Sex appeal...something you have or something you do??
This leads me to my question: Do you think that sex appeal is something you have naturally or is it something you try to do? Or do you think it can be some of both?
I'd hate to think I am unknowingly putting out some sort of vibe that is perceived as some sort of come on, least of all in the presence of someone's wife!!
So do tell--what do you think?
Thanks!
Denise
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I think is a combination of confidence, the way you dress, and groom yourself.I work in a very conservative office.. where they measure the length of skirts, dont allow sleeveless shirts or low cut shirts at all.. no sex appeal going on there.. no transparent anything.. no tattoos are allowed.. no distracting jewelry.. you would think I worked with Nuns..
However,during our Christmas party.. I really dressed up. Most people I worked with had no idea how sassy I could look.. when I walked around ..my good friends stopped me and told me how hot I looked.. it was a real boost to my self esteem..
I wore a floor length gown, high heels, and all the right supportive garments..
Personally, I'm not shooting for perfect. The improvements I've made in my health and appearance are incredible. I'm happy with who I am and there is no doubt I project it in my demeanor and carriage (despite the "I've had my stomach muscles tightened" hunch).
Your confidence makes you sexy! Now ... YOU'RE SEXY AND YOU KNOW IT!
(sorry, I couldn't resist the pop culture reference).
Kay
I think there is definitely something about how someone carries themselves when they have a strong sense of self confidence--shoulders back, head a little higher--not shrinking into the background. I think the joy you speak of is something that is very much in play with me. One thing I've heard so often since my surgeries is that my smile exudes pure joy, and so often now I am truly joyful. Whether or not that translates into sexy is not something I'd put much thought into, but whatever it translates to, I'm not willing to change a thing, so if the worst thing I am perceived as is being sexy (although I don't think I'll ever believe it!), then I'll take it! LOL!
Thanks!
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
Start weight: 388, Current Weight: 185, Goal Weight: 180, Weight Lost: 203 lbs
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Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.
RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
On a side note...I feel so sorry for the guy's wife. It is a sad existence for any woman to be married to a man who is that type of womanizer. I'm certain they cannot go anywhere in public without him constantly scanning the environment. Guys like that always send back messages..."you are not enough." Maybe one day she'll realize she is worth more and deserves better than that.