in my mind. " I am only in a size 14 cause of the over hang of skin and residual fat that was left. I am only in an 1x or xl or 2x due to the fact that i dont like my shirts to cling and show my fat rolls and left over skin. I was happy but sad at the same time. i wanted to be sexier.. I wanted to rock high heels on court days and show off a new trim curvy physique. I wanted fat grafting to my derrier due to i lost it all when i had the wls. And i wanted to be able to show it off. Is this wrong of me wanting to finally feel pretty and beautiful something i didnt feel all through out highschool and college? The regret of being able to do the ps and not getting it done when i had the money ( had to use retirment to live off and for medical for baby untill she got here.) Any Suggestions? Open to constructive criticism.

It's not wrong to feel that way I think we all do. I've not had any negative reaction to my plastics because most people who know me (my very conservative family as well) know it really wasn't vanity but medically necessary to get the skin removed. The bonus is looking better but the skin was the major thing. All I have to say now is just start saving as much as you can to see if you can save to have it done. Also document every issue you have w/ the skin so maybe you can get some covered when you have insurance (not sure if you said you've gone back to work or not)

I have very strong feelings of feeling like a fraud and fake and inauthentic having plastic surgery. I've always hated superficiality and the fact that the beautiful people of this world have stuff handed to them that in my opinion they often don't deserve while good, smart, hard-working, honest people get overlooked.

Now I'm not only getting a lower body lift, but a boob job, nose job and I just got chin lipo. All of those are entirely cosmetic. While I still am struggling with this feeling of ambivalence, I have reconciled those feelings somewhat by realizing that the world is what it is, and I can either fight it or take advantage of it.

While I will inwardly always hate this part of the world, I will use all of the advantages I can to live a life with those advantages. Hence I have accepted that conforming and following the reality of society will only give me peace.

What you resist persists, and I am done resisting. I'm still struggling with it but I have come to a place of more acceptance than I've had before. Right now I avoid a lot of social situations because I still have a lot of anger and resentment about the way I'm treated that I'm working through.

Hi there.... I know what exactly you mean... I have been wanting plastic surgery for the last about 6 years now and didnt do it when I had the money then with deaths in the family leaving my ex fiance and then finding out I was pregnant totally threw it all off... I had my daughter April 2009 finally now I am able to put a little back each month and build my credit until its time (im hoping the end of this year or early next year)... Keep your head up... keep working towards it and eventually you will get there...

There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to make yourself happy and if plastic surgery will do it for you, then go for it!  I had the same feelings to and finally decided that I am 47 years old, it is time to put ME first for a change.  Everyone in my life has always come first - its my turn now.  I am very open about what I was having done, so everyone at work knows why I am off work.  I don't really care - I do get comments, but ultimately, I have to be happy.  I want to fit better in my pants and not have to wear a bigger shirt to cover the muffin top that explodes out of the top of my pants from the excess skin.  I want to be able to buy a bra that fits.  I want to wear a cute little sundress without worrying about bat wings.  I am at peace with my decision....

Allison

hi there, there is nothing wrong if you want plastics. Congrats on the baby! Do you have insurance? reason is alot of them will pay for some procedures you've lost over 100 pounds. I would go for a cpnsult just to see what they work out. Even though they dont pay for it all some of it is better then nothing, Good luck!

Hello all thank you for the support on this it means a whole lot. Well since the birth of my daughter my weight has gone up as of yesterday at the gyn i found out i am at 242.. ( help me lord jesus uhh) but this is due to me not working and slight depression, i a so about to get my walk on when the weather gets better and i can take the baby out .. I am not at work i have not been able to find work due to being terminated. but i am going tomorrow with my tax refund to speak with an attorney to see if i have a case i think i do i have no idea what the attorney will tell me.  But i i have a case i am definatley going to fight them. I want to be paid for the year that i was out of work. Because i told them i was prego in dec 2010 gave them a letter from my doc who put me onlight duty due to solmenence and for all that dont know me I was a intermediate probation parole officer for the state i reside in. so my job kept me active i kept my weight at 210 215 due to having to run up and down stairs doing home checks on criminals and such making sure they were abiding by their probation. and plus carrying a smith and wesson 40 calb gun a bullet proof vest combat boots i kept in shape i was comfy with my 210.. but heck 20 lbs of it was the freaking skin, the weight crept up with the baby and then being out of work.. and going through alot of depression. Should i fight shouldnt i fight what to do? I dont know what can be done at this point o took pics of my self naked with my cell at the doc's office. so i will try to do some online consultations to find a good price. i was thinking maybe doctor bitar in virginia  http://www.drbitar.com/price-menu.php  you gotta love a doc that tells you the price of everything right up front but i have been on make me heal.com and seen the amazing results of medical tourism in mexico, any suggestions on docs over there please post... any more questions you have please respond. i would love to regain old friends and meet new ones on here. I am about to order me some more unjury unflavored ( yum)  protien. I would mix this with a pack of carnation instant breakfast and 2 percent milk and use a tablespoon of agave syrup for sweetner 2 shakes a day normally snacks or breakfast.. lost good weight on this. By the way.. i am one of those wls patients that cant do artifical sweetners i am allergic to them. ( anaphalix shock aka dead by constricting nasal and throat passages no air in no air out) so i have to do sugar. I want to try truvia but kinda scared. help if anyone knows about this and have some ideas... thanks all

You'll be able to take that regain off.  I had a 45 pound regain that I was able to re-lose this year just be getting back to basics.  I got a lot of support on the OH boards.  I figure I'm ready to look into plastic surgery now.  About the vanity thing.  Yup, I want to look better, but I consider this "reconstructive" surgery rather than cosmetic surgery.  Our bodies have gone through some pretty drastic changes!

thank you JIll, I like that "reconstructive surgery" meaning that it is medically necessary for me to have this to keep future issues from developing. Perfect

I think a lot of us struggle with our mindsets as we move from obesity to normal weight, and part of that is fitting into a traditional ideal of what's attractive and sexy. We go from ill-fitting and shapeless clothes to clothes that show off our shape, even clothes that show off some skin, and it takes awhile to get used to being able to do that. I've been very lucky in that my friends and family have been so supportive with my weight loss and future goals for plastics, but I still have my moments where I wonder if people are going to think I'm silly for "trying" to look good.

It's only natural to worry about these things, but try to remind yourself that you are worth these things, and that you deserve them too. Good luck!